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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI have to say that Barbara Bush's funeral service is as
establishment Catholic/Anglican as it gets. It has included as many myths as are present at most of them (including those of my own relatives and friends) but was not unpleasant. All that is missing is the incense.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)If anybody sang "I Come To The Garden Alone" at my funeral I'd haunt them forever. Last weekend I was a very high-church Episcopal funeral as a member of a choral ensemble, and this service was very much the same, except that we had more and better music.
malaise
(269,157 posts)although Great is thy Faithfulness was missing. My paternal grandma loved that Garden one
Tweety says wonderful high church and noted the subtle digs at Emperor Skeevy.
Most interesting for me was the fact that she planned the service three weeks ago.
left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)Amazing Grace?
malaise
(269,157 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I never heard it at funerals here. My guess is that the Bush's liked it so much they wanted it played at their funerals.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=i+come+to+the+garden+alone
malaise
(269,157 posts)and they said it was a wedding song in Florida - my sisters insisted because mom had it at her own funeral.
LeftInTX
(25,513 posts)I've heard it before...
Maybe at a feast day for Mary.
Maybe on Good Friday.
malaise
(269,157 posts)but it is a regular funeral song in the Caribbean particularly at funerals for moms.
A good friend who is Catholic lay clergy says she can't understand how it's a wedding song.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)Thats haunting...
CBHagman
(16,987 posts)I love the way you think.
And I have by turns cringed and smiled at what music turns up at funeral services. On more than one occasion I've wanted to ask who chose the hymns and, more crucially, why. But I never dared to ask at a time like that.
WhiteTara
(29,721 posts)I'm not having a funeral. Cremation and dropped into the sea to create coral reefs if I can't be wrapped in mushrooms and left in the forest.
No funeral, no ookey funeral songs.
malaise
(269,157 posts)There will be no ceremony whatsoever
WhiteTara
(29,721 posts)with Buddhist chanting prayers for the dead before they turn me in to the authorities.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)In my house.........
WhiteTara
(29,721 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)I would prefer a party, and my friends can get drunk on whatever is left of my estate.
pnwmom
(108,990 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)Nothing - I want nothing - cremation - send a notice to the newspaper to say I'm dead and state that by request there will be no ceremony. I notice in our Sunday papers that more and more folks are doing that.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,748 posts)Haven't decided where I want my ashes tossed, but I want an Irish wake. No keening, but everybody getting shit-faced drinking toasts to me.
WhiteTara
(29,721 posts)before I died. That way they can be doubly drunk and I can be vicariously in the Bardo.
vlyons
(10,252 posts)mahatmakanejeeves
(57,580 posts)From a great movie:
I haven't been watching the funeral. Here's one from a few years ago:
At 14:37 (t=877), look for former Washington Post executive Boisfeuillet Jones Jr.
Boisfeuillet "Bo" Jones Jr. (/ˈboʊfəleɪ/ BOH-fə-lay; born 1946) was president and chief executive officer of MacNeil/Lehrer Productions in Arlington, Virginia. He was former Vice Chairman of The Washington Post Company and Chairman of The Washington Post board from 2008 until December 31, 2011. From 2000 to 2008 he was publisher and chief executive officer of The Washington Post.
Early life
Jones was born in Atlanta in 1946 to Boisfeuillet Jones Sr., a philanthropist, and Laura Coit Jones. Anne Baynon Register Jones became his step-mother following the death of his mother and the marriage of his father to Anne Register. Jones went to high school at St. Albans School in Washington, D.C., and later received an A.B. in 1968 from Harvard College, where he was president of The Harvard Crimson and a member of the Spee Club. At both St. Albans and Harvard he was two years behind Donald E. Graham, his future employer. He attended Exeter College, Oxford University as a Rhodes Scholar and received a D.Phil. in modern history. He received his J.D. in 1974 from Harvard Law School, where he was an editor of the Harvard Law Review.
He reads from Ecclesiastes Chapter 3, verses 1 through 11. This is my favorite Bible passage, and it is the one that everyone knows. For a reading at a funeral, you can't go wrong with this.
Boisfeuillet "Bo" Jones Jr. is reading from the English Standard Version.
Ecclesiastes 3, English Standard Version
I had read that passage myself at my mother's funeral barely a month earlier, though I believe I stopped at verse 8. I read from the King James Version.
Ecclesiastes 3, King James Version
My mother was the same age as Barbara Bush when she died.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)But to each his/her own, I guess.
mahatmakanejeeves
(57,580 posts)I eat grits for breakfast most every day too, so my taste couldn't be that great.
Thanks again.
Tanuki
(14,920 posts)character (Ronee Blakely's Barbara Jean) in the hospital chapel after her breakdown.Though obviously not a fan favorite on DU, In the Garden is a classic and standard hymn of faith and beloved by many ordinary Americans. Here are some renditions by Mahalia Jackson, Willie Nelson, and Loretta:
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)applegrove
(118,749 posts)He went to military college and fought in WWII. We sang it at his presbyterian funeral years ago:
1 Fight the good fight with all thy might.
Christ is thy strength and Christ thy right.
Lay hold on life, and it shall be
thy joy and crown eternally.
2 Run the straight race through God's good grace;
lift up thine eyes, and seek Christ's face.
Life with its way before us lies;
Christ is the path, and Christ the prize.
3 Cast care aside; lean on thy guide.
God's boundless mercy will provide.
Trust, and thy trusting soul shall prove
Christ is its life, and Christ its love.
4 Faint not nor fear: God's arms are near.
God changeth not, and thou art dear.
Only believe, and thou shalt see
that Christ is all in all to thee.
https://www.hymnal.net/en/hymn/h/872
My favourite poem was the one we chose when my mom died:
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/437994-i-thought-the-earth-remembered-me-she-took-me-back
I thought the earth remembered me,
she took me back so tenderly,
arranging her dark skirts, her pockets
full of lichens and seeds.
I slept as never before, a stone on the river bed,
nothing between me and the white fire of the stars
but my thoughts, and they floated light as moths
among the branches of the perfect trees.
All night I heard the small kingdoms
breathing around me, the insects,
and the birds who do their work in the darkness.
All night I rose and fell, as if in water,
grappling with a luminous doom. By morning
I had vanished at least a dozen times
into something better.
Mary Oliver
Different ends of the religious spectrum but that what I like. Sounds like Barbara's funeral was well done.
dalton99a
(81,566 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)MaryMagdaline
(6,856 posts)I am surprised the Bushes chose such a Catholic song. All traditions are merging it seems
That song was designed to extract every tear from the body. It is an anthropoligal gem. Mourning ritual ... Southern European
oberliner
(58,724 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)I've been to funerals and after hearing some of the tributes, I almost asked the undertaker folks to open the casket so I could see if it was the same person I knew.
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dubyadiprecession
(5,720 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)phylny
(8,385 posts)to suit her beliefs, no one elses.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)so that's the music that should have been performed.
malaise
(269,157 posts)highplainsdem
(49,024 posts)And if it was her specific request that Trump NOT be invited -- another perfect touch.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)Tacky, I'm sure. Lots of gilded stuff. But I wonder if anyone will be found to say anything nice about him? Some fundy prosperity-gospel preacher will probably blather. Some people might want to attend, as a friend of mine once said, "just to be sure the SOB is dead."
malaise
(269,157 posts)overdone, over the top - a fitting end to a circus act.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)His funeral now.....
With my champagne.....
argyl
(3,064 posts)QC
(26,371 posts)GulfCoast66
(11,949 posts)Kirk Lover
(3,608 posts)monmouth4
(9,709 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)But I found it touching. The verse read by her granddaughter (To everything there is a season, etc..) was my mom's favorite and read at her own funeral, and In The Garden was a favorite of my dad's. He sang it many times.
Everyone likes different things, and that's fine. At a funeral for one of my son's best friends, rap music was played. It definitely wasn't my cup of tea, but it's what he listened to, so it was appropriate.
mahatmakanejeeves
(57,580 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)Not that I particularly wanted to hear his dulcet tones again - but there were 5 children and I guess Jeb was the DH for the occasion.
malaise
(269,157 posts)I'm no Bush fan but it was tasteful - nothing excessive
Kirk Lover
(3,608 posts)Zoonart
(11,876 posts)she loved "In The Garden" too. It has that old-timey sing-a-long thing going on.
Definately old school.
malaise
(269,157 posts)was Scots Kirk
Zoonart
(11,876 posts)that's a couple of generations back. My brother stayed in the church. I'm a Buddhist and my husband is a Birth right Quaker.
Different strokes.
malaise
(269,157 posts)I have no religion or faith, but I do enjoy some of the music.
some of the most beautiful art and music in history had been created out of spitritual devotion. Inspiration is inspiraton I guess.
Amazing indeed
Zoonart
(11,876 posts)monmouth4
(9,709 posts)it says "I believe in the Holy Catholic Church." Is that because Episcopalians were once Catholic? Color me surprised as I recited along with it..
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)But the Episcopal Church, the American branch of the Anglican Church, was Catholic until Henry VIII decided he wanted a divorce and the Pope wouldn't let him do it. After that schism the church still retained a lot of the Catholic liturgy because Henry wasn't concerned about theology as much as about getting what he wanted.
monmouth4
(9,709 posts)scary. Thanks for your info..
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)and actually understood his government. He was a despot and a shit to women, but he had a little class, at least, unlike He Who Shall Not Be Named.
monmouth4
(9,709 posts)wishstar
(5,271 posts)Meghan Markle is also a direct descendent of John Hussey through Christopher Hussey who came to America.
The era of Henry VIII is fascinating but like with Trump, I would dread having any association with either one of those toxic megalomaniacs.
My Hussey ancestors in America were Quakers, fined for not observing Puritan church rules, but at least not executed.
monmouth4
(9,709 posts)Staph
(6,253 posts)But it's lower-case catholic, in the sense of "universal".
OldHippieChick
(2,434 posts)church, reads in part: " ... I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and life everlasting."
This is similar in many Protestant churches, using the small "c"
Ilsa
(61,697 posts)The episcopal churches I visited used the Nicene creed in a lot of services.
B2G
(9,766 posts)Her grandkids are exceptional people.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)If you want something solemn, dignified and beautiful that's where you go if you're into church.
wryter2000
(46,076 posts)We sure do
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)including my own wedding. Used to sing in an Episcopal cathedral choir, love the music and the ritual despite my agnostic tendencies.
malaise
(269,157 posts)wryter2000
(46,076 posts)My rector knows and doesnt care. Id go to my church if I were a confirmed atheist.
malaise
(269,157 posts)high church
Motley13
(3,867 posts)Episcopalians pray to the Catholic church?????
sarisataka
(18,745 posts)= universal
Motley13
(3,867 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)Remember Anglicans are Church of England a split off from the Catholics and Episcopalians are the American split from the Anglicans.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)It's one of the so-called "Four Marks" of the church in the Nicene Creed, and refers not just to the Roman Catholic Church (although that's how they look at it), but to Christianity in general. As an adjective, "catholic" just means "all-embracing."
jes06c
(114 posts)and we recite it too, it's part of the Nicene Creed, and it predates the split of the Orthodox and Catholic Churches by centuries. I think "catholic" is the Latin word for "universal." I know that the Episcopalians and Lutherans recite it too.
My wife's family is Methodist, and when we went to her uncle's funeral a few years ago, I kind of remember hearing it recited there too, but I may be remembering wrong.
malaise
(269,157 posts)They all came from one source before the various splits/schisms.
Ilsa
(61,697 posts)enid602
(8,643 posts)It was kind of boring. I was hoping Stormy might crash it and sit right next to Mel.
Rorey
(8,445 posts)malaise
(269,157 posts)No way - that's ridiculous
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,814 posts)Motley13
(3,867 posts)being the gentleman that he is. I'm sure they pity her.
Hekate
(90,773 posts)Hekate
(90,773 posts)We've had so much ugliness here of late that this brought tears to my eyes, no kidding.
malaise
(269,157 posts)They made the thread interesting