Would you be ok with your significant other getting 61 texts over 4 months from someone?

[Liberal_in_LA]

61 texts over four months = ever other day.

[Harmony Blue]

1. My instincts say no

because the younger generation rely on text messaging so much.

[Brickbat]

2. Depends on who it is.

[Liberal_in_LA]

8. assume you are Cain's wife and he texted woman 61 times.

[Brickbat]

14. Sorry, I can't think past your first five words there.

:rofl:

[Liberal_in_LA]

17. lol n/t

[bettyellen]

3. it depends....backstory?

[Liberal_in_LA]

6. Cain accuser showed cell phone, 61 texts from him over 4 months.

[SheilaT]

4. A lot depends on who that

someone is.

But if you suspect there's something worth worrying about, you just might want to confront said significant other.

[teddy51]

5. I guess it would depend on who the someone is, opposite sex or not?

And after posting I realized that my opposite sex thing is way wrong as well. Sorry, about that part!

[Liberal_in_LA]

7. opposite sex if you are straight, same if gay

[ZombieHorde]

11. Half different, or same, if intersexed. nt

[teddy51]

Yep, at the same time you were responding, I realized my bad. n/t

[Upton]

9. Yes...I don't own her..

My SO either cares about me or she doesn't. If not, she's free to hit the road..

[DisgustipatedinCA]

10. I guess it all depends

I think it would depend on the circumstances. I'm not qualified to talk about whatever your situation is, but in many relationships, it might be advisable to just ask, just let the other person know you were worried and that you'd like to have your mind at ease. Again, every situation is different, but sometimes the best way to get an answer is to ask the question.

[treestar]

12. Not unless I knew it was their best friend

And it was a person I too knew pretty well.

[sylveste]

13. 61 texts

61 texts over 4 months = nothing
i get 60 plus texts a day.

[unionworks]

15. depends

...on how secure you are with your other, and how much you love them. I let someone go backin 2001, and to this day I am haunted. (Yes, she was a beautiful and fiercely independent woman). Give it some time, maybe some space, before you close the door forever on something that might have been truly beautiful. Take it from one who learned the har way- nothing is ever as simple as it seems.

[ZombieHorde]

16. Yes. Why wouldn't I be OK with someone texting her every other day? nt

[Enrique]

18. yes

unless it's from Herman Cain.

[The Straight Story]

19. Depends on how much they were paying her

:evilgrin:

[TBF]

20. Sure, he has excellent life insurance and I will be very careful ... nt

[JI7]

21. i have texted people back and forth almost 10 times just for something simple

like providing address and when they are getting here. that's hwy i would prefer to call but some people seem to insist on texting.

so it would depend.

but she is someone who didn't work with him so there wouldn't be an issue where work related texts could add up like that.

[CreekDog]

22. 61 individual text messages over 120 days? that's nothing

if you text back and forth for 15 minutes you'll have 30 texts at least.

[JuniperLea]

23. Nope...

It wasn't ok when one of them said he communicated via email with several ladies, and didn't intend on quitting either... boy what an idiot I was! That should have been a massive red flag with siren!

:rofl:

[noamnety]

24. I'm pretty sure I've gotten that many DU messages from someone

over that amount of time. We were talking politics and feminism. So no, I wouldn't see it as a problem.

To put it in perspective, my husband's had a female intern for a few years and I'm pretty sure they've spoken more than 61 sentences to each other in 4 months.

[Politicalboi]

25. I am assuming this is from Cain

I don't text myself, but from what others said you can do 61 texts in a matter of no time. In this situation, it's what the texts said that count. And I can't wait to see those. :popcorn:

[LeftyMom]

26. I'm okay with my SO doing whatever the fuck he wants.

I trust him.

Trust comes from a long pattern of behavior, and lack of trust from the opposite. I wouldn't find that many texts meaningful in a vacuum, but they'd merit further investigation in a known sleaze. Of course one would then ask why anybody gives a damn what known sleazes are up to anyhow. :shrug:

[Liberal_in_LA]

27. I am talking about the Breaking Cain story, not me

[JohnnyLib2]

29. LOL, this may be a classic DU thread.

Herman rules!

[LeftyMom]

30. I edited.

Sorry, I was at work until a few minutes ago, and Breaking Sex Scandal News was not on my radar.

[JuniperLea]

34. Sometimes lack of trust comes from a long pattern of behavior too...

Just sayin'...

[laundry_queen]

28. If I had to do it over again

I would not. BTDT, made the mistake of trusting. It was an affair.

[Tx4obama]

31. Seems to me that in this day and age of scandals and DNA testing ...

anyone having an affair with a married man or singe man that is in a high profile position should save a sperm sample.
Then when the person calls them a liar they'd have the definitive proof to show that they are not lying :)

[LadyHawkAZ]

32. Probably

it would depend on the situation.

ETA: oh, THAT situation. yes, I'd be OK with it, my relationship is non-monogamous.

[Lex]

33. I've got a couple friends I probably text with about that much.

Depends on what's going on. Texting while watching a game on TV at the same burns up a lot of texts. Going shopping together at a mall, but shopping at different stores and re-coordinating where we are. That sort of thing.

[arcane1]

35. Not enough context here

If they are in an open relationship, then it's irrelevant. It also depends on who is sending the messages, and their content.

That being said: it is total shameless hypocrisy for the RW to NOW be saying that extra-marital affairs are somehow off-limits. They started this shit :)

[ThomWV]

36. I have no idea how many texts, emails, voice mails, or anything else my wife receives

Why would I? What business is it of mine who she communicates with or how much?

[Liberal_in_LA]

37. someone calls a press conference and shows your wife's texts to the world.

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[Donald Ian Rankin]

38. Of course, if there was a reason for it. But not if they concealed it.

Did Cain's wife know?

[bigwillq]

39. Depends what the texts say. My co-worker texts me about 61 times a MONTH

Depends on what the texts say.