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Unless Mr. Palin, or a close family member is going to step into the role of advocate for their child.
As a mother of two beautiful daughters, the oldest having multiple handicaps, and the younger born without handicaps, there is a difference. There is a difference from day one.
I tried to continue my life as it was. I had a fancy title and was making excellent money. But - that meant missing out on therapies, early intervention programs and so on. Doctors appointments always needed to be made. What about daddy? Daddy was at work as well. So when I got pregnant again, I looked at my husband and said "I am a half-assed manager and a half-assed mother. After the baby is born, I'm going to work part-time". I am so fortunate that I was able to, even if it meant giving up alot. I looked at my priorities in a totally different light and realized what was most important to me.
My daughter with special needs is awesome, she is the sunshine of my life, a day doesn't go by where she doesn't make me laugh...but there have been health problems. I refused to let anything come in the way of her needs. She turned 21 yesterday, and every one of her birthdays is a celebration because she almost didn't make it several times throughout the years. You are damn right that I never left her side, except to sleep, during her illnesses. So don't insinuate that parents of special needs kids don't have to give up a thing, even if you never had to for your son. And the benefit of my decision to put family first paid off for my second daughter, as she graduated with highest honors and received a full scholarship for an in-state university.
If women want to thumb their noses at women like me, so be it. If Palin wants to let other people raise her children for her, fine. If she doesn't want to be there for all the happy and sad times - her choice. I just hope she has a Valerie Biden-Owens type of person in her life. Because a child with Down's needs alot of care.
You are entitled to your own opinion, but please don't criticize other people whose priorities are different and who question Sarah Palin's character because she is willing to take on such an important job with a newborn with Down's Syndrome at home. Women like me give up alot less important jobs to care for their special child. And yes, I hope this comes up one day and some reporter with some balls asks her about this very thing. All we are hearing now is that she is so pro-life, she didn't abort her baby with Downs. Well hallelujah. But being pro-life also means that you are there for that child, even after they're born. As I said above, I just hope and pray for the sake of that baby, that she has a Valerie in her life, cuz I sure as hell don't think her hubby is going to give up his job working for a foreign oil company.(BP) Ha - here we go - another oilman in the Whitehouse.....
I posted a thread about this very topic yesterday and the responses I got ran the whole spectrum. But the only responses I cared about were two. From a mother of a special kid, and another from a father of a special kid. The mom questioned my feminism (which is hysterically funny) - until I questioned her as to whether she has had to make any changes in her life for her child. Then all I got were crickets. The dad on the other hand agreed with me and thanked me for my thread. The rest of the people that insulted me for my lack of feminism just made me laugh. How could they possibly judge me when they have never walked a day in my shoes.
Aren't we lucky to live in a country where we not only can have this debate, but where are special kiddos have the right to an education? I thank god for the later every day of my life. And have watched this administration try to take some of those rights away.
The best thing that could come out of this whole topic is the discussion of healthcare. What about the parents of special needs kids that don't have healthcare? Or any kids for that matter. In Arizona, they fall under SChip. You remember S-Chip? The bill that McCain voted against...
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And I still love ya - even if we disagree ;)
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