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I am a gay DU'er. The rules here at DU state that members are expected to support gay rights, including the right to marry. Breaking this rule by posting anti-gay-marriage screeds generally involves a warning and then a tombstone. This is the standard by which our community operates, and I think it's a good and important standard.
However, this logic is not applied to an equally-offensive and equally-important issue of civil rights for women--the right to choose. And it's not just DU--it's the party as a whole. Somehow it seems more "acceptable" to be against abortion than it is to be against gay marriage. I don't understand it at all. Isn't that position just as offensive as the people who'd deny me my right to marry? Aren't women's civil rights as vital to the party (and to the nation) as GLBT civil rights are? It makes no sense to me. I can't understand why it's okay to denigrate, insult, and offend women by arguing that we should not have control of our own bodies.
I don't know if it's because we want to be a "big tent" or because we're afraid of offending religious Democrats, but wouldn't both of those reasons also apply to the gay marriage issue? For DU specifically, why are we okay with offending religious people over gay marriage, but not over abortion? And why don't more people speak up about this strange double-standard in what we tolerate and what we don't?
I, for one, would like to see anti-choice speech forbidden here, right along with anti-gay speech because to me, both are types of hate speech and bigotry. I think 99% of the women in our community would breathe an enormous sigh of relief if they knew that they'd never have to suffer that kind of abuse and hate here ever again. I'd suspect that a large percentage of the men would be relieved as well.
What do you think? Does anti-choice speech have a proper place here at DU, or does it make the site as unhealthy and uncomfortable for women as anti-gay-marriage speech would make it for gay people? I think it's worth talking about. I can't help but wonder whether I'm alone in feeling this way. It's not my site, of course, and this is honestly NOT meant as some kind of call-out of the Admins. I'm sure they have a reason for it, but all the same, I hope that this discussion will be permitted. As a woman, I feel enormously violated every time I have to read that sort of thing here--not because I've never seen it before, but because I know that there's really nothing to be done about it. It's allowed by the rules, so I can either take it or leave. It's a bitter, bitter pill to swallow at times, because it seems like my fundamental rights as a woman are neither valued nor defended as much as my fundamental rights as a gay person, or someone else's fundamental rights as a person of color.
What are your thoughts?
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