My heart goes out to Meghan who is grieving so hard.

[mfcorey1]

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[HipChick]

1. Mine too...

how could a person with a heart not?

[CurtEastPoint]

3. Please explain.

[moriah]

4. Likely this is/was on TV...

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/congress/cindy-mccain-kisses-husband-s-casket-arizona-service-daughter-meghan-n904806

[fleur-de-lisa]

5. Who is Megha and why is he/she grieving?

[CurtEastPoint]

13. That is my question. Megha?

[mfcorey1]

15. IDK!!

[asiliveandbreathe]

6. I remember when my dad died..it goes to the heart...that was twenty years ago -

Today I remember my dad for his calmness - his strong work ethic - I can appreciate how Meghan feels today...

[monmouth4]

7. She's a bit over the top IMO, even Cindy was giving her "the look." She needs to pull herself

together like adults do.

[Tucker08087]

8. She clearly can't.

She probably had been until something kicked in today. MANY people are medicated before services. And the whole world isn’t watching. I’m thinking that if they realized her level of hysteria (and I don’t mean any negative connotation there-simply a loss of emotional control), they would have medicated her beforehand. Or she turned it down, trying to be brave, and simply couldn’t do it. I have a relative who can’t do funerals. The overwhelming grief of others breaks her every time. I’m the stiff upper lip sort, which is why I’m often asked to speak. Then I’ll be sick for days later. One way or another, you can’t hide from grief. She’s young. It may be her first great loss.

[Frustratedlady]

30. I've always said I could walk off the street into a stranger's funeral and cry.

Same with most weddings. Otherwise, I have total control. Go figure.

Meghan was pretty close to her dad. Even if you know death is close, you are never truly prepared. Give her some space and let her grieve in her own way. She is an emotional person and I'm sure her thoughts are other places than public appearance. She is still "with her dad" and will be for a while. We all handle grief in different ways and in different timeframes. Let her handle it in her own way.

[LanternWaste]

9. Right. It's important we instruct people how to act in case of family death.

It must be done professionally and without passion.

[MoonRiver]

26. Exactly. Do not reveal the level of profound grief you feel from loss of a loved one.

After all, there's a time and a place....oh, wait.

[John Fante]

29. IKR? Grieving is so beta.

[Docreed2003]

40. Really?

I was 30 and a physician and I cried like a damn baby when my father, my best friend, died. I certainly showed "passion" when I delivered his eulogy!

[john657]

45. I think LanternWaste forgot the sarcasm smilie. N//t

[Docreed2003]

46. I think you're probably correct

I let my own emotions shroud my sarcasm meter...

[john657]

57. Meh.

we all do at one time or another.

[nolabear]

10. Jesus. We're grief patrolling now?

You have a very limited view of “acceptable” displays of grief. I feel sad for her. She’s lost someone she clearly loved very much. Let her be.

[HipChick]

11. JFC...yes...Let her be...I attended a funeral..4 sons

over 6ft tall, built like rugby players, were crying and heaving ....all I could do is supply them tissues...Let her be for gawdness sake

[nolabear]

12. I had a friend who attended someone's wake where the family was very stoic

but the next door neighbor and good friend of the deceased, an African immigrant, showed up and collapsed in a heap, crying out his name and wailing about his agony that his friend was gone. She said some of the guests were very uncomfortable, but the family and other guests felt he reflected what they were feeling even if they’d had it trained out of them.

I was incensed at the minister at my father’s funeral (and he was an officiate-my father didn’t go to church) complimenting the family on not “carrying on the way some people do.” Bastard. That’s a lousy misuse of his profession and role.

“Rage, rage against the dying of the light’”

[GreenEyedLefty]

20. When my father in law died I was the only one who cried at his funeral.

My husband and the rest of the family were stoic. I was going through the tissues. What can I say, I loved the guy.

That said, DH went to bed after work for a couple of weeks. Grief takes all forms.

[mfcorey1]

16. I agree! What is decorum for grief supposed to be? It is better to release it than holding

it in.

[Norbert]

47. She needs to be left to grieve.

People grieve in different ways. I'm not so sure she isn't better off letting it out.

And yes. My heart goes out to her as well. It isn't easy losing a parent. I, for one, know what she is going through.

[Hassin Bin Sober]

55. Yep. She'll go back to being her regularly scheduled asshole self next week.

I can wait till then to still hate her.

[Blue_true]

22. I saw a picture with arteries in her neck swelling.

She is grieving big. It looks very real to me and only she has her reasons.

[ADX]

31. You can't be fucking serious...

...This woman is obviously distraught over the death of her beloved father; who are you to suggest how she should or should not express her grief?

For fucks sake...

[john657]

34. What you said.

[wasupaloopa]

38. Why?

[EffieBlack]

56. How can you judge that someone else's grief is "over the top?"

And since I don’t think you’re an intimate of Cindy McCain and her family, I doubt any of us is any position to interpret her expression vis a vis her daughter.

Good Lord - Meghan McCain’s beloved father just died, her heart is obviously broken and she must grieve in front of the world. It’s not her responsibility to “pull herself together.” If that child wants to fall out on the floor and wail at the top of her lungs for her beloved father, that’s her own damned business and it’s not up to any of us to judge or criticize her.

[jalan48]

14. Yes, she's taking it very hard.

[Mosby]

18. I don't like her at all but I'm not going to judge her

Other than to say it is a little different when you know your loved one is terminally ill, it's not like it was a car accident or something, she had time to prepare.

Regardless, people deal with grief differently.

When I found out about my dad's terminal cancer I cried like a baby, but after his death (same with Mom) I had a lot to do and didn't have time for grieving.

[jalan48]

19. I think she was just overwhelmed in the moment. It happened to me at a friend's funeral.

[Rorey]

53. Planning the funeral is a big distraction

I don't know if it helps or hinders. The grief is going to happen. I guess sometimes it's good to have that distraction so we can take breaks from our overwhelming emotions.

I remember when my husband died, I was so involved in everything because I had to be. The rest of his family weren't able, I suppose. Then right before the service I started panicking, kind of like i would do if I was throwing a party. I started worrying that nobody would come. Silly me.

[oberliner]

17. What about Bridget?

[nolabear]

21. She seemed kind of lost. That's how some respond too.

The other daughter-Sydney?-was stoic but looked worn out. The men seemed to favor militarylike comportment. People are just different, aren’t they? They’re going to have a long week.

[yallerdawg]

23. You know, that first death of a parent...

is when we personally touch our own mortality - and feel the reality of it.

I can see how this is such a traumatic event to her. I feel my own pain.

[WillowTree]

37. Hit me hardest the second time around.

When Mom died, I felt as if there could never be anything more lonely. And then I lost my Father and it damned near broke me. Then again, I was a total Daddy's Girl my whole life, so that had a lot to do with it, too.

[gopiscrap]

44. it happened to me when I was 7

[MontanaMama]

51. Oh geez.

I’m really sorry.

[gopiscrap]

59. Thanks it's was pretty dramatic

my dad died because of injuries sustained while fighting in vietnam he died one week before Christmas when I was 7 years old

[peggysue2]

24. The video I watched of the family was . . .

very emotional. Cindy McCain placed her cheek against the coffin and Meghan was completely undone. The whole family looks crushed by McCain's death. We don't have to agree on the family's' politics but one thing is perfectly clear: McCain was well loved. Grief and loss are universal, something we all ultimately experience. It's hard not to respond and feel real empathy for this family.

[MoonRiver]

25. Yes, I saw her crying at the funeral.

So sad.

[Bettie]

27. From all appearances, she loved him very much

and he was a good dad.

I feel sympathy for her.

[RandySF]

28. I don't care how wealthy the McCains are, traveling for a funeral sucks.

[Soxfan58]

32. My heart goes out too the whole family.

[nocoincidences]

33. Grieving the death of a loved one, knowing they are gone, day after day...

You think that their
dying is the worst
thing that could happen.

Then they stay dead.

Donald Hall, from Distressed Haiku

[Tucker08087]

35. So true.

It changes with time, but the scars never heal. Beautifully expressed.

[demtenjeep]

49. and yet pigs like dotard still live

where is the karma?

[helpisontheway]

36. My issue with her is that Trump treated her father like dirt

(even after he was diagnosed with terminal cancer) then she takes up for Trump on The View. I will admit that I don’t watch The View daily but have witnessed her defending Trump several times.

[blueinredohio]

39. My feelings exactly

[marlakay]

41. I watch the view

She rarely agrees with Trump but is more conservative than she used to be because of her new husband. He is more conservative than her and has influenced her a lot.

I can tell she loves her dad like I did, this brings up feelings I had after my dad died. The pic she gave him of the two of them sitting and talking reminds me of how close me and my dad were.

[tosh]

50. Yes, the father-daughter bond can be a strong one.

Some of us are fortunate to have (had) that. I had that with my dad and I could see after McCain’s diagnosis that Meghan did too. Her grief will be long and hard.

[highplainsdem]

42. Mine, too - to her and the entire family.

[Evergreen Emerald]

43. ...

[demtenjeep]

48. I lost my daddy when I was 30. He died on his official retirement day of leukemia

He was diagnosed Dec 31 in 1996 and died March 31 1997 Exactly 3 months from diagnosed to deceased.

I took it incredibly hard. My youngest child was 4 and also took it hard. She was Grandpas girl.

Losing a parent is extremely gut wrenching. Even though it has been 20+ years it still sometimes feels like yesterday.


It will take her a while to even be able to smile.


I think she is a RW lunatic but I am one with her grief.

[Rorey]

52. It was pretty heartbreaking

I'm stoic in public. I lose it when I'm by myself.

I didn't cry a single tear at my previous husband's memorial service, just as I hadn't cried a tear at his bedside when he was in the ICU for 9 days. I did some pretty major falling apart in the hospital chapel the night before he died. After the shock of his death wore off, I had regular middle-of-the-night sobbing sessions for a long, long time.

We each handle things in our own way, and I'd never judge someone's grief. I wish Ben had gotten up and pulled his chair over to her and hugged her. I suppose there was protocol, but maybe it would have helped her.

[EffieBlack]

54. Her raw grief really touched my heart.

[Upthevibe]

58. My heart goes out to the whole family and Meghan......