|
Printer-friendly format Email this thread to a friend Bookmark this thread |
This topic is archived. |
Home » Discuss » Archives » General Discussion (1/22-2007 thru 12/14/2010) |
Mike 03 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:47 PM Original message |
Advice would be appreciated: Today my dad was told, basically, you have six to nine months to live |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
MADem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:48 PM Response to Original message |
1. What's the diagnosis? Is he inclined to fight? If so, I'd go for a second opinion. NT |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Carni (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:16 PM Response to Reply #1 |
20. Good advice IMO |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
MADem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-21-09 12:24 AM Response to Reply #20 |
58. If it's cancer, never say never. At least go for the second "guesstimate." |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:54 PM Response to Original message |
2. You are going to have to let your dad take the lead on what HE wants to do |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Mr. Ected (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:55 PM Response to Original message |
3. Mike, I'm Unqualified to Advise You |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Mike 03 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:56 PM Response to Original message |
4. Also feel free to PM me if you fee like it |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
cliffordu (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:57 PM Response to Original message |
5. "On death and dying" by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
The Straight Story (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:01 PM Response to Reply #5 |
11. Same one I was going to say |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
adamuu (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:57 PM Response to Original message |
6. what does he like to do? plan 6-9 months of doing that |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
TNDemo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:58 PM Response to Original message |
7. I have a book recommendation. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
doctor jazz (474 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:58 PM Response to Original message |
8. Take him fishing. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Natalya Slosky (88 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 08:59 PM Response to Original message |
9. I don't have any advice for you, but |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:00 PM Response to Original message |
10. How old are your parents, Mike? nt |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Mari333 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:01 PM Response to Original message |
12. do you have a Hospice near you?? |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
geckosfeet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:02 PM Response to Original message |
13. It's a difficult time. Lots of stress and fears come out. You will all work things out in your own |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
KathieG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:05 PM Response to Original message |
14. 17 years ago, my father was 62 and was told he had between two weeks and two months to live... |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Iwillnevergiveup (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:05 PM Response to Original message |
15. Mike 03 |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
ohheckyeah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:09 PM Response to Original message |
16. I don't have experience with this for a family member |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Pithy (165 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:14 PM Response to Reply #16 |
17. Thinking of you, Mike |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Mike 03 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:14 PM Response to Original message |
18. Please ignore my drama. I just feel so empty and sad inside. I can't stop |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Bobbie Jo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:21 PM Response to Reply #18 |
26. ((((HUGS)))) |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
ohheckyeah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:23 PM Response to Reply #18 |
27. Drama is sobbing over a broken nail, not |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
blaze (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:35 PM Response to Reply #18 |
36. Don't apologize Mike |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
jazzjunkysue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:22 PM Response to Reply #18 |
50. Look up the psychologists in your health insurance and just go there to unload. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:23 PM Response to Reply #18 |
51. Mike, this isn't drama. It's one of the heartbreaking parts of life. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
dustbunnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:40 PM Response to Reply #18 |
53. Well you should be kind of. You aren't the first, and take some stuff inside yourself. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
MADem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-21-09 12:29 AM Response to Reply #18 |
59. This has happened to many of us, you know--particularly those of us |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
BeFree (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:16 PM Response to Original message |
19. When it is time for me to head out.... |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:18 PM Response to Original message |
21. Hospice, |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
southernyankeebelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:18 PM Response to Original message |
22. BOY YOU ARE JUST GETTING STARTED - I WOULD FIRST |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Lars39 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:23 PM Response to Reply #22 |
28. Please don't type in all caps...it is considered rude, like you are shouting. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
madamesilverspurs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:30 PM Response to Reply #28 |
31. Ordinarily. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Carni (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:27 PM Response to Reply #22 |
30. I don't think he is looking for legal advice :( |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
nadinbrzezinski (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:19 PM Response to Original message |
23. Be there, but also let your fears come out |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
BlueCollar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:19 PM Response to Original message |
24. No advice...just my thoughts...n/t |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
KT2000 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:21 PM Response to Original message |
25. Do for him |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
dustbunnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:26 PM Response to Original message |
29. Listen to every fracking thing he has to say. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Born_A_Truman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:32 PM Response to Original message |
32. Oh Mike |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
spanone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:33 PM Response to Original message |
33. my mother, 2000 |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
applegrove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:33 PM Response to Original message |
34. Vibes & (((HUGS))) |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
buzzycrumbhunger (793 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
35. It's hardest on the family |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Rockholm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:36 PM Response to Original message |
37. Get a Second Opinion..and a Third... |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
stray cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:38 PM Response to Original message |
38. What your feeling is pretty normal. Listen to your dad and your mom and take care of yourself |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
ArtVandelay (34 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
39. My dad was given 18 months and lived 11 years, mostly healthy. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Stephanie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:44 PM Response to Original message |
40. Yes it's normal |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:46 PM Response to Original message |
41. Hugs to you and you sound normal, not losing your sanity |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
madamesilverspurs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:48 PM Response to Original message |
42. Prayers and good thoughts to you. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Mnemosyne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:49 PM Response to Original message |
43. Treasure the time. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Uben (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:51 PM Response to Original message |
44. Been there, Mike |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Peacetrain (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 09:58 PM Response to Original message |
45. Mike, I lost my Dad almost 2 years ago.. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
amborin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:01 PM Response to Original message |
46. i am so sorry! |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
SoDesuKa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:01 PM Response to Original message |
47. Take Each Day as it Comes |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
defendandprotect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:08 PM Response to Original message |
48. I have no experience with this . . . |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
MnFats (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:15 PM Response to Original message |
49. work into your conversations acknowledgement of things he did for you... |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
PufPuf23 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:38 PM Response to Original message |
52. Hospice people are wonderful in my experience. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
lynne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:54 PM Response to Original message |
54. Get a second opinion and do not give up - |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
arthritisR_US (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:56 PM Response to Original message |
55. ((Mike)). What you're feeling is completely normal. The first stage of grief is disbelief and with |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
Stinky The Clown (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 10:58 PM Response to Original message |
56. You got two people to worry about. Dad and you. And you're the bigger worry. |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
stopbush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-20-09 11:09 PM Response to Original message |
57. Having been through this same scenario with my dad and my wife's dad |
Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top |
DU AdBot (1000+ posts) | Sat May 04th 2024, 06:18 AM Response to Original message |
Advertisements [?] |
Top |
Home » Discuss » Archives » General Discussion (1/22-2007 thru 12/14/2010) |
Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators
Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.
Home | Discussion Forums | Journals | Store | Donate
About DU | Contact Us | Privacy Policy
Got a message for Democratic Underground? Click here to send us a message.
© 2001 - 2011 Democratic Underground, LLC