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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 06:56 AM Original message |
My friend's kid is being gay-bashed. |
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Rhythm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:00 AM Response to Original message |
1. The kid's parents need to be in conversation with the teachers and admins |
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Sabriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:44 AM Response to Reply #1 |
18. Not conversation, writing! |
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Rhythm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 09:05 AM Response to Reply #18 |
23. Agreed with Sabriel... Do everything in writing... and document EVERYTHING |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 09:33 AM Response to Reply #23 |
26. I think the parents here are operating from the following premise: |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:20 AM Response to Reply #26 |
30. This is third freaking grade, talk to the administration and teachers and then start talking to |
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FedUpWithIt All (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:38 AM Response to Reply #30 |
37. I agree completely. n/t |
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CoffeeCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:37 PM Response to Reply #26 |
70. This is the wrong attitude... |
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alcibiades_mystery (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 08:33 AM Response to Reply #26 |
81. It's not a dilemma - this "worse for the child" shite has done nothing but license rampant bullying |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:48 AM Response to Reply #18 |
44. +1 to support this approach. |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:47 AM Response to Reply #1 |
19. they should go round to the parents and have a discussion |
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Ian David (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:04 AM Response to Original message |
2. A whole sheet of thumbtacks sticking up, taped to his arm under his shirt... |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:28 AM Response to Reply #2 |
7. Yeah. I'm guessing it's more than just the shoving, though. |
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Kahuna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:04 AM Response to Original message |
3. What ever happened to the new, "no tolerance" when it comes to bullying? |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:20 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. School admins make up stuff like that for general consumption. |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:43 AM Response to Reply #3 |
11. If the bullies' parents are powerful or rich enough, the school will be scared to step in. |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:46 AM Response to Reply #3 |
13. "no tolerance" always ends up being about trivial shit |
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immoderate (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 04:24 AM Response to Reply #13 |
77. Cough drops! LOL! You are SO right. |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 04:48 AM Response to Reply #77 |
78. Zero tolerance policies are the kind of idea that weak, insecure "authority" figures always like |
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AngryOldDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 11:18 AM Response to Reply #3 |
84. In most cases, it doesn't exist. |
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Dr Morbius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:21 AM Response to Original message |
5. Do you have a friend who's a lawyer? |
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dsc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:26 AM Response to Original message |
6. as one who has been there |
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eShirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:29 AM Response to Original message |
8. Do they have karate lessons at that gym? |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:38 AM Response to Reply #8 |
9. Mmm.... that's how we crossed paths. |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:45 AM Response to Reply #9 |
12. Also, the problem with the "punch out the bully" theory is that |
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eShirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:53 AM Response to Reply #12 |
14. if I meant a "punch out the bully" strategy I would have suggested boxing. |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:33 AM Response to Reply #14 |
16. No offense to you or to martial arts training intended |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:16 AM Response to Reply #16 |
29. sometimes that "training" is just a matter of confidence |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:24 AM Response to Reply #29 |
31. Our son had to use that training when he was assaulted by six kids this past October |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:43 AM Response to Reply #31 |
39. the "adults" were hiding... |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 08:20 AM Response to Reply #39 |
79. Well, his story is a mix of good and bad now.... |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:46 AM Response to Reply #31 |
40. that's pretty awesome |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 08:21 AM Response to Reply #40 |
80. The people in charge of his school didn't give a damn and wouldn't even return emails.... |
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Mojeoux (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 02:57 AM Response to Reply #31 |
75. He's my new kid hero! |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:59 AM Response to Reply #12 |
15. Thanks for "life is a battle" as adjective. |
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JHB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 09:10 AM Response to Reply #9 |
24. You're right that black belts aren't the solution... |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:40 AM Response to Reply #8 |
17. i hate it when people say bullied kids should just fight back |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:50 AM Response to Reply #17 |
20. It also assumes the bully will fight you fair |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 09:00 AM Response to Reply #20 |
22. exactly |
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paulsby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 01:24 PM Response to Reply #22 |
61. get over yourself |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 01:47 PM Response to Reply #61 |
62. i don't think it's wrong for kids to fight back |
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paulsby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 02:14 AM Response to Reply #62 |
72. i think you have a strange definition of "immoral" |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 12:56 PM Response to Reply #72 |
85. i tell my kids the same thing my mama told me - |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 09:28 AM Response to Reply #17 |
25. Agreed. Or they're kids who've been taught not to handle |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:35 AM Response to Reply #25 |
34. absolutely, |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 06:26 PM Response to Reply #34 |
67. And you have to wonder about the price paid by all of those kids |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 08:51 AM Response to Reply #8 |
21. the fucking idea that bullied kids should learn karate or get tougher, or learn to fight |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 10:58 AM Response to Reply #21 |
28. Actually, learning karate or something like that can give a kid confidence |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:28 AM Response to Reply #28 |
32. That still teaches the bullied kid that something in him needs to be changed to end it. |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:38 AM Response to Reply #32 |
36. That encapsulates my problem with this atttitude |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:55 AM Response to Reply #36 |
47. Thanks! |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 02:53 AM Response to Reply #36 |
74. Yah - much better to teach the kid that he or she is powerless to do anything on his/her own... |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:47 AM Response to Reply #32 |
41. interesting point. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:08 PM Response to Reply #41 |
51. My little guy is going to be nine tomorrow! |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 02:43 AM Response to Reply #41 |
73. Yes he can always call on me. |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 12:58 PM Response to Reply #73 |
86. well, you're a vegan, |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:06 PM Response to Reply #32 |
49. Right. It teaches the kid that there are some things within their control. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:11 PM Response to Reply #49 |
53. The behavior of bullies is not one of those things. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:18 PM Response to Reply #53 |
54. It's funny because I didn't suggest that training for the bullied kid |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:26 PM Response to Reply #21 |
59. Exactly! What about the fucking BULLIES' behavior!?! |
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CoffeeCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:49 PM Response to Reply #59 |
71. Do you want to know why my daughter was told? |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 11:09 AM Response to Reply #71 |
83. Wow, what a pathetic principal! |
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eShirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:46 PM Response to Reply #21 |
60. WHOOSH |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 11:50 PM Response to Reply #21 |
87. It's tied into the even WORSE idea that having to face bullies "builds character" |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 07:42 AM Response to Original message |
10. K&R- and who the FUCK "unrec'd" this? |
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hypocrisyandlies (175 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:37 AM Response to Reply #10 |
35. Rec'd to counteract that unrec. |
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slampoet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 10:49 AM Response to Original message |
27. MOST kids who get "gay-bashed" in school are not gay. That's something people forget. |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:47 AM Response to Reply #27 |
42. ....and that's why gay-bashing should be a concern for *every* parent. |
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slampoet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 09:02 AM Response to Reply #42 |
82. BINGO! |
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Ken Burch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 11:54 PM Response to Reply #42 |
88. In school(if you're male)you're a potential gaybashing victim |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:48 AM Response to Reply #27 |
43. it's irrelevant though. |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:57 AM Response to Reply #43 |
48. What's interesting is that the language and attitudes are in place..... |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:51 AM Response to Reply #27 |
45. EX-ACTLY. That's why I posted this here and not in GLBT. |
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FedUpWithIt All (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:34 AM Response to Original message |
33. I am so sorry this is happening to this boy. There are dangers in waiting for the problem |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:52 AM Response to Reply #33 |
46. v/ good post |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:11 PM Response to Reply #33 |
52. Interesting observation: |
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hypocrisyandlies (175 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
38. Stories like this always make me feel sick. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:06 PM Response to Original message |
50. This has nothing to do with the "gay bashing" but everything to do with bullying..when my |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:19 PM Response to Reply #50 |
55. 3rd grade is when a lot of bullying picks up and needs to be addressed |
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Smarmie Doofus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 02:03 PM Response to Reply #50 |
63. Actually, it has a *lot* to do w. gay bashing. |
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miscsoc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 02:07 PM Response to Reply #63 |
65. interesting anecdote: |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 03:19 PM Response to Reply #63 |
66. I was referring to MY anecdote, not the OP. |
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Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:21 PM Response to Original message |
56. Ugh...kids can be so ugly to each other. And in 3rd grade!?! |
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a la izquierda (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:23 PM Response to Original message |
57. if i had a kid... |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 12:25 PM Response to Original message |
58. I'm straight, was always teased and bullied as being "gay" because I was the Sensitive Boy... |
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Initech (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 02:06 PM Response to Original message |
64. Like I said in another thread - douchebaggery trancends time and space. |
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CoffeeCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:28 PM Response to Original message |
68. This needs to be stopped...and stopped NOW... |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-17-10 11:35 PM Response to Original message |
69. lol - I remember when I was around that age another kid called me gay... |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-18-10 04:17 AM Response to Original message |
76. I'd skip the "conversations" with teachers and admin and just lawyer up. |
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