Someone said that in the South, saying "with all due respect"

[question everything]

as Nikki Haley did, this means something that could not be said on network TV...

[Anon-C]

1. Well bless your heart.

[LastLiberal in PalmSprings]

3. You can say anything nasty about someone in the South if you add, "...bless her heart."

Example: "Mary Lou just can't keep her knickers up when she's around the football team, bless her heart."

I learned about this from a friend who lives in South Carolina...bless her heart.

[KY_EnviroGuy]

2. Or, "well, sweetheart" or "well, ole buddy"....

and "bless his/her heart" are all precursors to saying someone is totally wrong or full of shit.....in the South. It's the ladylike or gentlemanly thing to do.

After any one of those precursors, any quantity of gossip, rumor, or criticism is OK.

......... .........

[moriah]

19. Not to their faces, though. ;)

"That's mighty interesting, what makes you think that?" is also politespeak for "And just what crack are you smoking?"

[Solly Mack]

4. Means, in context, with the respect I think you're due, which isn't any you fuckwad, thank you very

much.

Otherwise, the very limits of respect you're due, which could be none but will never be as much as you think you deserve, yet you do outrank me in some way, so I'll preface my coming less than respectful comment with the ambiguous "with all due respect".

[Solly Mack]

14. I'm from Georgia.

We often polite someone to death. Meaning, we're so sugary it's actually insulting. The victim is flattered because they don't know we aren't sincere. Later, we'll laugh about it. After the unwanted visitor is gone, that is. Would be rude to openly laugh in their face.

Generally, such treatment is only meted out to those who stop by uninvited (and are unwanted) or who once present, behave in a superior fashion.

[Solly Mack]

18. Atlanta.

And I mean Atlanta proper. In the actual city.

[raven mad]

5. Along with y'all & well bless your heart

I miss hearing that one!

[Funtatlaguy]

6. I say bless their heart...but have never said

With all due respect.
And I’m as as southern as a dope and a moon pie.

[JNelson6563]

7. Masters of the passive aggressive.

I'm always a little surprised that it's a point of pride.

[Blue_true]

10. Yep, you got it, that is the South. nt

[hlthe2b]

13. Most forms of passive aggression really annoy me, but admittedly I've always found this humorous...

Especially when newcomers to the South experience it and don't realize it isn't really that Southerners are being so very nice, (who they tend to view as being stupid). I'm a Westerner through and through, but during my time in the South over many years, I did tend to find a lot of condescension on the part of newcomers that tended to be answered by this little tactic. And to be honest, I found it a bit funny.

[Solly Mack]

16. Thank you. It generally is reserved for those who treat us as idiots.

[Tipperary]

27. Yes, like a post or two down the thread.

[oberliner]

8. Who said that?

[kedrys]

11. Erin Burnett on CNN last night, for one.

“ I love it when someone starts a sentence with ‘with all due respect’ because it usually means the opposite.”

[oberliner]

29. Yeah - I don't think it's just a southern thing

I think it's a polite way of implying something less polite.

[question everything]

30. Did not get his name; not a "regular," on the Ali Velshi program

the one with Ruhle.

[GulfCoast66]

9. Well, someone would be wrong. At least in the western South

Of Louisiana and Arkansas.

Had she said ‘Bless your Heart’...well, we do not say that phrase unless really called for.

[obamanut2012]

15. Nah, she is right

That is exactly what it means, in the parts of the South I was born and have lived in. "You're an idiot, but I can't say that, so..."

[DemocratSinceBirth]

20. When

When a person says "with all due respect" or "no harm intended" someone is about to get disrespected or harmed in some way.

[Sancho]

21. I grew up in Charleston, and yes..."with all due respect" can mean

you can politely "kiss my ass".

I don't know if it's something from SC, but I've heard it used that way many times. I've often heard it right before you curse..."With all due respect, you can go to hell (or whatever you want to say)."

I suspect that old Nikki was just leaving off the ending.

[Iggo]

22. That's anywhere, not just the South.

But it means what it says it means: I'm about to disagree with you, while giving you the full amount of respect that you're due.

What it doesn't say, but often what's implied, is that the amount of respect you're due isn't all that much.

[B2G]

24. Yeah, I've lived all over the US

This isn't a southern thing at all. It's universal.

[Wounded Bear]

23. It's wha isn't said that often matters most...

So, "With all due respect (you fucking idiot)..."

[Gidney N Cloyd]

25. They used that in Talladega Nights

[AllaN01Bear]

26. the other one is ," im sorry" , but.then they go into a tithy.

[brewens]

28. I have modified that to "with all respect that is due" then something like, "you're a freakin'

idiot!" Or whatever is appropriate.