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From the BBC.
http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart
"Two male colleagues recently asked me, unprompted, How do I know if Im mansplaining? Both are experts who are often asked to explain concepts to colleagues outside their fields. Both were concerned about those explanations being taken the wrong way. I wondered: Is it really so hard to tell the difference between condescending or simply explaining-while-male?
When people (almost always men) explain the product design methods in my own book to me, I say Im well-acquainted with them, mentally roll my eyes, and move on. I hadnt developed a succinct explanation for what distinguishes mansplaining, so I spent a few minutes drafting a diagram, as I often do to examine or explain ideas in my work. I realised the -splaining part comes down to three factors:
Do they want the explanation? If someone asks you a question, explain away! Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if youre someones teacher or manager. Explaining after theyve declined your help is almost always disrespectful. Conversation is a good place to start building the habit of consent.
Are you making bad assumptions about competence? Explaining things to knowledgeable people isnt just wasting everyones time. You may, regardless of your intent, undermine them by implying you dont trust their competence or intelligence. You also run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge.
How does bias affect your interpretation of the above? Both questions are complicated by sexism and other kinds of bias. Were all taught gender bias in behavior and communication from an early age, with boys and girls being criticised and praised for different behaviors in school. We all like to think we treat people fairly, but men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence."
tonedevil
(3,022 posts)lapucelle
(18,305 posts)https://www.guernicamag.com/rebecca-solnit-men-explain-things-to-me/
hughee99
(16,113 posts)If she did not ask you to explain it, and you did not ask her if she wanted you to explain it (and she said yes), it's mansplaining. It doesn't really matter who has more experience, whether it's information she'd be expected to know or anything else, if she didn't ask for it, it's mansplaining.
msongs
(67,433 posts)central scrutinizer
(11,659 posts)From a well, ... actually