WTF? I just don't know what to think about this.

[graywarrior]

http://nh.craigslist.org/com/1101187375.html

[Patsy Stone]

1. Wow. I just don't know what to say about any of it.

But, for starters, it's the literal description of the ol' "it's the least I could do" cliche.

[Jackeens]

2. Jesus. It's either the saddest thing ever, or hatefully malicious. I fear the latter.

[supernova]

3. If I were the ex hubby, I'd be very upset

with her for announcing my troubles on craigslist.

:wtf:

[proud2BlibKansan]

29. And posting his phone number?!

[bkkyosemite]

4. Kinda of believable I think well maybe it's hard to say but she is only asking for peanut butter and

bread.

[CoffeeCat]

5. So, she pays for his cell phone?

Cancel the cell phone and use that money to buy groceries.

This has to be a scam.

[Vanje]

9. Last months cell phone payment....

dosnt buy this weeks food.

[Vanje]

10. A scam. Right

They're making millions selling jars of peanut butter and loaves of stale bread.

[Vanje]

6. Dover NH!

Take the guy some food!

If its a scam, it will have cost you little.

[bkkyosemite]

7. Ya know I looked again and the kids were teens and it was a few years back...so

why can't the kids help him now...they must have peanut butter..OR why can't she send him peanut butter herself...

[Mamacrat]

54. Kids

Thanks for the post at the end of the thread. I did see on their Facebook friends list that only one child is college age and the other two have not yet graduated high school. They might not even be told of their father's situation.

[bkkyosemite]

8. There should be a food bank in Dover?

[Vanje]

19. I was utterly foodless once. Food Bank was no help.

a few years ago. This was me.

I had food the month before.
I had food the month after.,
But I did not have any food at all for a few weeks.
Owned a car.
Owned a little house.
No job.
No money. Not even a quarter. None.
When I couldnt stand it anymore, I called the local food bank. It took all my pride. It wounded. I feel it still. So humiliating. I might as well have saved my pride.
They had no food. They were closed for Christmas holiday.
A food bank from the next town over would not feed out-of-towners. Just as well, I didnt have the gas to get there and back.

[LynnTheDem]

21. Why didn't you call me???

I would have fed you. :hug:

[Vanje]

23. I was too embarrassed

I had friends in that town.
I would have been mortified to approach them.


What I ended up doing was butchering a sheep which did not belong to me.
I ate a whole sheep in 3 days.

[LynnTheDem]

32. Hopefully you'll never suffer a next time...but if you do,

just call & say you're coming over.

Coz we just shouldn't go round eating entire sheep!

[Vanje]

35. Ah, but

a sheep NEVER tasted so good.
For me and my dogs.


I'm better situated now.
I have a steady job and a great support system of friends, none of whom know about my run of bad fortune (and I keep it that way.)

It wouldnt happen now.

But it did happen then.

[LynnTheDem]

36. Ambrosia, I bet. Hunger -true deep starving hunger- has a way of making

stale bread taste divine.

Glad you made it through! :hug:

[LynnTheDem]

11. He's wearing military tags.

Sadder and sadder.

America the "beautiful"???

[LakeSamish706]

15. Sorry, didn't read yours before I posted... But yeah, he is wearing military tags. n/t

[rrneck]

12. Lotsa questions there.

I don't think food will answer any of them.

[Vanje]

20. Yes. Food will help

Why wouldnt you feed a hungry man?

[rrneck]

41. Of course. If he's really hungry.

There may be a fight there. Put your ex husband's picture on craigslist and tell everyone what a failure he is. Somebody here might be behaving like an ass. And it could be either one of them or both of them.

[LakeSamish706]

13. Is he wearing a military tag in one of those pics? n/t

[mix]

14. disturbing, maybe an inside joke

what's disturbing is the message seems intended to lure someone to that address

[nc4bo]

16. His mouth is smiling but his eyes are not. If I lived near there I'd drop him off some food. nt

[Horse with no Name]

17. I don't know if it is true or not...however, the most disturbing thing is

that we think it possibly might.
:(

[imdjh]

18. The names check out, sort of

There is an Amanda Putur in Beverly Mass, and there is a Stanley J Putur in Beverly Mass.
However, there are TWO Amandas, one born in 1970 and the other in 1924; what is the likelihood of Stanley's ex-wife having the same name as his mother?
There is one Stanley, born 1924, and he's in Beverly Mass though not at the same address as either Amanda.
There is also a Stanley J Putur, no birthdate given in Portsmouth NH, but not on Back River Rd. There is a house at 22 Back River Road, built after 2004.


Stanley Putur aged 43 of Beverly MASS comes up in a Reunion.com search as does an Evelyn Putur of Portsmouth NH

[Mamacrat]

44. Address is hair salon?

I googled the address and it shows as a hair salon. Charleen's Hairstyling. I think it's best for people to donate to the food bank and possibly alert them about the situation. Maybe they have an outreach person who could find this man if the information given is true.

[alphafemale]

22. Mayonnaise out of packets?

I'm sorry but...:rofl:

It also sets off every possible alarm that this is payback for something or other.

Him and his "friend?"

Posting the phone number AND address?

Can't possibly be real.

Ok...so has anyone called the poor schmuck yet?

[Vanje]

24. Probably the last thing in his fridge.

I was in a situation like that.

Laugh your ass off.

[alphafemale]

40. I am.

Because

I'm not buying it.

There are ways to help a person.

Posting personal info on the internet isn't one of them.

[nc4bo]

26. This is going to sound crazy but

my BIL (dh's oldest bro) is on crack. There was a period of time where he was homeless - plundered through restaurant dumpsters for food, even slept in a few and you know those little sugar packets you get at McDonald's for coffee? Well, he'd steal those by the pocket ful and would eat them when there was nothing else and no way to feed his habit.

sigh....

[Vanje]

30. The grocery store dumpsters

are mostly covered.
But theres some food in restaurant dumpsters.
Its not very nice food.
I used it mostly to feed my dogs.
I ate some myself.
Back when I didnt have any food at all.

(I wasnt even a crack-head. Just didnt have any money or food.)

[nc4bo]

34. It's sad and I can't help but wonder why it would be so difficult to just

do a non perishable food drop.

A loaf of bread and some peanut butter costs so little. If the story is false then only $5-6 dollars lost but if the story is true, some starving person will have a full belly for a day or two.

ETA: I am so sorry you had to go through that :(

[imdjh]

25. 978-223-7375 is a land line in Danvers Mass according to superpages reverse directory

[imdjh]

27. OK, that means nothing, I just rev dir my phone and it says it's a landline, it isn't

[bkkyosemite]

28. Maybe we should email this to the police in Dover to check it out.

[bkkyosemite]

31. Dover Police Department 603) 742-4646

[Vanje]

33. Sounds like he's squatting.

With police involved he may end up hungry AND without a roof over him.

[rucky]

37. She's asking for food - not cops.

What's wrong with everybody commenting on this thread?

[bkkyosemite]

38. If he is truly in trouble who else can we call.

[rucky]

39. I just hope folks in Dover answer the ad.

I know you meant well, but I was frustrated because nobody seems to be taking this at face value.

[amitten]

42. I take it at face value. The man is hungry, and she can't help

anymore. She probably doesn't know what else to do.

And I don't think she's doing this out of spite.

[aikoaiko]

43. The Dover Food Pantry is about a 20 minute walk from his address.

If anyone is unsure if this is legit but you want to help, you could donate a few bucks to the Dover Food Pantry (they say cash donations buy 4 times the food for the same amount a citizen would spend at the market).

Dover Food Pantry
1 Silver St.
Dover, NH
742-1666
Th 9 a.m.-12 noon

[Mamacrat]

46. Dover Food Bank

There is also the Food Bank of Delaware: http://www.fbd.org/ They have referrals for other services, too.

If you are hungry or otherwise in need of assistance, please call the Delaware Helpline at 1-800-464-HELP. Click here to visit the Delaware Helpline web site for more information and helpful resources.

Is anyone willing to contact them and alert them to this issue?

[Mamacrat]

50. Oops!

I have been informed that I posted a link to Dover, Deleware instead of New Hampshire. Sorry, it was early and I didn't catch that thinking I'd found a great link in Dover!

[RebelOne]

45. Got this message when I clicked on link:

This posting has been deleted by its author.

So, I have no idea what it is all about.

[babylonsister]

47. "This posting has been deleted by its author."

What was this about? :shrug:

[Redneck Socialist]

48. I live in the area, so I went and checked this out.

I live in this general region, so I drove over to the address listed. It was a house with a for sale sign out front and another house being constructed behind it. The house looked empty, no shades on the windows, but there were signs of habitation, a grill on the porch and a lawnmower stashed under the porch. I saw someone inside so I went and knocked on the door. A man answered the door asked how he could help me. I said "This is kind of weird..." and went on to explain what I had seen here and at craigslist. He told me that he owned that house and the property behind that was being developed and that a Stanely Putur was staying there. He was not aware that Stanely was having any sort of difficulties. I left some information on how to contact the Dover Food Pantry and he said he would give it to Mr. Putur.

<shrug>

With the posting being deleted at Craigslist I don't know what to think. Parts of the story check out, but it's not clear (at least to me) that Putur is in as dire straights as the craigslist posting made it seem.

[Mamacrat]

49. On Facebook

They are both on Facebook. He is listed in her friends list, and his FB photo is one of the ones used in the ad she posted. They both list Boston, MA as their network. And he lists himself as "John Putur" on FB, not Stanley as the neighbor called him.

Also, I just clicked on the link and see the ad again.

[Mamacrat]

51. Animal Rescuer?

Okay... I saw on the high school page someone referred to earlier her e-mail address. Taking out the "j" middle initial I found a YouTube page of an "aputer" who has listed nothing but videos of animals and those related to the high school in Beverly, aside from one about a fire. The one she posted most recently is of animals she and others have rescued from craigslist: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RffOwhSmeBw This might explain why she used craigslist to ask for help if she's been doing the helping for others on that site.

[bkkyosemite]

52. Okay I will not go into detail but he is okay. He was not starving but called and asked his

ex wife for a loan of money til he got paid. He hadn't eaten that day but it was not a medical emergency. I cannot tell you the rest only that he is okay. And he got something to eat.

Edit: Or should I say I was assured he would get something to eat. Sorry for not being able to say more.

[bkkyosemite]

53. And it is a breath of fresh air to see all those here who care so much. Nice people we have here!