What is the word for this type of personality????????

[brettdale]

Okay I know there is a word for it, basically I post on another board, a sports board from New Zealand.

The board is light hearted and there is a lot of ripping on people, all in good fun.

There is one poster there, and for the past few years, to most people on this board he would kid around and be a total gentleman to, but he was also very nasty and use to try and lay down the law to a few posters who he thought were beneath him, they were the posters who were on the minimum wage or didnt have a good job.

He took a few sporting bets with people there, and paid up straight away to several people, he lost a bet to a poster he didnt like, and didnt feel the need to pay up, it was only after other posters including myself sent him a message saying he should pay up that he did.

Well the group started up a sports betting account, with a betting agency (sports betting is legal in NewZealand) he was the one who the group decided would have the account and pin number, (like I said he was good to 80/90% on the group) people put money into the account, (I didnt) well he then dissapared from the group for a while, so of course all hell broke lose on the forum, he was called for every name under the sun.

Well he has now come back, with a legitimate excuse that has checked out, but he is very very very offended with the names people called him.

So I know there is a name for this type of personality, someone who only treats people good they deem to be on a par or above them, while treating those they deem to be beneath them terrible, and also having the trait of being very thinskinned.

What is the actual clinical name for this type of personality?

I know the all the swear words I would like to call him, but not the actual proper term.

[ret5hd]

1. uhhhhmmm...twit?

[DJ13]

2. Is asshole one word or two in New Zealand?

[dionysus]

3. douchebag?

[Hepburn]

4. Brown noser?

:shrug:

[eleny]

5. "Elitist" comes to mind

But I'm not sure it hits the nail on the head.

He does appear to have what we used to call a "superiority complex". But that's more of a 60s term. Old school vernacular.

[brettdale]

9. Yep

A superiority complex sounds like him also.

[cbayer]

6. Narcissistic

Overview
Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which there is an inflated sense of self-importance and an extreme preoccupation with one's self.
Symptoms
A person with narcissistic personality disorder:
Reacts to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation
Takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals
Has feelings of self-importance
Exaggerates achievements and talents
Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love
Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
Requires constant attention and admiration
Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy
Has obsessive self-interest
Pursues mainly selfish goals

edited to add link:

https://www.google.com/health/ref/Narcissistic+personality+disorder

[brettdale]

8. Thank you

Thanks for all the answers, yep Narcissitic is probably it, although the others sum him up well also.

[Caliman73]

14. I would go with elitist or condescending rather than Narcissistic

Narcissists tend to look down on everyone, with little exception. They appear to be charming and charismatic at first but are usually discovered to be self absorbed beyond what a typical person might be. An elitist is typically status conscious and will relate to people who they perceive are at their level and condescend to those who they feel are not. Narcissists typically have no levels. It is them, then there is everyone else.

[cbayer]

16. That's true, but they will appear ingratiating to those they feel may be able to

give them something they want. And the recognition from those they feel are superior to others (but not as superior as themselves) is more valuable than that of those they feel have nothing.

FWIW, elitist and condescending may be personality traits, whilst Narcissistic actually describes a disorder. The fascinating thing about the people with the disorder is how incredibly fragile they are underneath. In truth, they see themselves as totally worthless. Hence the fierce retribution if they feel they are being attacked.

:hi:

[bananas]

17. I have a question about this

Someone similar to the one described in the OP.
He's even said he is "an actual narcissist myself".
He also has the characteristics of a crackpot.
Here's what I don't understand:
His condescending remarks are often projections of his own personal failings.
For example, in one place he says he "struggled with obesity much of my adult life",
and in other place he tries to insult people by saying "You know, when I imagine some of the dumb (omitted), I tend to imagine fat guys laying around the edge of the pool".
Why would an obese person try to insult other people by calling them fat?

[cbayer]

19. I don't know what to tell you.

It sounds like he is using narcissist and crackpot in a colloquial fashion, not a clinical one.

People do all sorts of things to defend themselves against injury and they do it for really complex reasons.

I hope I did not mislead. I wasn't trying to give the guy described above a diagnosis. I was just matching a list of character traits with a known character disorder.

:hi:

[Selatius]

20. It sounds like he's trying to pre-empt an attack by attacking others first.

If he can throw the label of "fat ass" at someone else, he might be hoping it would draw any negative attention away from himself onto the target. Maybe he figures others would be too busy attacking the victim instead of himself.

[bananas]

23. It's kind of Rovian

Karl Rove would project his clients weaknesses onto his opponents.
This person does that a lot.
I just didn't expect him to do it with regard to his obesity problems,
because he's been quite open about his obesity problems for several years,
all the forum regulars know about it.
BTW, apparently the victim isn't fat, and nobody joined in the attack.

[Bobbie Jo]

7. Republican?

[Echo In Light]

10. Normal business man

[Parker CA]

11. Condescending, hypocritical entitlement personality.

[On the Road]

12. I Think You're Looking for Something Else

What you're describing is similar in a way to an authoritarian personality, who "kisses up and kicks down," only in this case it's not based on authority but on his personal evaluation.

You could simply describe him as snobbish, condescending, etc, since people with those qualities often display them only to their perceived inferiors.

[brettdale]

Thanks

Very interesting answers.

[Ikonoklast]

13. Someone that gets a lot of spit in their food in restaraunts.

After telling the waiter he was a loser because he made so little money.

[Kaleko]

15. Sounds like a passive aggressive type with a user mentality.

[TrogL]

18. psychopathic

also authoritarian

[librechik]

21. you might be thinking of authoritarian

assholes who like to step on their inferiors and suck up to their betters. Like to run things, like to lay down the rules, like to avoid the rules when they are at fault.

These are also traits of something called a BPD or NPD, Borderline Personality Disorder swings back and forth between on top of the world and at the bottom of the abyss, NPD Narcissist PD, think they are inherently better than anyone and need to be catered to at all times

Depends on your system of labels

[annabanana]

22. Ah. . a "kiss-up, kick-down" kind of guy...

Yeah. It's not just narcissistic, I don't think. Everything is seen through the lens of competition. No one wins unless there's a loser.