We Are Homeless now, but NOT Defeated.

[MarianJack]

Hi everybody. A few weeks ago, this community moved my wife and I to tears over your response to our situation.

We are now in a shelter while our son is in PA for awhile with his grandmother. We are awaiting Section 8 and are hopeful that we will get it soon as we are an intact family, which I understand is a priority.

My wife is starting at a nail salon and I am continuing to work at my job.

One of the things that I've realized is that I have to treat my money mismanagement the same way that I treat my alcoholism, 1 day at a time. I am on a mission to never do this to my family again. This situation is not entirely due to my difficulty in manageing money, but it contributed. I certainly know that I have to change to save my family and preserve my marriage. Those are the most important things and people in my life.

We will rise above this. I will be the man that God intended me to be and that my Mother raised me to be. I will be the husband that my wife deserves and the father that my son deserves. In many ways I already am, but if I were in ALL ways, we wouldn't be where we are now. Success in this is not debatable, for those 2 people are too precious for any other option.

Anyway, thank you again for all of the support you've shown my family and I. I'll check back now and again until (hopefully by the end of July or early August) we're in a place of our own and can I can be a regular again.

PEACE!

[90-percent]

1. These times

These times have some unintended consequences that may end up being good, indirectly.

The shared hardship of this SHOVEL ALL THE REMAINING MONEY TO THE WEALTHY is steering us back to any communities we can get our hands on.

Humans are social animals and we are all missing something with our isolated and wage slave lives - work - sleep- repeat six times a week, etc.

I think American Communities will become closer and work together to cope with the current SHOCK DOCTRINE we are receiving from the ELITES.

farm co-ops, cleaning up parks, volunteering, taking in people down on their luck, helping people back on their feet, and in general HANGING TOGETHER is how America will get through this mess.

Perhaps torches and pitchforks down in Stamford CT or Westchester County would be part of this recovery? Opps, my bad on the hate speech, but I'm open to suggestions on how better to let the elites know WE ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THEM!


-90% Jimmy

[MarianJack]

8. Maybe if we as Americans realize...

...that like a pebble in a pond, what happens ripples out, and that in one way or another, what happens to one of us happens to and effects all of us.

PEACE!

[myrna minx]

2. .

:grouphug:

[MarianJack]

9. Thanx myrna minx!

:pals: back atcha!

[NMDemDist2]

3. hang in there

and it is 'ODAAT'

hubby and I are in recovery and have made some horrible decisions in the past, but ODAAT we made it through and now life is good.

remember to breath and pray and keep putting one foot in front of the other

:hug:

[MarianJack]

10. One foot in front of another!

How true!

[EFerrari]

4. It's good to see you.

:hi:

[MarianJack]

11. Thanx, EFerrari!

:patriot:

[RB TexLa]

5. Good luck to you.

Lots of people have been where you are and made it, your determination and focus can get you there too. Hang in there and keep moving foward.

[MarianJack]

13. Keep moving forward...

...one day at a time!

Thank You.

PEACE!

[MadHound]

6. Good luck to you and your family

Having been homeless myself for a couple of years in my early adulthood, I know what you're going through. A few words of advice:

Get out of that shelter once in awhile, both you and your wife. I don't know where you live, but even in my modest Midwest city there were a number of free/low cost entertainment options that were lots of fun, take advantage of them. Also, if you can afford it, get you and your wife off to a low cost hotel or some such for some alone time together. Shelter life affords little privacy and is hard on relationships. Tend to yours, especially now.

Don't give up, even when things are dark. This is a process that will take awhile, but you and your family will pull out of it, though it takes a few years to fully recover.

Don't slip back into old habits. If you went on the binge credit card train, don't get anymore credit cards, ever(even if you didn't take that route, don't get credit cards, your life will be better because of it). If you have trouble bugeting, then force yourself to budget, and limit your ability to make impulse buys.

Don't get caught up in shelter drama, and believe me there's plenty of shelter drama. Take a number of people who are hard up, cram them together, and poof, instant drama.

Keep lines of communication open, between you and your wife and you and your child.

Don't beat yourself up over this. Really now, most people are but one check away from homelessness anyway, so you really didn't go that far out over the line. These things happen, so don't kill yourself over it.

Think of this also as a learning experience. When I was out on the streets I learned a great deal about myself, about this society, about how the world works, and some really interesting stuff about the under belly of high and mighty(like which of the community leaders liked teenage boys, which community leaders ran coke, etc.). You will come out wiser and more compassionate for this.

Get to know the people around you. Some of the most interesting and compassionate people I met were those who were down and out like me. You'll make some of the best friends that way.

If you have the time at this juncture in your life, give back, do some volunteer work, either at the shelter or other charity. It will do wonders for you, trust me.

Good luck, and I think that you will do fine when all is said and done.

[MarianJack]

12. I've already learned many of those things.

Fortunately I learned about credit cards 30 years ago.

Thank you and, of course...

PEACE!

[truedelphi]

7. I think I remember your full story from when you posted earlier.

And yes, there were indications of money mis-management (You'd sure know better than me.)

But if the middle class HAD JOBS you would have a decent situation right now. Maybe you still would have lost your house, but I bet you'd be living in a nice apartment. What we are in store for over the next decade is going to shock most Americans, including many of those fervently supporting Obama right now.

A society simply cannot have decent living standards for the majority of people and not have jobs.

Good luck to you and so sorry that this is happening. One tip - if housing is expensive in your area, and you want out of the shelter, once you've put some bucks together -- look into renting an office. I lived in an office throughout 1995 and part of 1996 - it was much more affordable, and much QUIETER - absolutely no one else was in the complex on weekends except me. Health club membership afforded me a daily shower, and I sure was happy when I finally left the office for a house, but it was far better than sleeping on a couch at a friend's.

[MarianJack]

14. Renting an Office?

I hadn't thought of that but it's a good idea!

I'll discuss it with my wife. Thanx!

PEACE!