You can't prevent your picture from being all over Facebook simply by not being a member.

[pnwmom]

Even if you're not a member, your picture trying on your wedding gown can be posted all over FB by an elderly relative -- who IS on Facebook -- who took the photo and thinks it's cute. That elderly relative can even put that photo of you, in your wedding gown, on FB days BEFORE your wedding. And give it a "public" setting. But that elderly relative, even when contacted, might not know how to remove it.

BUT if you ARE on FB, and you see that young relative's photo in your newsfeed, you can quickly notify the bride's mother so SHE can get the elderly relative to hand the cell phone over so a more Facebook savvy relative can DELETE the thing.

Just so you know . . . . not being a member of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, etc., doesn't prevent your stuff from being plastered all over it. If you want to preserve your privacy, you should talk to your family members and friends about your wishes. Otherwise, they will do what they will do.

[yonder]

1. Good to know, thanks.

I don't use any of that stuff and try to be at least somewhat aware of privacy issues. The wedding gown example is good because we have a son who's getting married in a couple of months. I do believe I'll be passing this on to both of them.

[pnwmom]

2. I was pretty shocked!

The older woman who posted the photo (which WAS very cute) just wasn't thinking. I happened to see it within minutes, so I asked her nicely if she was sure it should stay posted (what bride wants a photo of herself on FB in her wedding gown BEFORE the wedding?) and she asked me how to take it down.

I posted an answer but she didn't seem to understand what I had said. The aunt of the bride couldn't figure out how to remove it, either. Finally a cousin was able to delete it! Phew!

[Oneironaut]

3. And, "deleting" something from Facebook probably doesn't remove it from Facebook servers.

Once it’s up there, it’s up there for eternity. The own the image - they can do whatever they want with it, including selling it.

[Grammy23]

4. My great grandson was born yesterday and naturally there were lots of pictures

Before he was born and many made in the minutes and hours after his arrival. We shared a lot of pictures back and forth. (We were 250 miles away.) Some were on Messenger but none on our regular Facebook pages. My son asked us to not post any pictures on FB until the baby’s parents had the chance to announce his arrival and post pictures first. And we all honored their wishes to allow them to post what they wanted posted first. It really is a good idea to find out the wishes of the parties involved. Once they posted what they wanted to say and post they gave the go ahead to others.

P.S. He is a beautiful baby boy, but I am not biased in any way. Ahem.....