that you can't let it go?? I had posted about an exchange I had with a friend of mine on facebook. It is posted here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=6522900&mesg_id=6522900 no one responded to it. But then some guy I don't know chimed in.....
he said:
How can you possibly relate organ donors to abortion , we are talking about saving lives with parts from someone who has already died and killing an unborn child because and I will quote you here "it's what is best for me" that has got to be the most ignorant argument I have ever heard on this subject.
This infuriated me!! First of all, is this guy dense, because one can donate blood and organs without being dead. And one can recieve organs and blood.... and there are religions who believe that the body is sacred and therefore no blood or body parts from one body should be mingled with another. so, if we are basing federal funding of healthcare on a person's beliefs, then based on what jehovah witness believe, we would not have any federal funding of these things which could be life and death for a person. But I was infuriated at this guy trying to tell ME what i can and can't do with my own body.
I responded:
well, when you can carry a child then maybe you should have a say in the matter, but as far as i am concerned, MEN should not get a say. why it is that everyone seems to think that they can weigh in on what women can and can't do is beyond me!! If you don't want abortion, then DON"T HAVE ONE!!! in this country, you have the right to decide things for YOURSELF.... everyone says government should stay out of decisions between a doctor and a patient... except when it has to do with WOMEN!!!
But his response to this was:
have 2 adopted children that could have just as easily been dead . That gives me every right to weigh in just as you have .
So he thinks that because he benefited from a woman choosing to have the baby and give it up, that gives him the right to make the choice for me?? I want to reply that adopting children does not give him a right to anything. but I do not want to be disrespectful. Part of me wants to just let it go because nothing I say is going to matter to this person. It's about choice. This man knows nothing about me... why should he have the right to tell me whether I have to have a child or not? And it shouldn't be up to him. Just as it shouldn't be up to me whether he can buy Viagra... his response would be something about killing unborn babies is not the same thing. It's about your right to what you believe... and my right to what I believe. Just because he may believe that unborn babies should always be born, doesn't mean that eveyrone else believes that.
How many kids are sitting in foster homes right now?? How many unwanted babies who have been abused or neglected because they were born into homes where their mother couldn't care for them. No one can know the situation these girls and women are in that they make that choice. I may not personally believe in abortion, but it is not for me to decide for someone else. Why should this MAN be able to take that right away from me?? even if he did adopt two children. how many of those kids sitting in foster homes is he going to adopt!!
I don't know why I am so upset by this guy. I don't know him... but there never seems to be a shortage of people who think that somehow I am selfish if I decide to not have a baby. No one is trying to force their beliefs on this guy... but somehow it's ok to force their beliefs on me. I would love to ask my sister what she would say.... she would never bring a child into this world... but she represents them in family court all the time.... She is strong pro choice... And i bet she could eviscerate this guy without batting an eyelash.