'sleeping with' vs 'having sex with'

[ensho]

sex is out there in the media plain as day.

so why is the act of sex referred to as 'sleeping with' instead of 'having sex with'?

on the talk shows, celebrity gossip, etc. they say 'sleeping with'. so and so has slept with x number of partners and so on.

you can see porn, talk about porn.

but when talking about a person or couple it stays to 'sleeping with' and not 'having sex with'.

I find myself yelling at the TV 'they are having sex, they are not sleeping'.

am I the only one annoyed by this?

[Bicoastal]

1. Snnnnnnxxx...

[eleny]

3. .

[Poll_Blind]

5. That is a BUNCH of dog, right there. n/t

PB

[ensho]

23. this dog looks like it should eat more

nt

[Poll_Blind]

2. It's because we're puritan idiots. Notice acts of violence are usually lovingly detailed in the...

..media but sexual relations, unless they are to be portrayed in some perverse light, are not. Hence, shit like "Sleeping with" instead of "having sex with". IMO, anyway.

PB

[seabeyond]

6. oh bullshit on the puritan crap. news, tv shows, everyday life, the shit is there. no more puritan

crap. that is not where this nation sits.

[Poll_Blind]

18. Well, how do you explain the disparity between the level of violence...

...which is deemed acceptable in American media versus the level of sexuality deemed acceptable in same?

You can show a person being choked to death on a television show in America and, in a lot of ways, it's quite common especially on an evening drama. But showing a full shot of exposed buttocks or, for instance, even a woman breastfeeding (in which the breast is exposed, but obviously not for any sexual purposes) or depicting a woman receiving a mammogram (again, where the breast is exposed, but not for sexual purposes) is such a taboo?

I remember when Merideth Baxter Birney did a drama about a woman dealing with breast cancer, IIRC. And in the beginning of it there was a warning- soley because of her exposed breast. Which, I assure you, was not shown in any way which could be considered sexually exciting. And yet, so much violence is prepared and consumed for American audiences, even scenes which are very explicit, without the same warning.

PB

[TankLV]

19. This nation IS a bunch of PURITAN wacko religiouos fundies...

Just look at the focus of EVERYTHING sexual...

you certainly can't claim we're a bunch of ENLIGHTENED souls now, can you?

[madeline_con]

31. Agreed. A holdover from back in the day. n/t

[Allyoop]

39. Back in the day

My parents when talking about a girl who "got in trouble" would say "she slept with him" as if she carried all the "blame" for making a baby.

Big leap from the 50's to 2000!

[madokie]

4. I have to admit I don't worry with that as I hardly ever see it

but I only watch a little of teevee other than ko and rachel. What pisses me off to no end is the ED commercials.

[leftstreet]

8. LOL Drugs that make you sit outside in a bathtub - is that a side effect?

ED ads are teh funny!

[MindPilot]

14. side effects may include...

headache, dizziness, upset stomach, reduced semen. Stop taking Cialis immediately if you notice any changes or decrease in vision.

All you can do is sit in the tub and hope your sight returns when that shit wears off.

[madeline_con]

32. An erection lasting more than 4 hours. What guy would complain? n/t

[Mari333]

43. true, he could be used as a hat rack

[Kaleva]

45. My wife says she'll wait a couple of days before bringing me to the ER.

[MindPilot]

9. I still do a double-take when I look at the TV guide and see

"The ED Show."

[imdjh]

7. Both are euphemisms for fucking, fornicating, copulating. But those words sound dirty.

Sodomy
Fellatio
Cunnilingus
Pederasty

Father, why do these words sound so nasty?

Masturbation
Can be fun
Join the holy orgy
Kama Sutra
Everyone!

[Gabi Hayes]

15. hah! thanks. one of the few musicals I can stomach

putting it on right now

I fell through a hole in the flag......

http://www.broadway.com/buzz/how-hairs-nude-hippies-changed-broadway-forever/

[RagAss]

10. ....in what respect, ensho?

[ensho]

13. what do you mean?

nt

[frogmarch]

11. I've wondered the same thing. Even in movies

where the characters use the words "vagina" and "penis," they still often say "slept with" instead of "had sex with."

[lunatica]

12. The image it conjures is more accurate than saying 'bathing with'

[grahamhgreen]

16. They should refer to it as 'making love' or 'boom-boom'

[ensho]

20. sexual love is a construct

you don't have to 'love' someone to have sex with them. Lust is the key word not love.

lust is not a construct.

[grahamhgreen]

22. 'boom boom' for just just sex, although 'making love' is so romantic and cool

like we are actually making love - creating more love in the universe, I love that thought....

[TankLV]

17. umm - because after a man has sex, HE usually falls asleep...?

...just guessing...

three minutes is HARD work!!!

[lunatica]

25. LOL! If I had been drinking something my keyboard would be dripping!

[ZombieHorde]

21. What ever happened to "bumping uglies"?

"The old in out in out."

"Satan's aerobics."

"The low five."

"The juicy hello."

"Playing with our food."

[Gabi Hayes]

24. is there a euphemism for this?

[knowbody0]

26. so, casual sex is napping, right?

[LWolf]

27. While it's certainly an unnecessary affectation,

it's also not high on the list of things that annoy me

[Odin2005]

28. YAWN.

:eyes:

[grasswire]

29. Dr. Maddow says "wocka-chicka-wocka-chicka"

I thought that was hilarious.

[FormerDittoHead]

30. I think there's a distinction of frequency and relationship. Sleeping indicates more intimacy.

This is my *CULTURAL* understanding of these terms. They're not the same.

You don't "sleep with" a hooker.

Did you have sex with that hooker? Yes.

Are you sleeping with her? HUH?

But when you're "seeing someone" on at least a semi-regular basis, it can be said you're sleeping with them.

[BlooInBloo]

33. "am I the only one annoyed by this?" - I certainly hope there aren't more of you.

[pipi_k]

34. I dunno. Maybe they really are just sleeping with each other without having sex.

I mean, it's possible, right?


I've slept with a few guys for months without having sex with them.

:shrug:

[TexasObserver]

35. Stop trying to have intercourse with me.

Talking, I mean, not that other one.



Wouldn't news be more fun if they'd use "intercourse" instead of "talking"?

"President Obama said he hasn't given up and wants to try more intercourse with the GOP."


I don't know why they use that silly "sleeping with" language. Are we third graders?!

[nolabear]

36. LOL...your age is showing.

I see a lot of teens and young adults and the term "sleeping with" never come into play. "hanging out," "hooking up," and just plain old "f***ing". They're much less euphemistic, though frankly I think they're less realistic about the ramifications. Of course, the ones I see are the ones for whom it's not going well.

[BlooInBloo]

37. I'm a fan of "fuck buddy" personally.

[RC]

40. What would you call it?

"fuck buddy" has a specific connotation.

[Odin2005]

47. In my neck of the woods the term us 20-somethings use is "friends with benefits"

:evilgrin:

[BlooInBloo]

50. Wow. That's the term I heard used like a decade ago...

I guess I hear it sometimes still.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

38. I like "The Horizontal Bop", myself.

Doin' the Wild Thing

[rucky]

41. Dad, what's sex?

[question everything]

42. If you want the details than it should be "having intercourse." (nt)

[FarCenter]

44. "sleeping with" implies spending the night together

While "having sex" could be just "slam, bam, thank you mam".

[ChimpersMcSmirkers]

46. It's more polite. Doesn't annoy me at all. I know what they are talking about.

I also use "going to bathroom" instead "going to pinch off a big, stinky shit" as well. Seems to work better in public I suppose.

[CRF450]

48. Doesn't bother me, its the same meaning either way... n/t

[omega minimo]

49. So "hooking up" is not crochet?

:shrug: