Do you have Friends who make or have made Racist Comments.

[bryant69]

On the level of Don Imus's recent outburst?

I don't really know how to graduate this one - so I will just make it Yes or No. I am talking about current friends who have made such comments in the past.

Bryant

[Jonathan50]

1. Not exactly friends

But family (by marriage thankfully)

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2. I find that I myself sometimes make racist comments

in the context of reenacting something or acting out what someone else did or thinks.

Also when singing along with my favorite songs that have this in their lyrics.

[bryant69]

4. Repeating a racist comment though isn't making a racist comment

I mean i guess it could be as hurtful if overheard, but I am talking more about situations where the comment reflects the attitudes of the person. I guess I didn't think about this possiblity.

Bryant

[mrcheerful]

13. Same here, friday sitting at a stop sign on a north bound one way street a black man turned

made a south bound turn and clipped my vehicle, then tried to say it was my fault because I was blocking the lane he was turning into. For one thing its a single lane one way street and for the other half of the lane is for road side parking, meaning that I was as near to the curb as I could be without side swipping parked cars. I gave him a few choice words.

[Turbineguy]

3. I remember when

one of my co-workers went from "niggers" to "those people". A giant leap for man, a small step for mankind.

Of course he may have just behaved that way for me.

Yes, that's probably it.

[HamdenRice]

5. I have acquaintances who have said amazingly anti-Semtic things

I'm African American so they don't say racist things to me. But it amazes me just how freely some white non-Jewish people will say the most appallingly anti-Semitic things. Sometimes I tell them, if you say this about Jews when there are no Jews in the room, what do you say about Blacks when I'm not in the room?

[The Wizard]

12. The American Dream

for some is all the blacks swimming back to Africa with a Jew under each arm, and most of that some votes straight GOP.

[Bjorn Against]

6. Some of my friends from my old home town are spouting racist crap all the time...

It really bothers me and I have been trying to change their thinking for some time now, and while I think some progress has been made attitudes can be very difficult to change.

[bluerum]

7. Sometimes - but thankfully they are not nationally syndicated. eom

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[JanMichael]

8. I used to have "friends" who used that language and called them on it.

Generally it went well with the offending party acknowledging their own idiocy. That speaks to the value of communication as a tool of some positive change.

Other times it just got ignored or a short verbal insult game would ensue. Which speaks to the inadequacy of communication to effect change within some people.

[mcscajun]

9. No, and if they did they wouldn't be friends anymore.

Simple.

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[bryant69]

20. I don't know what rule I violated with my previous statement

You don't tolerate racism in your friends; which presumably makes you better than 66% of DUers (at least those who took part in this poll). Sounds like the sort of person you want as a modorater. What was so objectionable about that?

[SmokingJacket]

10. Just relatives.

Not friends, though. Those comments were pretty trashy.

[alarimer]

11. My coworkers use the term "wetback" a LOT

I consider that racist. But the last taboo seems to be anti-gay comments. They make a lot of homophobic comments. We have a colleague in the process of changing his gender and now prefers to be called by a woman's name. But among my own colleagues I hear a lot of negative comments about that issue. One said that if the person in question was his father, he would not let him see his grandchildren at all. I am astonished daily at the intolerance of these people.

[w13rd0]

14. My friends...

...don't pay me enough to have me put up with bullshit. So no, I do not have friends who make or have made racist comments.

[MedleyMisty]

15. Not current friends

But then my only current friend is my husband.

Back in high school I had friends who said things like that. Some of them weren't friends for very much longer, and some of them remained my friend but I emotionally distanced myself from them.

[Digit]

16. I would not call him a friend

The employer I last worked for made very crude racist remarks, but he also made anti-gay, anti-women, and was a poor excuse for a human being.
I could not get out of there quick enough.

[Mind_your_head]

17. Well, relatives (you can pick your friends, but you're stuck with your relatives)

The weird thing is that I think they know it's wrong when they make racist comments, yet they do it anyway. They know I don't like it. Trying to belittle other people never makes one 'look bigger/better', it only belittles the person making such comments...and that's the look I give them when they say such things. But they never stop. My relatives get a "10" for being annoying. I don't see them more than I have to.

[stray cat]

19. Dehumanizing statements but not specifically racist

Dehumanizing people seems to be ok as long as its not based on race....