http://www.nytimes.com/2007/04/01/nyregion/nyregionspecial2/01RParenting.html?ei=5088&en=06bf5f179f51c5a4&ex=1333080000&adxnnl=1&partner=rssnyt&emc=rss&pagewanted=1&adxnnlx=1175532421-S578rEo+STejWqeyi7HC8gBy sixth grade, he knew what “gay” meant, but didn’t associate it with himself. That year, he says: “I had a crush on one particular eighth-grade boy, a very straight jock. I knew whatever I was feeling I shouldn’t talk about it.” He considered himself a broken version of a human being. “I did think about suicide,” he says.
Then, for reasons he can’t wholly explain beyond pure desperation, a month after his Valentine “date” — “We never actually went out, just walked around school together” — in the midst of math class, he told a female friend. By day’s end it was all over school. The psychologist called him in. “I burst into tears,” he recalls. “I said, ‘Yes, it’s true.’ Every piece of depression came pouring out. It was such a mess.”
That night, when his mother got home from work, she stuck her head in his room to say hi. “I said, ‘Ma, I need to talk to you about something, I’m gay.’ She said, ‘O.K., anything else?’ ‘No, but I just told you I’m gay.’ ‘O.K., that’s fine, we still love you.’ I said, ‘That’s it?’ I was preparing for this really dramatic moment.”
Ms. O’Connor recalls, “He said, ‘Mom, aren’t you going to freak out?’ I said: ‘It’s up to you to decide who to love. I have your father, and you have to figure out what’s best for you.’ He said, ‘Don’t tell Dad.’ ”
“Of course I told him,” Ms. O’Connor says.
“With all our faults,” Mr. O’Connor says, “we’re in this together.”
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While this story is totally positive for Zach the reaction of his parents is something that most of us could have only drempt of when we came out. The rest of the article goes on to tell about the center where Zach went to while dealing with being gay. It went from having not seen a single parent for over a decade after opening to having parents take their kids to their first meetings.
I would love to live in a world where it no longer matters to parents if their kids turn out gay. For way too many of us, this wasn't the case. We have some truely terrible stories right on DU. Even those of us who eventually got accepted by our parents faced years of waiting for that to be the case. I know we will never see a United States where every single gay kid gets accepted by his or her parents. The role of conservative Christianity is way to strong in our country for that to be the case.
But if the overwhelming majority of kids end up with this being the case we will have won a major victory that all the conservatives in the world won't be able to take away. That could lead to even more victories.