18-year-old boy in my neighborhood has been charged with molesting an 11-year-old girl

[scheming daemons]

He lives 6 houses from me. He was "baby-sitting" the 11 year old girl who lives next door to him.

He's being charged with indecent assault, aggravated indecent assault, endangering the welfare of children, and corruption of minors.



My own daughters are 15 and 10.


I've seen this kid in my neighborhood nearly every day for the past 10 years, riding his bike, waiting at the same bus stop as my daughters, hanging out with his friends, etc.


He was fondling an 11 year old. That's the accusation he's been charged on.


I would've never thought this kid would do something like this. My own daughter is good friends with the victim.



Right now, I think if this kid got within 20 feet of my daughter that I would probably do something that would put my ass in jail for assault as well. Yes, I know this is a very negative and counterproductive emotion to have.

But I think you fathers of young daughters out there know where I'm coming from.

[Odin2005]

1. Ugh! A guy a knew from high school got cought raping a 12yo girl in my hometown!

I know the girl (she is the daughter of a friend of my mom) and I wanted to break every bone in that sick monster's body.

I hope your fellow inmates kill you before you ever see the light of day again, Chris, you sick fuck!

[LiberalFighter]

2. Let it go through the courts.

I imagine he might be guilty but let the prosecutors and courts determine that.

[cartach]

3. Just another excuse for

letting something slide until the uncomfortable memory dims and goes away. Meanwhile we immediately go on to other thoughts that make us feel good. It's sticking your head in the sand or up your butt and I say BS. If a person is accused that is good enough for me to accept that there's a good chance they did it and instead of running away from any responsibility I have for facing the reality of what happened, I can reaffirm in my mind how I really feel about it and what I could and would do to prevent something like it happening to someone else. While an accused might in fact be innocent until proven guilty that is no excuse for not thinking about the incident,the alleged perpetrator and the most important of all,the victim.

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[peopleb4money]

13. I agree that a person has a right to a fair trial and for facts to be assessed, but...

I can understand why people would have reason to be on guard. Whether its a suspect, who even the victims are unsure is guilty or a suspect who the victims absolutely know is guilty, I would remain alert and in suspicion in either case. Just because the accused is going through a legal process and hasn't officially been declared guilty by the state doesn't mean people around the family don't have a deeper understanding of the situation. Its not my community, so I don't understand the full context of it to make any of those judgements. I think its pretty straight forward though in this case. I'm sure the victim knows who she was molested by.

[JackDragna]

17. "Good enough for me to accept."

In your statement is the embodiment of everything wrong with the mob-mentality, finger-pointing paranoia revolving around those accused of sex crimes. Where in this post did the postee say one should stick their head in the sand? What, exactly, does "thinking" about the incident or the victim accomplish? Your post reeks of the type of bald-faced paranoia about the world I see in conservatives. You seem chomping at the bit to lash out at a world you are very, very afraid of.

[TroglodyteScholar]

18. So basically if we don't automatically view him as though he's guilty...

...then we are morally inferior to you?

The legal system exists for a reason, buddy.

[lumberjack_jeff]

23. Agreed. n/t

[tularetom]

4. Every time some pimply faced little jerk came to see my daughter

I made sure there was a 12 gauge shotgun prominently displayed somewhere in the living room. Sometimes I'd be cleaning it.

Real sub-tile, huh. Didn't want them getting the wrong idea.

But these were just regular kids, not perverts. I'm glad I never had to confront the fact of a molester living in the neighborhood when she was younger.

Or my son either for that matter.

[LisaL]

5. Why would someone get an 18 year old boy to

babysit an 11 year old girl?

[jonnyblitz]

7. umm, I watched my younger sister at that age. not all 18 year old

boys are molesters. jesus. :eyes:

[Chulanowa]

9. If you've spent any time on DU at all...

You would have learned that simply having a Y chromosome makes you a latent rapist to some people.

[chrisa]

26. lol. I've heard that elsewhere (outside of DU).

All men are possible rapists. Well, if you go down that road, all people are possible murders also.

[LisaL]

10. Did I say all 18 year old boys were molesters? Jesus right

back at you.:eyes:

[lumberjack_jeff]

24. No, you said that 18 year old boys are obviously unsuited for childcare.

If we are to assume that your comment had something to do with the OP, then that is exactly what you were saying.

[etherealtruth]

20. Of course not ...

My oldest child is twelve years older than his sister (and 14 years older than his brother). I trusted the younger ones with him completely .... at the ages of 28, 16 and 14 ... he is a wonderful role model and protector of his younger siblings.

No doubt the same would be said about you.

[chrisa]

27. Why not?

Are they less suited to care for a child than an 18 year old girl? For what reason?

[pitohui]

6. don't ever allow your child to babysit for extra money

a false story, a tall tale, and your life is over

when i babysat as a teen, a 9 yr old told some wild tales abt how he was molested by my sister and several other girls, fortunately, in those days, people understand that children (esp. young boys) have a vivid imagination

today, my sister's life would be over

don't assume a boy is guilty based on an ACCUSATION or based on he said, she said

[moriah]

16. Don't assume innocent or guilty.

I agree 100% with what another poster in here said about using this as an opportunity to talk to your kids...

.... but this thread kind of hit home because something very similar happened to me. I was 10, he was 17. My older sister had been the one who was supposed to be watching me, but thought the guy was a good kid who wouldn't do anything to hurt me, and he had a Nintendo and I wanted to play it since we didn't have one. I was alone with him for about two hours. It was long enough.

But I didn't tell. (Edit to add: the main reason I didn't tell was I didn't want my sister to feel guilty for not protecting me -- she had been abused by my father and did her damndest to keep me safe from him by being brave enough to tell. I didn't want her to think it had been all for nothing.)

[northernlights]

19. yup.

40+ years ago I babysat 2 boys across the street, home with colds while their family was at church. The 4 year old told the 8 year old next door neighbor that I was mean to them. The 8 year old told my mother that the 4 year old told him that I was mean to them. My mother banned me from babysitting again.

My crime? I made them let me watch Underdog instead of the cartoon they wanted. I infringed on their preferred cartoon for 30 minutes out of, I don't know, 4 hours?

At the time, what she did seemed horribly unfair, without even an investigation. And it was. But in hindsight, she inadvertantly did me a favor.

Kids do sometimes lie, exaggerate, brag to each other, etc. And I've watched parents defend their kid's behavior, no matter how horrible, cruel or dangerous. Well, that's the price parents pay. now for the crazy parents..nobody in their right mind will babysit because it's nothing but trouble...

[Jayendra Sandeep]

11. Innocent until proven guilty

Since I don't know the guy or the young girl or the circumstances, I'm going to wait for the verdict.

[Mira]

12. Talk to your daughters very plainly.

Use it as a teaching situation. Then all of you get on with your lives and let the system handle him to determine his guilt or innocence.

My grandson's godfather was accused of, convicted of, and jailed for downloading internet porn about adult men and little boys, and for stalking small boys with a camera.
All of that happened after he had babysat the grandson (who was under 3 or at most 4 at the time) a few times.

We were terrified. Social Services came and talked to the parents, and the young one.

Naturally we had to stop all association with him.

The most valuable thing in this situation is the conversation you will have with your daughters.

[moriah]

15. This.

[proteus_lives]

14. Guy I worked with turned out to be pedo.

He was 17 or 18. Got caught molesting the kids he babysat. He's prison now, I believe. Hopefully getting what he deserves.

[liberalhistorian]

21. The key word here being CHARGED.

And NOT convicted. Not all such charges have merit. Not everyone who claims them is telling the truth.

[Upton]

22. Has he been convicted?

Because you sound like either the trial is over, or you wish to skip it all together. Nice.:eyes:

[arcadian]

25. Now if you assault that kid it will be premeditated

Since you just left your evidence all over the internet.

[ZombieHorde]

28. I completely understand where you are coming from,

but of course you know getting yourself arrested is not in the best interest of your daughters.

I do understand your emotions, but this situation requires logic.