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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:14 PM Original message |
Dads and their concern for their daughters. |
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YOY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:17 PM Response to Original message |
1. The bad joke is that when you have a son in puberty you have only to worry about one penis. |
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EOTE (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:32 PM Response to Reply #1 |
12. I also have a 3 year old daughter. |
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SharonAnn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:22 PM Response to Reply #1 |
142. BUt 18 years of his child support payments for every child he fathers. |
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stopbush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:18 PM Response to Original message |
2. I have a 12-yr-old daughter and a 16-yr-old son, and I worry more about |
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Iris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:36 PM Response to Reply #2 |
106. if only we had the recommend function for replies to op's |
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Xipe Totec (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:23 PM Response to Original message |
3. If I had a daughter, we'd be outnumbered |
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spanone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:24 PM Response to Original message |
4. don't know why, just do. they seem more vulnerable? we know how 'guys' think? i dunno |
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ZombieHorde (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
5. Many males in the U.S. are told protecting women, especially their wives and daughters, from others |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:35 PM Response to Reply #5 |
15. Not just in America, but in many cultures this is the case. n/t |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:42 PM Response to Reply #5 |
22. And once the amount of violence against women all over the world |
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Cid_B (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 01:47 AM Response to Reply #5 |
154. Is that sexist? I don't know... |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:25 AM Response to Reply #5 |
187. Unlike all the other cultures where males think differently |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:40 AM Response to Reply #5 |
189. And yet, other people's wives and daughters are fair game. nt |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
6. sexist double standard |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:46 PM Response to Reply #6 |
27. It seems more and more people are aware of the double standard... |
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regnaD kciN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:53 PM Response to Reply #6 |
33. As I point out below, it's not so much "sexist" as "practical"... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:55 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. See post #23. (nt) |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:06 PM Response to Reply #33 |
88. Since women are the ones who get pregnant, the consequences of sex will pretty much always... |
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Liberal_in_LA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 11:51 PM Response to Reply #88 |
150. But with kids there is more to worry about than pregnancy. I know more families with sons that |
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dmr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:58 PM Response to Reply #33 |
149. When I was a girl, the guys would joke |
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gatorboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:56 PM Response to Reply #6 |
36. Do you have kids? |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:43 PM Response to Reply #36 |
130. No - but the double standard often continues throughout people's lives too |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:03 PM Response to Reply #6 |
54. That's exactly what I was thinking. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:07 PM Response to Reply #54 |
58. no way. no, not really. you father with a straight face told you brother |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:18 PM Response to Reply #58 |
71. LOL - well this was in the late 1960s |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:21 PM Response to Reply #71 |
74. that is funny. i was teen in 70's. but my father would go to mother and say |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:29 PM Response to Reply #74 |
78. That's really nice he said that - very progressive. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:12 PM Response to Reply #78 |
95. I think your parents are what many parents are actually like. These days |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:24 AM Response to Reply #95 |
156. That must be your daughter then |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:45 AM Response to Reply #95 |
165. Parent-child friendships are for when the child is grown up |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:06 AM Response to Reply #165 |
167. i dont need to tell kids, but did in the past. be clear, i am not your friend, i am mama |
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lolly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:14 PM Response to Reply #167 |
252. Why should they be mutually exclusive? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:29 PM Response to Reply #252 |
253. you are talking adults. i am talking kids. say what? nt |
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spanone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:42 AM Response to Reply #6 |
182. bullshit |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:24 AM Response to Reply #182 |
186. Nice rebuttal. Very cogent argument |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:43 AM Response to Reply #186 |
190. Well said! |
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Speck Tater (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
7. I have two daughters, one son, two grandaughters and one grandson. |
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Klukie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:27 PM Response to Original message |
8. The daughter will have to carry the child.... |
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DesertRat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:30 PM Response to Reply #8 |
9. That's it in a nutshell. n/t |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:29 AM Response to Reply #8 |
177. Let's stop with the melodrama |
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Klukie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:39 AM Response to Reply #177 |
179. So you are agreeing with me? |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:40 AM Response to Reply #179 |
214. I am agreeing |
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glowing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:31 PM Response to Original message |
10. If you haven't talked to your kids and instilled the values you wish them |
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eissa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:32 PM Response to Original message |
11. I have those kinds of concerns for my daughter |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:33 PM Response to Original message |
13. There are a lot of bad men out there |
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HamdenRice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:34 PM Response to Original message |
14. Sons can't get knocked up |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:42 PM Response to Reply #14 |
23. What does your comment say about the sense of responsibility... |
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regnaD kciN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:58 PM Response to Reply #23 |
38. It says, unfortunately... |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:03 PM Response to Reply #23 |
53. as a friend once said: men have fun, women have babies. nuff said. |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:05 PM Response to Reply #53 |
55. That person would never be a friend of mine. |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:14 PM Response to Reply #55 |
66. well, he had a point. women do have babies. and then end up taking care of them |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:23 PM Response to Reply #66 |
75. not so damn easy for the guy. niece got preg. had four fucks. four different guys |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:54 PM Response to Reply #75 |
132. that's true. but it's different now then it used to be. i couldn't believe |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:12 PM Response to Reply #132 |
138. texas seems to be pretty good about it. i am seeing more and more they are |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:24 PM Response to Reply #66 |
76. Sounds like my approach to mothering my daughters :) |
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JackRiddler (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:29 PM Response to Reply #23 |
79. Please don't confuse the issue... |
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DatManFromNawlins (640 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:50 PM Response to Reply #23 |
108. You haven't ever been a 12 year old boy, have you? |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:20 AM Response to Reply #108 |
205. Sorry, but no. |
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HamdenRice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:16 AM Response to Reply #23 |
162. It says a lot |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:22 AM Response to Reply #162 |
206. I wasn't aware... |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:43 AM Response to Reply #14 |
216. Absolutely |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:46 AM Response to Reply #216 |
218. i have seen threee horror stories up close, my 2 brothers and niece, |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:50 AM Response to Reply #218 |
220. Yes, |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:51 AM Response to Reply #220 |
221. i agree. nt |
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Nuclear Unicorn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:38 PM Response to Original message |
16. My dad says: |
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ZombieHorde (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:39 PM Response to Reply #16 |
18. I disagree with both of those statements. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:39 PM Response to Reply #16 |
19. I really hope that's a joke. (nt) |
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Nuclear Unicorn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:44 PM Response to Reply #19 |
25. What he means is: |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:45 PM Response to Reply #25 |
26. So that would make it the lame old sexual double standard. |
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Nuclear Unicorn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:53 PM Response to Reply #26 |
34. I scolded him about it being a double standard... |
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Schema Thing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:24 PM Response to Reply #34 |
48. he just doesn't realize that women (girls) are every bit |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:07 PM Response to Reply #48 |
57. only if you don't shame it out of them first and teach them that their bodies are dirty |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:09 PM Response to Reply #57 |
60. oooooh. i am finding this thread really informative |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:20 PM Response to Reply #60 |
73. thanks. it's hard, but i do listen. if emy (10) asks me a question i will answer it. |
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PSzymeczek (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:25 PM Response to Reply #73 |
100. I bought "How Did I Get Here" |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:55 PM Response to Reply #100 |
133. i'll look into it. thanks so much!! |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:50 PM Response to Reply #16 |
31. so this is what your father taught you. and we wonder why the issues are still alive and well. nt |
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Nuclear Unicorn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:59 PM Response to Reply #31 |
40. Well... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:14 PM Response to Reply #40 |
45. wink |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:08 PM Response to Reply #40 |
59. That may be, but the question is, what do you make YOUR daughter do? nt |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:12 PM Response to Reply #16 |
281. what a sad way of viewing women and oneself |
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Creena (501 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:38 PM Response to Original message |
17. My father must have missed the memo. |
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ZombieHorde (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:40 PM Response to Reply #17 |
20. I am sorry your dad is lame. nt |
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truebrit71 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:10 PM Response to Reply #17 |
251. I only have one daughter..would be more than happy to have a second.. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:30 PM Response to Reply #251 |
255. my brother a single father and steps too close to the line or literally over line has teenage girls |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:40 PM Response to Original message |
21. men know what men do |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:43 PM Response to Reply #21 |
24. That's what always pops up in my mind when I hear such comments. |
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krabigirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:10 PM Response to Reply #24 |
61. Yeah, and like girls can't handle it? lol |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:09 AM Response to Reply #61 |
199. What do you mean by that? (nt) |
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27inCali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:16 PM Response to Reply #24 |
68. expecting something to be prevalent |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:10 AM Response to Reply #68 |
200. True... however if it's not endorsed, I'd expect less of the "we just can't help it" crap. |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 12:44 AM Response to Reply #24 |
151. they don't give a fuck until it's their daughter, sister, mother, etc |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:59 AM Response to Reply #151 |
194. A-effing-men!!! nt |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:34 PM Response to Reply #194 |
288. You do not have to be a genius |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:11 AM Response to Reply #151 |
203. That's how it seems to me, too, Skittles. |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:29 PM Response to Reply #203 |
254. because then they WOULD HAVE to change, do something about it.... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:32 PM Response to Reply #254 |
256. my dad, hubby and two sons call bullshit on that. my two brothers claim hardwired |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:33 PM Response to Reply #254 |
287. Sounds like you would make the same choice if you had |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:34 PM Response to Reply #151 |
289. wow what an angry |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:14 PM Response to Reply #21 |
282. no we dont |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-26-09 02:08 PM Response to Reply #282 |
284. bullshit |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:29 PM Response to Reply #284 |
285. then act like we are not the monsters you portray us as |
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Xenotime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:48 PM Response to Original message |
28. It's a problem with men not being controlled as much as they should. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:52 PM Response to Reply #28 |
32. I agree. We tell girls that they must adjust to some boys' bad behavior... |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:58 PM Response to Reply #28 |
39. Please explain. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:16 PM Response to Reply #39 |
46. i chilled on that one too. but i think more expectation THEY can control self |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:58 PM Response to Reply #46 |
111. Yeah, kinda creepy. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:04 PM Response to Reply #111 |
137. Thank you. We just all need to be more understanding of the idea that people are people |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:13 PM Response to Reply #137 |
139. isnt that the truth. nt |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:13 AM Response to Reply #39 |
204. I took it to mean that girls are told to alter their behavior... boys get the message |
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regnaD kciN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:48 PM Response to Original message |
29. Sorry, but it's bloody simple... |
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Fumesucker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:49 PM Response to Original message |
30. I have a daughter, two granddaughters and a grandson. |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 05:57 PM Response to Original message |
37. Probably a double-standard. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #37 |
47. but wouldnt we want to put an end to the myth of girls twist around finger |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:55 PM Response to Reply #47 |
110. No worries. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:27 AM Response to Reply #37 |
207. It's not the sexism of this kind of comment that strikes me so much as the |
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noiretextatique (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:00 PM Response to Original message |
41. in my family |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:04 PM Response to Original message |
42. My dad was super protective. I mean SUPER protective. |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:12 PM Response to Reply #42 |
63. I think the super protective fathers have a need to control |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:17 PM Response to Reply #63 |
70. My dad was never a control freak though. |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:26 PM Response to Reply #70 |
77. Aww that is nice. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:33 PM Response to Reply #77 |
81. Oh, no problem. I think what you said is probably true a lot of the times! |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:29 AM Response to Reply #42 |
208. So it's a concern re: what boys are *thinking*? That seems odd. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:18 PM Response to Reply #208 |
234. I know, but I think dads don't want someone having those thoughts |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:14 PM Response to Reply #234 |
244. Seems like a manifestation of the madonna/whore or virgin/slut double standard. |
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WonderGrunion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
43. Simple odds |
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Echo In Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
44. It's like apple pie, and John Wayne...this bizarre drive some men have for NOT wanting .... |
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Schema Thing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:33 PM Response to Reply #44 |
49. I agree with that. And would add that it's a perverse need to own |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 06:39 PM Response to Reply #49 |
50. agreed. my parents did none of that with us. they left us to do. |
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Xicano (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:01 PM Response to Original message |
51. There are unique concerns to have for both sexes and I think girls get the short end of the stick |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:32 AM Response to Reply #51 |
209. Agreed... and what message might that send to boys? |
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TransitJohn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:02 PM Response to Original message |
52. It's simple really |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:11 PM Response to Reply #52 |
62. i am confused. girls dont wanna get in the guys pants? if that is the case, am i worried for sons |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:15 PM Response to Reply #52 |
67. So what is so wrong with that? |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:29 PM Response to Reply #52 |
80. You fell for the trap, sucker. Now they're going to turn your *describing* the situation.. |
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TransitJohn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:07 PM Response to Reply #80 |
90. Yeah, it was pretty obvious after the fact |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:09 PM Response to Reply #90 |
91. "taking the OP's question at face value" - hahahahaa! |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:11 PM Response to Reply #90 |
93. not me. lol. i have foudn it interesting. but i wasnt raised with a father that |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:33 AM Response to Reply #52 |
210. So... it's about thoughts? Concern over what boys are thinking? |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:16 PM Response to Reply #52 |
283. Wow, what a sad view you have of yourself |
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BlooInBloo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:06 PM Response to Original message |
56. When you have a boy, you worry about one dick. When you have a girl, you worry about them all... |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:32 PM Response to Reply #56 |
286. wow, instead of raising strong, aware daughters, you |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:13 PM Response to Original message |
64. It comes from a time when the burden (and misplaced shame) of pregnancy fell soley on the girl |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:17 PM Response to Reply #64 |
69. i feel a huge responsibility raising my boys. lots to learn.... on both sides. nt |
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27inCali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:14 PM Response to Original message |
65. maybe it's just a stupid stereotype |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:19 PM Response to Reply #65 |
72. i think the danger thing is valid. the boys can have sex girls shouldnt isnt. |
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iris27 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:31 PM Response to Reply #65 |
102. Or how about, instead of telling your daughter she needs men to defend her, |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:34 PM Response to Reply #102 |
105. but my boys never had any desire to fight either. i dont. none. couldnt make me. |
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iris27 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:27 AM Response to Reply #105 |
176. Yeah, but even for boys who aren't interested in fighting, I don't think |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:35 AM Response to Reply #176 |
178. i agree. assertive, i have always been. not being intimidated is easy for me. |
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JANdad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:21 AM Response to Reply #102 |
172. Or...we could live in the real world |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:35 AM Response to Reply #65 |
211. I see your point. I don't think it's sexist to recognize the dangers... |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:41 PM Response to Original message |
82. I think it's the fear of having to raise a grandchild. |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:52 PM Response to Original message |
83. Father of 5 young girls (women)... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:02 PM Response to Reply #83 |
86. why are you worrying about any of the penis's |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:24 PM Response to Reply #86 |
99. No, don't get me wrong.. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:32 PM Response to Reply #99 |
103. i am with you on that. i would be more worried with daughter on the simple difference in strength |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 07:54 PM Response to Original message |
84. Because all dads were once preteen boys. |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:00 PM Response to Reply #84 |
85. Not to worried about the |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:07 PM Response to Reply #85 |
89. lol. i am especially not worried about preteen, i agree. so |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:05 PM Response to Reply #84 |
87. again, seems to be like standard answer. i have both preteen boys and teen boy |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:36 AM Response to Reply #84 |
212. And? What's so terrible? |
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DainBramaged (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:10 PM Response to Original message |
92. Trust, something my beautiful Daughter and I had from early on |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:12 PM Response to Reply #92 |
96. that is all the difference. you are right. nt |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:32 PM Response to Reply #92 |
104. That's my son and I |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:12 PM Response to Original message |
94. Simple. Society is more protective of girls. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:14 PM Response to Reply #94 |
97. if true, and not a reality in our house, but that is very sad, cause boys |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:38 AM Response to Reply #94 |
213. IMO that is massively fucked up. |
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gbate (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:32 PM Response to Reply #213 |
235. Studies have shown that boys are actually more at-risk than girls . |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:18 PM Response to Original message |
98. The whole issue of violence against women in the world should ring a bell |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:28 PM Response to Reply #98 |
101. Thanks.. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:37 PM Response to Reply #101 |
107. i agree. nt |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:01 PM Response to Reply #98 |
112. Violent crime victims by gender. |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:27 PM Response to Reply #112 |
120. Yeah |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:28 PM Response to Reply #120 |
121. In my experience, they find that surprising. n/t |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:30 PM Response to Reply #121 |
123. it isnt unknown. males fighting each other is common. they dont associate the same |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:28 PM Response to Reply #123 |
145. Reconcile this for me. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:38 AM Response to Reply #145 |
163. i didnt say society was not more protective of female. the kind of violence |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:28 PM Response to Reply #120 |
122. nah. not those of us with sons. i posted way above that boys have male on male violence |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:31 PM Response to Reply #112 |
124. They obviously didn't count domestic violence in your graph |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:31 PM Response to Reply #124 |
125. i dont know. lots of male on male gang death ect.... and just violence, not death. look how much |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:35 PM Response to Reply #125 |
126. I'm not claiming men don't get assaulted violently |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:41 PM Response to Reply #126 |
127. Well |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:43 PM Response to Reply #127 |
131. Yeah, sure. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:15 PM Response to Reply #127 |
140. it doesnt have to be a competition. i have never understood the need for it |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:43 AM Response to Reply #140 |
217. It isn't a competition. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:23 PM Response to Reply #124 |
144. Yes they do. |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 12:56 AM Response to Reply #144 |
153. This just occured to me |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:41 AM Response to Reply #153 |
164. but you made a false statement. society is protective of women until they are not |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:48 PM Response to Reply #164 |
261. Right |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:10 PM Response to Reply #261 |
262. ahhhhh. now i need to shut up until draft. and you are susceptible to draft? |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:20 PM Response to Reply #262 |
263. Actually |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:24 PM Response to Reply #263 |
264. firstly.... there is no draft so you are subject to NOTHING. secondly |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:34 PM Response to Reply #264 |
265. What are you talking about? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:38 PM Response to Reply #265 |
266. well fine dude, you found a way to dismiss murder rape and mutilation of females |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:40 PM Response to Reply #266 |
267. Strawman |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:44 PM Response to Reply #267 |
269. bullshit strawman. POINT. btw, good dismissing and ignoring the MILLIONS |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:50 PM Response to Reply #269 |
272. Hyperbole and more strawmen |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:21 PM Response to Reply #272 |
274. nothing more stupid than competing over what gender male comments more mayham on. |
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Mixopterus (568 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:33 PM Response to Reply #274 |
276. Dismissive of violence itself? |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:48 AM Response to Reply #144 |
219. This is why this double standard doesn't make any sense. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:04 PM Response to Reply #219 |
242. I fully agree. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:11 PM Response to Reply #242 |
243. Are you accusing me of lying? |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:28 PM Response to Reply #243 |
246. Let me respond with a question. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:36 PM Response to Reply #246 |
247. No... I don't think so. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:58 PM Response to Reply #247 |
258. Okay, let me rephrase the question. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 05:04 PM Response to Reply #258 |
259. I missed your edit before... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 05:30 PM Response to Reply #258 |
260. i think there are groups that are addressing male on male crime. inner city |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:43 PM Response to Reply #112 |
268. Serial killers who prey on men have higher kill rates... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:46 PM Response to Reply #268 |
270. males are unaware that their fellow males are violent? is this what you are suggesting? |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:58 PM Response to Reply #270 |
273. Not at all, but most young men don't think... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:23 PM Response to Reply #273 |
275. ok. then you tell all these men concerned about their daughters not to bother, it is |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:51 PM Response to Reply #275 |
277. Jesusfuckingchrist, you really hear just what you want to hear, don't you? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:19 PM Response to Reply #277 |
278. you are right. they may not consider themselves prey in that situation |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:31 PM Response to Reply #278 |
279. Thanks, that was my point (and I apologize for the snark and vehemence... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:45 PM Response to Reply #279 |
280. you were |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:40 AM Response to Reply #98 |
215. It's true that they don't have to worry about sons being assaulted by girls. |
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mitchum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:50 PM Response to Reply #98 |
271. Agreed (n/t) |
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Beacool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 08:53 PM Response to Original message |
109. I'm not a dad, but I'm a daughter. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:14 PM Response to Reply #109 |
115. see. it is all the difference in the world when a father give simple respect to daughter |
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Beacool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:00 PM Response to Reply #115 |
134. A good dad makes all the difference. |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:16 PM Response to Reply #109 |
116. Wow.. |
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Beacool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:02 PM Response to Reply #116 |
135. Nope, not a Kennedy. |
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Avalux (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:06 PM Response to Original message |
113. I think it's a safety concern. Young women are much more vulnerable than young men. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:17 PM Response to Reply #113 |
117. but as a mom i dont want my sons heart broken from oh.... a gal that is going to |
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Avalux (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:21 PM Response to Reply #117 |
118. I get what you're saying. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:23 PM Response to Reply #118 |
119. bah hahahah i already have five or six |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:13 PM Response to Original message |
114. It's a mix of sexist "fairer sex" sentiment and legitimate concerns about vulnerability... |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
128. We have two of each. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 09:42 PM Response to Original message |
129. My hubby says because he remembers what he was like at that age. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:18 PM Response to Reply #129 |
141. see, all the guys have the same pat answer. like repug talking points. |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 05:57 AM Response to Reply #141 |
158. Call it what you will....but |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:49 AM Response to Reply #158 |
166. genes. but you totally ignore what i am saying |
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Xenotime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:07 AM Response to Reply #166 |
227. I agree with you on this point.. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:37 AM Response to Reply #141 |
188. No I don't think it was anything like rape, BUT, there is a lot of pressure there. Pun intended. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:03 AM Response to Reply #188 |
196. i agree here. but then i think it has a lot ot do with character of son... that he has developed |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:52 AM Response to Reply #188 |
222. Is pressuring girls to have sex considered part of this unchangeable 'hard wired' behavior? |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:09 AM Response to Reply #222 |
230. Oh I agree 100%. I have never, or will ever accept "boys will be boys" as an excuse. I even |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:03 PM Response to Original message |
136. It's nothing more than sexism. |
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TicketyBoo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:22 PM Response to Original message |
143. Before we had our son… |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:13 AM Response to Reply #143 |
168. i liked how you approached the two, in the difference. works fine, BUT |
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TicketyBoo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:57 AM Response to Reply #168 |
192. I didn't tell them "that's who they are." |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:04 AM Response to Reply #192 |
197. cute. dontcha just love em. nt |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:42 PM Response to Original message |
146. Parents have to worry about the physical safety of daughters |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:45 PM Response to Reply #146 |
147. Why? n/t |
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izzybeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-24-09 10:54 PM Response to Original message |
148. It's a bad joke. But as a dad with two sons and a nieces I have to say I've got it easier than |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:17 AM Response to Reply #148 |
169. this is why i have always said thank god i dont have daughters. i would |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:01 AM Response to Reply #148 |
224. I just disagree. IMO boys do have pressures, just in different ways. |
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ProudToBeBlueInRhody (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 12:46 AM Response to Original message |
152. My mother was always the one who said she's glad she didn't have daughters |
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MajorChode (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:03 AM Response to Reply #152 |
160. I'm glad I have one of each |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:18 AM Response to Reply #152 |
170. i wish my hubby had a daughter. it is so special father/daughter relationship. nt |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:03 AM Response to Original message |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 05:09 AM Response to Original message |
157. Girls are the best. |
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absyntheminded (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:12 AM Response to Reply #157 |
161. Girlz rule, Boyz drool |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:24 AM Response to Reply #161 |
173. this is the flip side of sexism we teach our boys that is being taught to our girls. my boys and i |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:19 AM Response to Reply #157 |
171. good for you iggo. yes. it is TAUGHT. i love it. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:03 AM Response to Reply #157 |
225. I agree that it's only some girls who are socialized to be manipulative. |
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MajorChode (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 06:01 AM Response to Original message |
159. There is cause for some of that concern |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:25 AM Response to Reply #159 |
174. exactly. nt |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:04 AM Response to Reply #159 |
226. I do see the reason for different causes of concern... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:26 AM Response to Reply #226 |
231. true enough. nt |
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AllentownJake (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
175. 4000 years of human civilization probably explains it. |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:41 AM Response to Original message |
180. Because they understand instinctively that women are targeted more than men. |
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cherish44 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 07:41 AM Response to Original message |
181. The teen era is a dangerous time of life for both boys and girls |
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wiggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:10 AM Response to Reply #181 |
201. Good answer. nt |
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PRETZEL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:18 AM Response to Original message |
183. Because my daughter is the apple of my eye. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:22 AM Response to Reply #183 |
184. i tell ya |
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sybylla (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:24 AM Response to Original message |
185. With my husband, it was just a case of overprotectiveness |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:50 AM Response to Original message |
191. I worry about my son, who is already a heartbreaker without knowing it at 10 |
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TicketyBoo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:02 AM Response to Reply #191 |
195. Since he's smart, |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:06 AM Response to Reply #191 |
198. (thanks to having to do that with current culture).. this is parents reality today |
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asdjrocky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 08:58 AM Response to Original message |
193. I have no sons, so it's hard to say. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:11 AM Response to Reply #193 |
202. ahhhhhhh. yes this is it. the thing, what a father sees is not the same as what mother sees |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:08 AM Response to Reply #193 |
228. :) |
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Nuclear Unicorn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 09:55 AM Response to Original message |
223. Ye verily: |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 10:09 AM Response to Reply #223 |
229. lol... love that song. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:28 AM Response to Original message |
232. LOL... my first unrec for this. |
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gbate (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 11:34 AM Response to Original message |
233. Well, I am a woman with only sons who worries about her boys getting their hearts broken by girls. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:15 PM Response to Reply #233 |
245. I would find it troubling if any parent didn't worry |
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BoneDaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-27-09 07:36 PM Response to Reply #233 |
290. but your son's pain doesn't matter on this message board |
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stranger81 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:50 PM Response to Original message |
236. We have a daughter, and my husband always explains why he worries more |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:53 PM Response to Reply #236 |
238. Thoughts are a problem? Are those thoughts just fine as long as they're not about daughters? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:54 PM Response to Reply #236 |
239. can you please explain to me then. more i read the thread, less i get that nt |
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ieoeja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:51 PM Response to Original message |
237. Boys don't get pregnant. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:56 PM Response to Reply #237 |
240. LOL! |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 02:56 PM Response to Reply #237 |
241. funny. is that funny. yes, that is funny.... lol lol nt |
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Initech (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 03:40 PM Response to Original message |
248. If they really were concerned that Girls Gone Wild guy would've been killed dozens of times by now. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:06 PM Response to Reply #248 |
249. Obviously those girls are "whores" and not "madonnas" and therefore |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:36 PM Response to Reply #248 |
257. my hubby reply to guys when they talk about that.... just wait until you see your daughter lifting |
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truebrit71 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Sep-25-09 04:09 PM Response to Original message |
250. Because boys don't get pregnant.... |
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