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n2doc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 05:41 AM
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I Lost My Son to a War I Oppose. We Were Both Doing Our Duty.
I Lost My Son to a War I Oppose. We Were Both Doing Our Duty.
By Andrew J. Bacevich
Sunday, May 27, 2007; Page B01


Parents who lose children, whether through accident or illness, inevitably wonder what they could have done to prevent their loss. When my son was killed in Iraq earlier this month at age 27, I found myself pondering my responsibility for his death.

Among the hundreds of messages that my wife and I have received, two bore directly on this question. Both held me personally culpable, insisting that my public opposition to the war had provided aid and comfort to the enemy. Each said that my son's death came as a direct result of my antiwar writings.

This may seem a vile accusation to lay against a grieving father. But in fact, it has become a staple of American political discourse, repeated endlessly by those keen to allow President Bush a free hand in waging his war. By encouraging "the terrorists," opponents of the Iraq conflict increase the risk to U.S. troops. Although the First Amendment protects antiwar critics from being tried for treason, it provides no protection for the hardly less serious charge of failing to support the troops -- today's civic equivalent of dereliction of duty.

What exactly is a father's duty when his son is sent into harm's way?

Among the many ways to answer that question, mine was this one: As my son was doing his utmost to be a good soldier, I strove to be a good citizen.

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http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/25/AR2007052502032.html
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dave_p Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 05:53 AM
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1. So you lose your son in their war ...
... and the nazi chickenhawks tell you it's your fault for opposing the war. What disgusting slime.
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orleans Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:35 PM
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16. how do those freaks respond when someone who is all for the war loses a kid?
they are such ignorant assholes!
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LBJDemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:49 PM
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19. Yeah; I've seen it
On a certain discussion forum I won't name.

They're shameless.
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flying_monkeys Donating Member (519 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 11:28 PM
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21. The replies to that article are unreal.
What does it say about our humanity (collective, not DU) where people can slam the man who just lost a son to a war he despises?


I just hate that "If you don't think he died a GOOD DEATH AMERICAN WAY HERO BLAHBLAHBLAH then you are a TRAITOR" bs.


That poor Dad, and that poor kid....
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annabanana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 06:17 AM
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2. This is an incredibly painful article to read.
He feels that, because he (and we) were unable to bend Congress to our will, even with a majority in both houses, he failed his son.

His son just died two weeks ago. What a painful Memorial Day for him.
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Clark2008 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 06:55 AM
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4. As both an expectant mother and the mother of an 8 year old boy
I can't read this.

Not now.

Thanks for the warning, in a sense. My emotions are much too fragile (I'm currently in some pre-labor/stage one labor with major contractions imminent) to read this right now. I can't imagine what this family is going through.

Bless them.
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IndyOp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:18 AM
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8. Take care Clark2008 - we are looking forward to hearing about
your beautiful new baby. Relax, step away from the DU as needed...

:hug:
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Kolesar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 06:48 AM
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3. That part about Kerry and Kennedy was tough
But it was perfect lead in to present who is culpable in this national disaster. I am surprised that an op ed counter to the official message was able to be published in the Washington Post.
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Cerridwen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 07:09 AM
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5. What a damning indictment of our system
Edited on Sun May-27-07 07:10 AM by Cerridwen

Money maintains the Republican/Democratic duopoly of trivialized politics.

<snip>

It inhibits any serious accounting of exactly how much our misadventure in Iraq is costing. It ignores completely the question of who actually pays. It negates democracy, rendering free speech little more than a means of recording dissent. (emphasis added)

This is not some great conspiracy. It's the way our system works. (emphasis added)


Our system is designed to work exactly as it does - to give us the illusion that We, the People have a say and that we are heard; to give the illusion that because we can post to an internet message board, that we are free.

Care for more gilding on your cage?



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SaveAmerica Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 07:18 AM
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6. Soldier's worth = what the Yankees will pay Roger Clemens per inning..
That says it all, right there. Priorities.
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ProSense Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 08:30 AM
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7. He has every right to be completely disgusted. Senator Kerry
mentioned his conversation with Andrew Bacevich in his speech on the Senate floor:

I think in the last week or two, I've been to 3 funerals, Mr. President. One funeral, the son of a man who has opposed the war, a military man, a West Pointer himself, a man who gave us his career. But he's opposed to this war. And he dared to use the word to me in a conversation on the very day his son was being buried about how it was important for us to redouble our efforts here in the Senate, to bring this to a close. How it was important for us not to allow these young men and women to have their lives wasted; a word that if any politician used, we'd be pilloried for. The father of a man who was being buried used that word on the very day his son was being buried.

Another funeral I attended where the father was overcome with emotion speaking from the pulpit, left the pulpit, came down, stood beside his son's coffin and said, "I have to talk beside my son." Put his hand on the coffin and talked to us about his son's pride and his son's patriotism and his son's love of his fellow soldiers, his son and his commitment to what he was doing personally. … (W) e have a responsibility with respect to those young men and women, with respect to those families. And I believe that responsibility is not met when you give the president the very same power to continue on a daily basis what he has been doing for these last years.

<…>

There is not in this supplemental, one benchmark that can be enforced, not one. … How do you say to an American family that their son or daughter ought to give up their life so Iraqi politicians can spin around and play a game between each other at our expense. It's unconscionable. It's bad strategy. It's bad policy. It defies common sense. That's what this vote is about.

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And I have no fear about casting this vote against this, Mr. President. Because this is the wrong policy for Iraq. This continues the open-ended lack of accountability. This allows the president to certify whatever the president wants, to waive whatever the president wants. And I promise to my colleagues, we will be back here in September having the same debate with the same benchmark questions and they will not have moved in their accountability.

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It's time for us to get the policy right. That's how you support the troops.


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ProSense Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:28 AM
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9. Bacevich has been calling for an end to the war for years

Call It a Day

We've Done All We Can Do in Iraq

By Andrew J. Bacevich

Sunday, August 21, 2005; Page B01

The banner decorating the USS Abraham Lincoln on May 1, 2003, when President Bush announced an end to "major combat operations" in Iraq, turns out to have been accurate after all. If only the president himself had taken to heart the banner's proclamation of "Mission Accomplished." For by that date, having deposed Saddam Hussein, the United States had achieved in Iraq just about all that it has the capacity to achieve. The time has come for Bush to dig the banner out of the closet, drape it across the front of the White House and make it the basis for policy instead of continuing under the inglorious banner of "Mission Impossible."

Ironically, ever since the presidential victory lap of two years ago, the Bush administration has been in the forefront of those insisting that the U.S. mission in Iraq is not accomplished -- that there is ever so much more that the United States can and must do on behalf of the Iraqi people. Hence the grandiose U.S. promises of reconstruction, economic and political reform, and nation-building.

<...>

Getting out now makes sense not just to avoid further running up our bill, but because doing so holds out the prospect of a more favorable result. Granted, constructing a positive case for withdrawal requires a redefinition of purpose. From the outset, the Bush administration has focused on the wrong political objective. Rather than attempting to democratize Iraq as a first step toward "transforming" the Middle East, our proper aim should be to stabilize the country so that we can concentrate our energies on containing and eventually reducing the threat posed by violent Islamic radicals.

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A year earlier in a speech at NYU, Sen. Kerry laid out a plan for iraq and withdrawing troop:


Now, this is not going to be easy. I understand that.

Again, I repeat, every month that's gone by, every offer of help spurned, every alternative not taken for these past months has made this more difficult and those were this president's choices. But even countries that refused to put boots on the ground in Iraq ought to still be prepared to help the United Nations hold an election.

We should also intensify the training of Iraqis to manage and guard the polling places that need to be opened. Otherwise, U.S. forces will end up bearing that burden alone.

If the president would move in this direction, if he would bring in more help from other countries to provide resources and to train the Iraqis to provide their own security and to develop a reconstruction plan that brings real benefits to the Iraqi people, and take the steps necessary to hold elections next year, if all of that happened, we could begin to withdraw U.S. forces starting next summer and realistically aim to bring our troops home within the next four years.

That can achieved.

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In June 2005, Kerry wrote:


He also needs to put the training of Iraqi troops on a true six-month wartime footing and ensure that the Iraqi government has the budget needed to deploy them. The administration and the Iraqi government must stop using the requirement that troops be trained in-country as an excuse for refusing offers made by Egypt, Jordan, France and Germany to do more.

The administration must immediately draw up a detailed plan with clear milestones and deadlines for the transfer of military and police responsibilities to Iraqis after the December elections. The plan should be shared with Congress. The guideposts should take into account political and security needs and objectives and be linked to specific tasks and accomplishments. If Iraqis adopt a constitution and hold elections as planned, support for the insurgency should fall and Iraqi security forces should be able to take on more responsibility. It will also set the stage for American forces to begin to come home.

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Of course everything done in Iraq, from the government to the constitution to the elections, and now the oil law, has been orchestrated by the Bush admin via a puppet government.

In October 2005, Kerry shaped the plan for a deadline in his Path Forward speech:

This difficult road traveled demands the unvarnished truth about the road ahead.

To those who suggest we should withdraw all troops immediately -- I say No. A precipitous withdrawal would invite civil and regional chaos and endanger our own security. But to those who rely on the overly simplistic phrase "we will stay as long as it takes," who pretend this is primarily a war against Al Qaeda, and who offer halting, sporadic, diplomatic engagement, I also say -- No, that will only lead us into a quagmire.

The way forward in Iraq is not to pull out precipitously or merely promise to stay "as long as it takes." To undermine the insurgency, we must instead simultaneously pursue both a political settlement and the withdrawal of American combat forces linked to specific, responsible benchmarks. At the first benchmark, the completion of the December elections, we can start the process of reducing our forces by withdrawing 20,000 troops over the course of the holidays.

The Administration must immediately give Congress and the American people a detailed plan for the transfer of military and police responsibilities on a sector by sector basis to Iraqis so the majority of our combat forces can be withdrawn. No more shell games, no more false reports of progress, but specific and measurable goals.

It is true that our soldiers increasingly fight side by side with Iraqis willing to put their lives on the line for a better future. But history shows that guns alone do not end an insurgency. The real struggle in Iraq -- Sunni versus Shiia -- will only be settled by a political solution, and no political solution can be achieved when the antagonists can rely on the indefinite large scale presence of occupying American combat troops.


In fact, because we failed to take advantage of the momentum of our military victory, because we failed to deliver services and let Iraqis choose their leaders early on, our military presence in vast and visible numbers has become part of the problem, not the solution.

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Kerry introduced his deadline in binding legislations in April 2006, which led to http://www.johnkerry.com/initiatives/kerry_feingold">Kerry-Feingold.

Congress went backward, unnecessarily, with this recent vote, and they need to be criticized.



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Hissyspit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:21 PM
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13. k&r. Why doesn't this have more recommendations?
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H2O Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:27 PM
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15. One more here .....
Powerful article.
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ulysses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:36 PM
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17. Error: You've already recommended that thread.
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bonito Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:31 AM
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10. Parents have every right to speak out
This occupation was known to be a disaster from the start but they went ahead with it anyway.

Corporate control of foreign policy greases the greedy hands of war profiteers leaving diplomacy by the wayside as unprofitable at the cost of human life.

Armed forces are necessary to defend the country from attack, parents have a duty to speak out to protect their children that serve our country when our "elected" officials deny diplomacy in preference to getting wealthy.

The absence of impeachment the continued funding from Congress is disheartening to say the least.
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ulysses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 12:50 PM
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12. that's some difficult stuff.
I feel really badly for this guy.
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Solly Mack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:25 PM
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14. ...
and idiots wonder why I'm not impressed with my government
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 09:37 PM
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18. It took me most of today,
scanning past this post, to get to the point that I could read more than one paragraph. I'm the mother of 2 adult sons. Their loss is unthinkable, so much so, that I couldn't face the loss of another parent's son, and another parent's pain.

This has to be one of the most painful threads I've read at DU in a very long while.

We can't even comfort ourselves with the thought that this family's loss, this young man's loss, will be the last, because there is no end in sight.

There is no excuse that congressional democrats can offer that I will accept.
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Hissyspit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-27-07 11:23 PM
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20. .
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DemReadingDU Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-28-07 05:32 AM
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22. morning kick
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