Rush Limbaugh’s Wedding Ends a Bad Week for Marriage You Can't Divorce Yourself

[Ian David]

Rush Limbaugh’s Wedding Ends a Bad Week for Marriage
You Can't Divorce Yourself: The Marriage Merry-Go-Round

First, the Gores break up. Then our local Minnesota Congressman and first Muslim in the House of Representatives Keith Ellison files for divorce. Normally I might look to a high profile wedding as a sign of hope, but the week ended with 59 year old Rush Limbaugh’s fourth marriage, this one to a 33 year old woman whom he met during the divorce of his third wife. For his fourth wedding he went over the top, hiring Elton John, (a strange choice for entertainment given Limbaugh’s public concerns about gay marriage), who performed for 400 guests for a reported one million dollars. When asked about marrying someone 26 years her senior, the bride told the press, "I'm sometimes not able to relate to the average person my age." Age is the least of the issues.

Rush Limbaugh's multiple marriages is a 21st century American story. As sociologist Andrew Cherlin documented in his terrific book The Marriage Go Round, we Americans are crazy about both pair bonding and breaking up. In comparison to Europe, American's cohabitate and split up more easily, we marry and divorce more frequently, and we go on to remarry and re-divorce more readily. I’m not against hope or against trying again for a permanent union. But as a marriage therapist what I find depressing is people churning through multiple marriages without learning very much—except that they married for the wrong reasons or married the wrong person (but now it’s different) or that the love went away.

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Real insight into a divorce involves understanding one’s own role. Limbaugh at one time did show potentially deeper insight into why he was not good love material. “I’m too much in love with myself,” he said once between marriages. I wonder if his new wife saw that quote, or this one: "If you want a successful marriage, let your husband do what he wants to do," he once said.

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The same with the new Limbaugh marriage: What seared me at the end of a troubling week is the public story line that it’s wonderful to keep trying to find a lifelong mate despite any evidence that the newlyweds have learned squat from past divorces. I hope the new marriage succeeds again the odds. But to celebrate this kind of union does a disservice to marriage and increases public skepticism about the institution. I wonder what were the guests thinking?



More:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/marriage-and-parenting-in-todays-culture/201006/rush-limbaugh-s-wedding-ends-bad-week-marriage

Hat-tip to: http://twitter.com/utbrp/status/15629197774



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Elton John played in Sun City and other South African Venues During Apartheid
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[Xenotime]

1. It sickens me to see his photo

[Ilsa]

2. Does anyone have pics of previous wives? I'm thinking

that they all look alot like each other.

I can't imagine why this woman married Rush the Misogynist. No amount of money, or pre-nup hush money, is worth being tied to that lying sack of shit.

[seabeyond]

3. 41% first marriage end divorce. 67% second marriage end divorce. 73% third marriages

end in divorce.

i think that about says it

what if fourth marriage 80%?

[yella_dawg]

4. That top pic of Limbaugh is revolting.

The second, not so much. Sorta cute in a way. And his wife is really built for somebody her age.