Cheating Spouse: Would you want to know?

[OHDEM]

Let's turn the tables....If your spouse or SO was cheating on you, would you want your friend to tell you?

[Swamp Rat]

1. No.

I would rather the "cheating spouse" tell me, or find out on my own.

[babylonsister]

6. Swampie!

Long time, no see. Really long time! I hope all is well with you! :hug:

[Swamp Rat]

10. babylonsister!

:hi::hug:

I think this poll should be revised.

[KittyWampus]

7. SWAMPIE!

[Swamp Rat]

12. ...hi

Who were you? :D

[KittyWampus]

21. cryingshame. been awhile. you must be busy... studying?

[Swamp Rat]

23. Hey!

:hi: :hug: It will take me a while to learn all the new names, and associate them with my memories of conversations past. Yes, I am studying AND traveling to places like this (left the USA before the semester ended :D ):

[Arctic Dave]

9. I agree with you. At some level the person being cheated on has some idea.

I would feel that the person telling me has an ulterior motive. Plus, the cheater can always say that the person who told you is a liar. Until that person comes clean the lie will go on.

[ejpoeta]

2. i would want my husband to tell me. i would want to know.

[OHDEM]

3. It would be difficult, but for me...

I'd feel betrayed by my friend if he/she didn't tell me. I've actually been in this situation and it sucks for everyone. Cheating causes a lot of people pain.

[Ohio Joe]

4. Yes

I don't think it matters much who tells me, I would want to know.

[SacredCow]

5. Not the ideal way to find out, but yes....

It's something that should be known ASAP for the benefit of all involved.

[dropkickpa]

8. I would kick friends ass if they DIDN'T tell

[villager]

11. in the end, you know...

n/t

[JDPriestly]

13. I would want to know because it's better to be living in reality

than in an illusion. I would be able to deal with the reality, but living in an illusion is living a lie. When you live a lie, when you live on false assumptions, you cannot make the right decisions.

[floridablue]

14. I would want to know so I wouldn't associate with them again.

[jgraz]

15. Oh hell yes

edit: but i think most guys would want to know. I'm not sure if most women would feel the same way.

[stray cat]

16. I would rather get a sexually transmitted disease and find out that way

:sarcasm:

[firedupdem]

17. yes, I would want to know and then I would conduct my own

investigation.

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

18. No. Trusting my wife is something I choose to do.

Which is a helluva lot easier then fretting about her trustworthiness. And, I've always figured that if she was "cheating" what possible good would it do me to know about it?

[ConcernedCanuk]

19. IF it was a one time "oops!" - no. If it was a steady affair yes.

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even if it was an "oops" every now and then, - no

but again, if it was an "affair" as opposed to a one timer thing

I would wanna know.

[Bunny]

20. No. If my man was running around on me, I'm sure I'd sense something was up pretty quickly,

and I would want to set the time and place for addressing it with him according to my timetable. I don't need some busybody butting in and forcing the issue "for my own good".

[azmouse]

22. I'd want to know so I could protect myself against potential STDs.