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The posts and threads discussing Susan Boyle are like a crazy quilt attempting to make sense of itself. I have seen a strong reaction from many posters on the subject, but this post isnt about her. It is about why politics start at home, with our relationships not only with each other, but ultimately our relationship with how we percieve ourselves.
No one will argue that recent studies have shown that black children, when presented with a white doll and a black doll, often pick the white doll as the more beautiful doll. Thats politics, that is conditioning, that is self loathing that has been conditioned into a person at a very early age.
This same abhorrent self hatred is absolutely imperative to corporations and companies to keep intact in modern society. You cannot sell wrinkle cream and makeup to women or men who love themselves just as they are. The 'beauty industry'makes billions and billions of dollars from you hating yourself. And once they have you hooked, they keep you for life. When you get old, and we ALL get old, the beauty industry loves it. Thats when they really go for the kill. You can choose to buy into their ideas of who you must be, (which will make them wealthy), or choose to think for yourself. The other point I am trying to make is that there is a definitive sexual politic when it comes to women fitting very rigid standards, and also men, who seem to be allowed a little more leeway.
Those standards are asked to be met in other roles they play, also. Back in the late 60s, women and men who fought side by side against the Vietnam War were active in civil rights and human rights issues. I worked back then, also. I remember one thing, tho, and it is one of the reasons that the womens movement evolved from that time period.
The men in the movement still expected us to make the coffee. they also expected us to stay in the background and not be a part of the deep decision making process. Not all of them, but a lot of them. They expected us to make bread and clean the dishes. and have sex. when they wanted. So, we left. we formed conciousness raising groups and made our own decisions and led ourselves. The reason I bring this up is, that back then there were these marvelous revolutionary men who were working to demand civil rights for people, but got VERY angry when the women in their groups exposed the lack of respect and dignity they showed in their own personal relationships . Politics begin in the bedroom, and the kitchen, they begin by looking in the mirror and within ones self and asking ones self, how do I percieve other people? How do I percieve myself? What are my relationships with people, groups, and my family?
One of the reasons that the Susan Boyle meme has struck so many people, and especially women, is that as women we have been judged as worthy human beings only if we fit into rigid corporate stereotypes. Black people suffered under the stereotypes thrust upon them by society, and they rebelled. They are still fighting them. Women are no different. They also fight stereotypes thrust on them. I tried to teach my sons to fight the stereotypes that men ensuffer to be fair.
I would like to share a personal story to make a point. When I was 12, I lived in a very poor family. I had very crooked teeth. My parents could not afford to have them straightened, so they took me to a dentist and all of my teeth were removed. dentures. In those days this was done. Of course, I was humiliated at the time. I was in school and I was bullied unmercifully for a year. beaten up many times. Called names, spit on. Outcast. I was considered ugly. as time went by I blossomed. I started to like myself more and more. I went thru high school and one good teacher noticed I could sing and act and draw. He helped me like myself, he was very supportive. then, my physical looks started to change. I accidentally started to fit the description of 'beauty' by societal standards. I was in dance, and I was asked to participate in beauty pageants. I thought it was bullshit, but I needed the money for college, so I did it. I also modelled in Chicago for 3 yrs. BUT I always knew it was bullshit, the beauty stuff. I was still me, the kid with the dentures who had been spit on. I never forgot what it was like to be beaten up. I never used the 'beautiful' stereotype to envision myself. I was told by many men, oh my god you are so beautiful. I thought they were silly.
and now I am old. and getting old means you dont get to fit the stereotypes anymore. Because I never took the stereotypes seriously in the first place, getting old is easy.
and everyone of you on here who thinks your face and body wont get old are deluding yourself. you will be old. YOU can choose to love being old, or hate it. YOU can choose to embrace who you are right now or hate who you are right now.
I have discovered that when a person loathes themselves, they project it onto others.
I know a wonderful young woman who is 25. She fit the stereotype once. She was burned in a house fire. Her face has had a great deal of reconstructive surgery. Is she beautiful? Oh yeah. You have to get to know her. shes a peach.
I know of a 35 yr old woman who also fit the stereotype once. She had both breasts removed due to cancer. Is she beautiful? Oh yeah.
So, I guess, as I age, and as I finally grow up, I embrace the diversity of what beautiful is. I embrace my own definitions . I can now say that everyone to me is beautiful. everyone.
Corporations and the beauty industry hate me. I am their worst nightmare. I am their worst nightmare because I love myself.
so, anyway, thats my 2 cents on why this Susan Boyle thing is political, and has touched so many people.
and no, I dont have a TV.
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