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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsTonight is pizza night for our fam...
Well, the fam is out of town and so tonight, I ordered delivery from a restaurant nearby and the driver delivered my order, I sign the receipt , we shake hands...and he goes back to his car...
Maybe this is racist of me and speaks to my own issues...but I walk back out on the drive before the guy leaves, I literally flag him down and say "As-salāmu ʿalaykum"...I thought this man was gong to collapse into tears in my driveway. That one moment opened up a long exchange of emotions and stories between the two of us...it was just a moment, one that I took to try to make my world a bit of a better place, and I hope it did!!
I hope this inspires others to do the same!
bdamomma
(63,868 posts)of compassion and humanity. I got to give you this.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)I live in a purple dot in a very red area...this guy was in tears and got out of his car to hug me afterwards...it was worth it, and I hope this Post will inspire others to do the same!
Duppers
(28,125 posts)"Bless you!"
lpbk2713
(42,759 posts)He sees so many mouth breathers that consider him a threat that he was overjoyed.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)He got out of his car and grabbed my hand and pulled me into a hug....
It was just a small act and I'm not posting it to pat myself on the back, but to encourage others to do the same!
lpbk2713
(42,759 posts)Thank you for brightening his day.
InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,122 posts)Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Cha
(297,295 posts)so I can imagine how he felt.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Just reinforced just how much a simple act can impact our neighbors!
(Mahalo Cha!!)
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)who I know have to feel victims of today's hatred.
My freshman year in college in 1967, I had a really great sociology professor -- even at my relatively conservative school -- who would come to class with stories of civil rights and Vietnam protests over the weekend, even had a gashed head from a police baton once.
Anyway, I remember him telling us about something called the "hate stare" that described the way old Southern racists looked at Black people, even when they were just walking down the street. Since that day, I have always tried to smile and acknowledge people for fear I might look hateful because I woke up on the wrong side of the bed or feel bloated from eating too much, or something. I usually get a smile back too, although some think I'm crazy as hell.
Anyway, appreciate your post. Had to look that phrase up, but it was close to what I expected.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)cate94
(2,811 posts)I missed the date for Eid, because I was out of town, but I bought Godiva chocolates for the neighbors I knew are Muslim. Brought them by the following week. It was healing for me, and I think it made them happy. If its hard to be me now, I cant imagine how horrifying it is for them.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Thanks for sharing!
Amaryllis
(9,524 posts)it seems appropriate. I taught ESL for a long time and my Saudi students taught me that phrase and I"ve always had a favorable response when I've said it to someone.
Just curious, what made you think he would know he would know the phrase?
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Maybe it was his appearance, or maybe it was his accent...it was just an instinct, one which paid off...and I am truly thankful for that!
Amaryllis
(9,524 posts)that they may know Arabic, and sometimes I ask them. They may be Iranian and speak Farsi, or some other language, but I've never had anyone be offended. They have always just smiled and said it back to me if they know it, and if not, most people can recognize if you are friendly and appreciate it.
volstork
(5,402 posts)from your TN MD colleague!
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)I know you can appreciate and understand this encounter here in TN....hope you and yours are well!!
volstork
(5,402 posts)And wish the same for you!
Keep the faith!
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Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)With pepperoni and sausage!
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Upthevibe
(8,052 posts)after reading this post....damn those onions....
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Me too upthevibe!!
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smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Thank you for your kindness. These gestures mean so much in this day and age.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)I hope and think it did!
Duppers
(28,125 posts)And I use it when I can.
Years ago at UT we were friends with the Turkish community there but I've forgotten most phrases.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Duppers
(28,125 posts)Hubs has a BS & PhD in physics (+ a MS fr Cambridge U., where we lived 3 yrs). He's from Memphis; my hillbilly roots** are in the Smokies, outside of K'ville.
**do not like country music tho, much prefer Blues!
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Well I'm a Nashville native....went to UT Martin for undergrad, Memphis for Med school and trained at UTMC Knoxville, so I've lived all over the state!
Duppers
(28,125 posts)But you're younger and wouldn't have been in school with them.
We've been in Wmbrg, Va for ~40yrs. Hubs is retiring, so we're moving to Blount Co. next yr. Ever in our neck of the woods, y'all will be welcomed.
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Where are you moving in Blount Co?? There are some beautiful places there!
Duppers
(28,125 posts)6 acres. We'll begin construction soon we hope.
Ck your pm.
syringis
(5,101 posts)I'm really fond of such stories.
It doesn't belong to the great history (though...), but it belongs to our personal history. It is the kind of moments which make us step forward.
Nxt time, if it is someone who is Muslim, you can say "As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa rahmatou Allah oua barakatou"
Docreed2003
(16,862 posts)Will do!