I had a law client whose husband was arrested for strangling her.

[no_hypocrisy]

Then because he convinced her to drop the charges to be released from jail, they were targets of investigation by Child Protection. And because of the investigation, their children were removed from their home. (Prior to these events, she inherited $100,000 from her father and he squandered all the money. They were living in filth and disarray when I was hired.)

He also wouldn't let her leave their home without him. Their children were kept out of school.

Child Protection was supposed to provide domestic violence counseling but didn't. As her legal counsel, we had to do that work.

Long story short, she separated from him, returned to live with her mother, and divorced him. And yet he wouldn't let go of her. The only good fortune was he was several states separated from her.

Even though my client is well and has her kids back, I can't help the feeling that she would return to him if the circumstances permitted.

[Xipe Totec]

1. I had a spouse who falsely claimed I was on drugs and might have weapons

I was evicted from my own home by armed officers of the law.

Took a drug test on my own to prove I had no drugs in my system.

Not even alcohol.

I have never owned a gun. Never so much as purchased b-b ammo.

And she knew it.

We are no longer together. Because of the length of our marriage, the state ordered alimony for her until I reach retirement age. No child support, since our children were already adults at the time.

You know what? I have no regrets. I gladly pay that alimony every two weeks and consider myself fortunate.

[Laffy Kat]

2. I think some people are so afraid of growing old alone...

They want to hang on to what they have even if it's terrible. I don't get it, I don't get it.

[dixiegrrrrl]

4. Most of the time those women are attracted to what they are familiar with in their own homes.

90% of the time when I was working with a an abused woman, she had history of alcohol use and abuse by her father or step father. It was an unconscious pattern.

There has long been a saying that women marry their fathers and men marry their mothers, which has proven rather accurate.
Again I stress subconscious at work.

One of the later studies of those family dynamics was by John Bradshaw, and his models held up to the reality we were seeing as therapists.

[lunasun]

3. If your feeling is correct she is not well and could use some counseling imo. Kid don't need that

[CrispyQ]

5. I read that once a man puts his hands on a woman's throat, the next step is to kill her.

on edit:

Here's something on it

Non-fatal strangulation is an important risk factor for homicide of women

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2573025/

snip...

Abstract

The purpose of the study is to examine non-fatal strangulation by an intimate partner as a risk factor for major assault, or attempted or completed homicide of women. A case control design was used to describe non-fatal strangulation among complete homicides and attempted homicides (n =506) and abused controls (n = 427). Interviews of proxy respondents and survivors of attempted homicides were compared with data from abused controls. Data were derived using the Danger Assessment. Non-fatal strangulation was reported in 10% of abused controls, 45% of attempted homicides and 43% of homicides. Prior non-fatal strangulation was associated with greater than six-fold odds (OR 6.70, 95% CI 3.91–11.49) of becoming an attempted homicide, and over seven-fold odds (OR 7.48, 95% CI 4.53–12.35) of becoming a completed homicide. These results show non-fatal strangulation as an important risk factor for homicide of women, underscoring the need to screen for non-fatal strangulation when assessing abused women in emergency department settings.

[MineralMan]

6. Such cases are always heartbreaking.

They're also very common. It's a pity.