I've been married thirty years as of tomorrow. In all that time, gays never threatened me.

[Atman]

My wife and I never once sat down to discuss what would happen if the gay got the same civil rights we did.

In thirty years, it just never came up. "What about the gays?! It might threaten our marriage! What will we do if "they" marry?

I've attended two legal, real gay weddings in the passed couple of years. My wife and have never discussed divorcing because of the crazy lezbo weddings and how they threatened us.

I'm sensing deep homophobic bullshit here.

.

[Borchkins]

1. 11 years for me

and not once was I threatened by the gays. It's deep homophobic cowshit around here.

[NightWatcher]

2. a simple question I ask all my anti-gay peeps. Do you care if the couple down the street

gets married?

It shouldnt go any further than that. Regardless if its a man and a woman or two men or two women or an interracial couple......

[RebelOne]

3. Well, I have been on this earth for 73 years, lived in Miami, FL, for 50 of those years,

and I have had many gay and lesbian friends and never felt threatened by them.

[Tikki]

4. CONGRATULATIONS....30 years...

We, also, have an August Anniversary...45 years.

Ah, those hot August weddings just work...

And marriage equality...no problems.


The Tikkis

[Atman]

18. +45

Awesome!

[YoungDemCA]

5. I'm not married, but I too don't feel threatened by people of a different sexual orientation

I just don't care about what two consenting adults do in their bedroom.

Why is the Religious Right so uncomfortable with it? Is it because gay people defy traditional gender roles? Well, fuck the sexists.

I just don't get it. Maybe it's a power/insecurity thing?

[bluedeminredstate]

6. Married 25 years

with a gay daughter. My daughter lives with her partner and we love her as a member of the family. Not only has it not threatened our marriage, my husband's son and his wife are rightwing fundies, and as far as I know, once they found out his sister was gay his marriage didn't suffer any negative consequences. He did tell my daughter how "disappointed" he was in her. Maybe that's why she kept it a secret from him for 5 years!

Yep, all is well in the marriages in this family, even with a lesbian trying to undo our unions! I knew she was trouble when she was born...

[RKP5637]

7. The right wing loves to marginalize "the gay" by saying "the gay" is less

than 2% of the population. If that were true, I would say their marriages are pretty damn fragile if 2% of the population can wreck their marriage and 98% of the population can't save them.

[Freddie]

8. Congratulations! 31 years married

& someday our gay friends will be able to celebrate marriages this long.
Had a "discussion" on FB with a conservative friend, she had no answers:
1. Give me one good reason why gay couples should be denied the federal benefits of marriage: filing joint tax returns, social security, etc. also issues like health insurance
2. Tell me again how a gay couple's marriage will threaten yours.
Crickets.

[Atman]

9. My cousin has been with her partner as long as my wife and I have been "legally" married.

But it wasn't until a few years ago that they were considered "legal" Americans. Strange how this works.

[Bonhomme Richard]

10. You all make me feel old. 37 years and I'm not that old. LOL

Congrats.

[xchrom]

11. SOMEBODY is not doing their JOB!11

Where do you live?

I'm writing a Stern Letter to Gay Central Committee and find out who is in charge of ruining hetero marriages in your area.

This is inexcusable.

Expect SCADS of Teh Gays on your door step very soon.

I suggest having loads of cocktail mixers & booze - & really an outstanding DJ - on hand wouldn't hurt.

[nichomachus]

16. Ooooh, let me do it please

If my hubby and I can break up one more straight marriage, we get a trip to the Caribbean.

[etherealtruth]

12. congratluations

[edhopper]

13. That is because you probably aren't attractive

I know that teh gays look at me and want me to leave my wife for them.
They give me that certain look and are tempting me. If they think they could take me from my loving hetero relationship
and turn me into one of them, the pressure would not stop.
I thank God we are keeping marriage between a man and his wife.

signed;
ignorant, homophobic christian republican (probably in the closet)

[HockeyMom]

14. Oh my, where to begin

Grew up in the Villlage down the street from the Stonewall. Cat sat for the gay couple upstairs when I was 10. My Aunt raised my cousin with her partner back in the 50s.

Married 38 years to the same man who had a gay Uncle. His sister has 2 out of 4 kids kids who are gay. We had 2 kids, and one is gay.

If none of this destroyed our STRAIGHT marriage, let alone the fact that he is a Republican, what WOULD????

[Zoeisright]

15. Me too; married 31 years.

And of course that "argument" is deep homophobic bullshit. Combined with stupidity and cruelty.

[GreenPartyVoter]

17. Congrats on 30 years! :^)

[MoonRiver]

19. Been married almost 21 years, and gays marrying never entered my mind as a concern.

Seriously, why does anyone CARE who somebody else marries????? I will never understand this.

[phylny]

20. Thirty-one years married,

and we've just BARELY hung on because gay marriage threatens our marr.... Wait, no it doesn't.

[randome]

21. They just haven't gotten around to you yet!

Run! Hide! Martha, get the children! The gays are coming!

[Atman]

22. It's clear...God only wanted certain people to be happy.

Not teh gays. And certainly no one with a wrap on their head. He's an all-loving god, but Jesus, even the almighty has limits!

[smirkymonkey]

23. The only people who threaten straight marriage are straight people.

Whatever anyone else does has no bearing on anybody else's relationship. FYI, I am a straight woman.

[Atman]

25. Wanna party?

Oh, wait...what was I thinking? Sorry, I thought you might be not gay...or something. This is all so confusing.

[smirkymonkey]

34. Wait, maybe I am, I can never be sure.

I just know I'm not f**king up anyone else's relationship.

[yewberry]

24. If you're local, I could ask my moms to stop by. They're not terribly intimidating, though.

Both about 5'4", in their mid-60s, so maybe threatening isn't the best tactic.

Guilt, though, they're hell on wheels with guilt.

[Atman]

27. Our best friends just had a baby.

Anonymous donor. But they're an awesome couple, and I couldn't be happier for them. But TWO Jewish mothers? Oy!

[Politicalboi]

26. That's because we used to give away

Toasters. We've moved up in the world, now we give away microwave ovens. I bet now you're wondering who to sleep with tonight.

[Atman]

30. I could use a new microwave.

As long as you have a new food processor for my wife.

[Ishoutandscream2]

28. My late grandparents were married 79 years ago today, happy anniversary

They were married 62 years. They were happy. Gay marriage never threatened their marriage, either!

[mattvermont]

29. 18 years today

No intended sybolism with Hiroshima, but now that I think about it....Anyway Gay marriage makes mine more meaningful.

[A Brand New World]

31. 37 years here & we even have lesbian neighbors.

The vibes haven't crossed the fence yet! But seriously, couldn't ask for better neighbors.

[HarveyDarkey]

32. An oldie, but a goody

[Sheepshank]

33. 32 years this month...lesbian neighbors

and gay friends for my kids...and we live in Utah. Still waiting for the boom to be lowered. The manufactured tension is intense lol

[Atman]

35. SHIT! I've been posting all day on DU!

Now it's almost midnight...out here in the boonies, I think my only choice of a last minute present is a gift card from the 24/7 7-Eleven! Hell, after 32 years with me she'll appreciate it, right?





I hope I don't need this... ...my wife is a goddess.

[OnionPatch]

36. I don't think they're worried about you.

It's their precious little ones they worry about. Society accepting gay marriage might send the "wrong" signal and little Billy Joe might "decide" to be gay (which affects his probability of ending up in a traditional marriage.) This is so wrong in multiple ways, starting with the idea that people can just choose their sexuality and ending with the idea that one must set an "acceptable" example for OTHER people's children.