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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:12 PM
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To the generosity of the Mexican people.
Edited on Wed May-05-10 05:38 PM by EFerrari
My mother is old now. She’s 78 and for years the only help she’s had has come from the Mexican community here in East San Jose. Probably, mostly from undocumented people. I‘ve never worried about her for a moment up here on her ranch alone and there’s probably nothing short of knowing Mexican culture that could ever allow me to trust anyone so far.

In my family, gratitude for the Mexican people goes back a long way. We are not from Mexico. My mother’s family is from El Salvador. Her parents were a marriage of the oligarchy and the military, my grandmother a planter’s daughter and my grandfather an officer with a knack for politics.

Long story short, my grandfather served under a dictator so crazy and so brutal that he’s still talked about today. And my grandfather led an unsuccessful coup that put Papi in house detention for about a year only because executing him would have been a political risk.

The fun part is that he escaped out of El Salvador by getting his security detail drunk and disguising himself as a chauffer. He drove straight to Mexico. Somehow, my grandmother followed him with five kids, a grandkid and her mother in law. On buses, all that way. I still don’t know how she did that.

In any case, when he landed in Mexico, he set about contacting the Mexican president who at the time was Lazaro Cardenas, a real progressive. Cardenas did things that must have infuriated the US and European powers -- like nationalizing Mexico’s resources and redistributing land and eliminating the death penalty. His Wiki entry says that he never used bodyguards or security. I don’t know if that is true but he seems to have been respected among the people.

Cardenas offered my grandfather a commission in the Mexican Army. He’d get to keep his rank. Of course, the offer was declined and instead, Gen. Castaneda gratefully accepted surveying work in Baja (that may or may not have needed to be done) while he and his compeers figured out how to oust the dictator and his party. Which they did eventually.

But, all of that pales beside this point: between the time my family fled to Mexico and the time my grandfather was able to contact President Cardenas, they had nothing. No place to sleep, no money to buy food with, no way to stay in touch with anyone. There was no net or cell phones in 1938 and Cardenas already had his hands full. They survived on the goodwill of the poorest of the poor in the slums of Mexico City, who extended their hospitality to this group of strangers. My mom says that but for the commie pinko nuns in that parish, she wouldn’t have eaten at all during that time which, as far as I can tell, was weeks, not days. You can be very alone in a city. And yet this big family was somehow taken in and incorporated by that community, just as they were, until they were able to manage on their own.

In all, the family spent about 7 years in Mexico City. And when they were preparing to return to El Salvador to be part of the new administration, most of their friends didn’t believe them when they were trying to say “good-bye”, which is not unreasonable. But when my mom and her brothers and sisters left Mexico, they took with them a love of Mexico and of the Mexican people that sixty years on has never diminished. And that love and regard has been passed on.

So when I read these slurs and fears and judgments about Mexican people, I can’t process them. Because I know third, second and first hand who these people are. And sometimes, I have to wonder if La Raza Cósmica, “the cosmic race” which has incorporated within itself all the races, all the bits of DNA that came to this continent, isn’t lending itself out a little bit to unite this fragmented country, lending a little dignity, a little extra love of family and community, a little tolerance, a little humor. We could use all of those things right about now.

* * *

"Negrita de mis pesares,
ojos de papel volando.
Negrita de mis pesares,
ojos de papel volando.
A todos diles que sí
pero no les digas cuándo.
Así me dijiste a mí;
por eso vivo penando.

¿Cuándo regresa mi negra?
Que la quiero ver aquí
con su rebozo de seda
que le traje de Tepic."

-- El son de la Negra








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mix Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:23 PM
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1. +1
For an entirely different set of reasons, I too have been blessed by the generosity and kindness of many Mexican men and women throughout my life and have always resented and fought against the racism aimed at them.

Beautiful and necessary post.
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sabrina 1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:24 PM
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2. I am glad you wrote this wonderful story EFerrari.
I have worked with Mexican immigrants, don't know if they were legal or not, they were just people. They were wonderful, giving, generous and professional. They taught me, or tried, to speak a little Spanish, and they were so much fun, a few times teaching me to say silly things, (which I didn't know) to some of the guys. We laughed a lot about that, but I did get them back.

They are kind, something that seems to be missing a lot in this country and I often wished they didn't have to leave their own country and wouldn't mind living in a place where the people are as nice as those I have met here.

Great story, I'm glad your grand-father made it to Mexico and survived. I wonder if he and his family would have been as welcome here at that time?
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 07:08 PM
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13. Well, my grandfather was given political asylum in Mexico
Edited on Wed May-05-10 07:08 PM by EFerrari
when he and his family arrived there with nothing.

In contrast, my mother and her siblings all had to be sponsored by wealthy people before they were allowed to enter the United States.

I love this country but it does seem @ss backward sometimes. lol
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pampango Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:27 PM
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3. Great personal story. I know when I spent a week in Mexico City in the 1980's visiting friends,
I was honestly surprised at the history and culture of the Mexican people. It made me realize how our culture denigrates Mexicans. The subliminal message seems to be that it is a country filled with poor hopeless people when that is far from the case.

Their economy is the 11th largest in the world. They have a terrible problem with inequality in income and wealth, but their inequality index is almost identical to that of the US. For us to attack them on that is kind of a pot calling the kettle black.

Anyway, my week there (and some shorter trips since) opened my eyes to the complex society that Mexico is. I have a lot of respect for their history, culture and the pride that most of their citizens take in both.
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Scurrilous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:28 PM
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4. K & R
:thumbsup:
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IndianaJoe Donating Member (664 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:32 PM
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5. Loved your story. All my personal experiences with
Mexicans have been good ones too.
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a la izquierda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:37 PM
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6. Holy smokes! That's a great family story.
One of these days I'll have to PM you about how I met a young relative of Efrain Rios Montt.

K & R

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msedano Donating Member (682 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:41 PM
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7. Mexicans and Chicanos don't need to divide loaves & fishes...
...just add a bit of water to the beans and make the tortillas a little thinner and smaller, and you can always feed one more mouth. nopales grow wild, as does epazote. make me a taco with beans, nopales grilled on a bed of glowing embers, and i am back where i grew up. in southern california.

thank you eferrari for this gentle paean to the gente of mexico. and speaking of cardenas--the guy who nationalized US oil interests, his administration offered succor to jews and other targets fleeing nazi persecution (look up Gilberto Bosques, a Mexicano Schindler). i suppose arizona's hate-law targeting Mexican-origin workers is a kind of twisted cosmic justice à la no good deed goes unpunished.

mvs
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:48 PM
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10. I need to thank that bruja in Arizona for spurring me to remember
how much I owe. :)
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Caliman73 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 03:57 PM
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36. Hell yeah!!
My abuelita was happiest when her house was bursting at the seams and she was frying the frijoles with lard. As the grandkids got older and drifted away I would take friends from high school over and her face would light up as she broke out he pots and pans to cook up whatever she had available. I graduated 20 years ago and she still remembered my Korean friend who would come over and eat her chiles and how he's be sweating and all red, but he loved it, and so did she. I miss her.
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jesus_of_suburbia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:44 PM
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8. K&R!
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Subdivisions Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:45 PM
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9. It's stories like this that enrich the quality of life on DU. Thanks for telling it, EFerrari. n/t
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texastoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:56 PM
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11. That is an awesome story
It is impossible for me to understand why in the world anyone would not love the Mexican people. I've never not had them in my life and can't imagine not. Love all the ones I've ever known.
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kgnu_fan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 05:59 PM
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12. Thank you so much for your beautiful story...
Your writing made me feel so safe, so relaxed. Just like coming home to something familiar, something I know deep in my own blood.

I hope we go back to (or arrive at) that innocent humanity, or even our true mammal nature - warm blooded creature.

I don't glorify poverty but in my own experience, people who are not overtly filled with material satisfaction often show more kindness, humanity and friendship to others around them. We know bread alone is not enough for our true nourishment. May our community be warm, safe and kind.
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texastoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 07:13 PM
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14. Kick n/t
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 09:28 PM
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15. ..
Edited on Wed May-05-10 09:29 PM by dionysus
:thumbsup::thumbsup:
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amborin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-05-10 09:33 PM
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16. K&R
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midnight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 04:25 AM
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17. So glad you can't process this hate that seems to be ok by some... Great story.
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yellerpup Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 08:42 AM
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18. I will never understand the hatefulness
expressed to such lovely people over something as artificial (and temporary in Universal terms) as political borders. What's not to love about Mexicans? :kick: & recommend
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Tailormyst Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 08:45 AM
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19. Your grandparents story would make a great movie!
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Taverner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 11:13 AM
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20. Awesome story! Thank you so much for sharing!
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bleever Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 11:35 AM
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21. K&R.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful story, Beth.

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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 12:59 PM
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27. Mi placer.
:grouphug:
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Vattel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 11:48 AM
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22. I too cannot understand the hatred towards Mexicans
by so many Americans, not to mention the cold indifference to the plight of the poor who cross some stupid man-made border to feed themselves and their loved ones. I love Mexico and the Mexican people.
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azul Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 12:14 PM
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23. When your days are at an end, and you take a last breath,
will you smile from the beauty of love and kindness that has surrounded you, taken you in, or will you be afraid to close your eyes from fear of ghosts and loneliness?


"A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved."
-Kurt Vonnegut
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 12:36 PM
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24. I love that!
:hi:
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 12:44 PM
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25. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Beautiful, fascinating - and important. :thumbsup:
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 01:57 PM
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32. It struck me lately (I can be pretty clueless)
that the signature song for mariachi music is a love song to a black woman. And that the UFW's theme song was a song celebrating diversity (De Colores) -- not *their* color (as if there was one), but all colors. If you search "generosity Mexican people", you get 5 million hits.

I studied folklore with Alan Dundes for a while. He could argue national character in every direction and I'm not really sure what can be taken away from that, finally. But if national character, cultural character does exist, generosity and humor are definitely part of the Mexican national character. Which means, to my mind, it's a damn good thing that our own culture has a chance to mingle with such an affirming influence. :party:

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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 12:48 PM
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26. Wow.
You are so blessed to have been surrounded by so many generations of love.

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Echo In Light Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 01:03 PM
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28. K/R
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nadinbrzezinski Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 01:05 PM
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29. My father shares a similar story
coming from Europe at the end of WW II, as a political refugee, with the shirt on his back.

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LuckyLib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 01:06 PM
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30. What a wonderful post -- so many white Americans have amazing stories
of connection to Mexico, Mexican Americans, inter-racial family marriages. I have lived and now travel in Mexico extensively. The picture painted in the US of a drug-war ravaged culture of folks indifferent to corruption is not the real story. Stories like yours help put together the real picture.

Gracias!
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 01:17 PM
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31. It's been too long for me. I have to scoop up my mom
and take her on an adventure. The problem with traveling with her is that I can't keep up with her. I can't even ply her with food and drink to slow her down because she doesn't eat much and she doesn't drink at all. lol

:hi:
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Nothing Without Hope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 02:53 PM
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33. Thank you for this inspiring story. Bigotry actually costs the bigots a lot, too.
Look at what they are throwing away without even dreaming it exists. Narrow, pitiful, fearful bigots, let us work to teach them and in the meantime protect and embrace those they would harm.
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Maat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 03:29 PM
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34. Thanks for the wonderful story, E.
:)

Mexicans and Mexican-Americans have been such an essential part of my life - all 51 years of it here in SoCal. I stand in solidarity with them.
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noiretextatique Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 03:42 PM
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35. fascinating story
thanks so much for sharing it :hi: the same people who hate mexicans hate me, so i stand in solidarity with the mexican people against the racists and their racist laws.
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 03:58 PM
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37. You know, I think I've looked at that Rivera painting in the OP
hundreds of times without seeing it. lol

Let's see how we do. :hi:
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noiretextatique Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 04:10 PM
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38. it's a beautiful painting
i am from los angeles...born and raised. i grew up with mexican food, mexican culture and mexican people. an attack on my hermanos y hermanas is an attack on me.
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fascisthunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 04:33 PM
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39. kick! (nt)
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 09:07 PM
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40. This is why...
Edited on Thu May-06-10 09:09 PM by bliss_eternal
...I cringe at broad-brushed comments and stereotypes made on the board (and make the effort to speak against them). What the media shows the world, is frequently a very small portion of any cultural group. Thank you for taking the time to share such an interesting, rich and wonderful aspect from your personal history with us....and thank you for linking one of my favorite Diego Rivera paintings.

:loveya::hi::grouphug:
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bemildred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 09:12 PM
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41. Kick. nt
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fishwax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-06-10 09:48 PM
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43. k & r
:kick:
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emsimon33 Donating Member (904 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 04:31 PM
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44. Well said
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G_j Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 04:36 PM
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45. wonderful post
brought tears to my eyes

thank you so much!
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Horse with no Name Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 04:40 PM
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46. I've lived in a border state my entire life
If I had to choose ONE word to sum up my experiences and dealings with the Mexican people it would be "resourceful".
Many Americans don't have the want or the courage to just "make do" when the times call for that. Mexicans do.
Thank you for this wonderful insight into your family.
:hug:
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 08:58 PM
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49. That's the absolute truth.
Resourceful to the point of looking like magicians. My mom and I joke that our mechanic friend can fix any problem with whatever is in his back pocket as long as we bring him his lunch. LOL

I think because she spent formative years in Mexico, she's like that, too. It's a completely different way of looking at a problem and I can see how it grates on US citizens who are unfamiliar with it. I've been around it my whole life so it just feels like "family". :hi:
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 04:41 PM
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47. Too late to rec, but like an angry mule on it's last breath....
...I can still kick.

:kick:
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lunatica Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 04:45 PM
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48. I'm a gringa who spent my first 25 years in Mexico
Edited on Sat May-08-10 04:46 PM by lunatica
To me it's my first home. If I could I would return in a second. My son was born there and has dual citizenship. They are the best people on earth. They don't even know they're being generous or kind. They just are.
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