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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:07 AM
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I witnessed a perfect allegory of the income gap in America last night
I went to refill a prescription at my local Walgreen's last evening. As I was getting out of my car, another car pulled into the parking lot a few spaces down from me--a car barely hanging onto it's last throes of usefulness. It was a Ford LTD sedan from the 1970s, and it blew thick, black smoke. The paint was bleached from brown to tan, and the tan vinyl roof was half-peeled off. There were several large dents on the body, and one broken window was repaired with clear plastic sheeting and strapping tape. The driver of the car was a forty-something man, whom I assumed was the dad of the family. The other passengers were his wife, a teen daughter, and a grandmother. The man had stringy, bushy dark brown hair, a large mustache, and beard stubble. He looked like he hadn't shaved in a week or had a haircut in a year. He wore a dirty baseball cap, and an old t-shirt and flannel shirt.

As I walked towards the store, I encountered another car, that I can only figure came from nearby Nichols Hills. It was a sparkling white 2011 Cadillac, with tinted glass and white leather seats. The engine was running, and I could hear the whirr of the air conditioner. A woman, around 50 or so, sat in the driver's seat, talking on her cell phone. She had on a rhinestone-studded shirt, designer sunglasses, and perfectly-styled hair with blond highlights. I couldn't see what kind of phone she had, but she held it in her left hand, which sported a wedding band that looked like it was top-of-the-line from B.C.Clark. Scattered around the car were several neatly-packaged and colorful gift bags, apparently in preparation for some sort of celebration. I was curious as to what the story was behind the gifts, but I wasn't about to stare, and so I continued on to the drug store.

While waiting for my prescription to be filled, I browsed the store, when I came across the mother and grandmother from the first car (the daughter was browsing elsewhere). They wore plain old clothes (the mother's jeans were muddy and torn along the cuff), their hair was combed but otherwise plain, and I could smell them from 20 feet away. They were having a minor argument over certain items to buy, and after hearing what they were talking about, I handed them $20 (all the cash I had to spare). They looked shocked, but before they could say anything or try to return the cash, I said something to the effect of, "Well, I just found it lying on the ground, so it's not really mine, anyway." I snuck away, and made myself scarce until my name was called to pick up my prescription. I did, however, catch a glimpse of the people across the store, while they were in the checkout lane at the front of the store.

You see, they were arguing earlier about which cans of cat food to buy. When they were at the checkout counter, they were carrying several cans of cat food. What do you want to bet they don't own a cat?
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:13 AM
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1. You did a really good thing...
Yup, I'm sure they don't have a cat...

God, what a mess our country is.

Damn it.

Recommended.

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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:20 AM
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3. A drop into a dry seabed, unfortunately.
:(
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kctim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:16 AM
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2. I'll bet a hundred that they own a cat
Being on a similar budget as those people, I can tell you that there are things like Ramen, Spam, potted meat etc that are close to the same price or even cheaper than cat food.
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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:22 AM
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5. Cat or no, you'd agree they're probably in dire straits?
Aside from public libraries, they're not likely to have Internet access.

Sorry about your plight.

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kctim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 11:15 AM
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12. Yes, probably so
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blueamy66 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:22 AM
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4. You did an awesome thing.
It makes one feel good.

godspeed
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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:45 AM
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8. Thanks. I actually feel embarrassed it was only $20...that's almost insulting
It's tempting to think, "oh, they can eat for a week on twenty bucks," but $20 for four people doesn't even meet half a day's needs, when you factor in toiletries, "household goods" and so on. Things a lot of us just take for granted, such as trash bags, batteries (yes, batteries, seriously--how many Americans go an entire year without ever using a battery?), pencils, vitamins, dental floss, clothes hangers, simple medications. And that's not even considering fuel for the car, car insurance, housing costs (if they're not homeless), medical care, and communications of any kind.

For those thinking "oh, they can save money by selling the car and just taking the bus," here in Oklahoma City, most people must have a car to exist. Public transportation is almost non-existent (the nearest bus stop is nearly 2 miles from me). Bicycling is hazardous (less than 10% of roads have bicycle lanes, sidewalks are scarce, and it's dangerously hot in the summer).
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blueamy66 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 11:09 AM
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11. I understand.
Edited on Fri Mar-18-11 11:10 AM by blueamy66
Our bus routes here in PHX aren't too great either.

$20 was awesome. Heck, I was happy when I gave a homeless lady a $10 bill....and saw her go right into the 99cent store....at Christmas time.

Keep on keeping on...

And now I will not bitch about having to clean my house today....cause I have a house :-)
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kickysnana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:33 AM
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6. Thanks for posting this. It started my day off positive.
:yourock:
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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:50 AM
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9. Thanks. It's a double-edged sword.
Good that one family was shown someone cared, but my narrative also illustrates how far this country has yet to go.
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w8liftinglady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:33 AM
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7. you did good...it will make a difference. Don't sell yourself short.
Good breeds good in others....maybe they will pass on good to someone in worse shape than them.
I am proud of your actions.
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Wednesdays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 10:52 AM
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10. True, thanks.
I think it's inspired me to work harder to bring about social change. This is the only major industrialized nation that allows this to happen at such large a scale.
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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 11:20 AM
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13. Way to go!
Edited on Fri Mar-18-11 11:21 AM by Dappleganger
That was a great thing you did, and yes it's sad when we encounter people like this in our daily lives. If we'd only look up a bit and take the time to THINK (as you have done), there are moments to share with someone else.

A few days ago I also had an encounter at Walgreens, but quite different from yours. An Indian mother and son were at the pharmacy trying to figure out a way to battle her son's allergies (we are heavy into the season here in NE FL). We got to talking when we were outside, she was quite depressed about their family's state of affairs since they had moved from NYC down here three years ago. They are both professionals in health care but have gone through all of their savings and barely making, and are desperately trying to get back up north. It was really sad. :(
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Chris_Texas Donating Member (707 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 01:07 PM
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14. They own a cat. But that's irrelevant
As someone in the same poverty level I can say with complete assurance that the impact even something as little as $20 can make all the difference in the world.

I can imagine some here judging me already (I have experienced it here before). I have seen the questions and insinuations: If you are poor Chris, what are you doing online... what are you doing with a computer... you are probably poor because your terrible life choices: computer, internet, and you smoke oh my god (!), you own a dog, this just gets worse and worse...maybe if you drank less coffee... and why are you posting on the internet when you should be out getting a second or third job! Are there no prisons, no work houses?!

First, fuck off. Yeah, I am poor. There is an interesting fact about money that most folks do not realize. It is this: the lighter your wallet the heavier your feelings of inadequacy and shame. See that homeless guy pushing his stolen shopping cart? I know what's in it. Guilt. The level of shame is inversely proportional to the wealth you have. If you are middle class you probably hesitate a moment before buying a new designer purse or blouse, wondering if that money should better go towards your kid's ballet lessons or whatever. But you can dismiss it, you can say with absolute confidence "I can afford this cat." The poor guy never gets that luxury.

There is NOTHING they can just afford. Nothing they can buy, including a bus ticket to a job interview, that does not carry with it some degree of shame. After all, they could start extra early and walk to that job. It's only five or ten miles, right? Start three hours early or something (I have done this, I suspect many have). And poor people, well, they don't need cats and coffee and computers and internet, and they damn sure should never drink a beer or soda or smoke a cigarette whether they roll it themselves or not. Aren't these things, these vices, just symptoms of the poor decision making and lack of self control which keeps them poor? If you are not thinking it (and be honest, you have occassionally thought just that about someone -- we all have), the poor guy is.

So why does that poor family own a cat? Because they wanted it and they just said fuck-it. Poor choice? They would shrug knowing that in their life it doesn't much matter -- good choices or bad, nothing will change, and skipping out on a cat for their kids isn't gonna matter except in the eyes of some rich fucker sitting in judgement.

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rainbow4321 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 01:32 PM
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15. My ex mother in law criticized my then-college age daughter
Edited on Fri Mar-18-11 01:33 PM by rainbow4321
for having 2 cats.
I wanted to slap the bitch upside the head.

She and my ex husband were in town to attend my daughter's graudation. The second that ex MIL stepped into my daughter's place she turned her nose up at the cats and said "when I was a single mother we were too poor to have animals". Insinuating that my daughter was wreckless with her finances

Ok...first, my daughter was not a poor, single mother. She was a college student (with NO kids) who worked her ass off for four years, at times working 2 jobs at once while going to class full time and also had taken out student loans (and I had taken out a parent loan and then also would chip in from out of pocket at the end of each semester til her summer jobs kicked in)
Ex MIL AND ex husband did NOT contribute a single penny to helping her out at all. Not a penny. Yet this bitch took what should have been a "enter the room and congratulate and praise the soon to be college grad" moment and ruined it..see, she didn't stop there, she then went on to have a conversation with my ex who was also there about the family dynamics from when she was a young, single mom and how HIS father didn't do shit, and so on and so on.

My daughter and I just stood there like WTF, how did this go from being about her and graduating to this time warp that was like comparing apples and oranges.

The scene became a running inside joke between me and my daughter for the rest of the weekend..especially when I took her grocery shopping and we got to the cat food aisle.

As I told my daughter that day, if **I**, as the person who DID help her financially (thru loans and out of pocket money) didn't give a rat's ass about the cats, the people who DID NOT give her ANY money had NO right to judge/criticize. Because I knew how hard she worked to make ends meet for those four, long years and cat food didn't exactly make it to my top ten list of "you spent money on WHAT?" list..that list would have been reserved for lots of partying, drugs, or excessive alcohol.


Both of us had the same thought when ex MIL gave her a graduation check later in the day, we both wanted to say "ooohhh, this will buy a LOT of cat food!"



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