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After they are forced to stop working and collecting disability, doesn't matter the age it happens at, it has to do with being useful, or feeling useful, then feeling useless and the attitude that americans have about work. It's also a blow to ones over inflated ego when they are faced with not being the mover and shaker they believed they were on the job.
My dad beat it by taking a part time job after retiring plus he did things around home to make him feel like he was doing something. The important thing to remember is reguardless of what others think or say, you don't allow that to get to you.
As a disabled person, I have delt with people looking at the disability and not understanding that what was noticeable was just one of the symptoms of my disability, unless your around me every day 24 hours a day you'd only think that I just have a bad limp, so a lot of folks out there decide they know more then the 20 doctors I have seen over my life time and theres nothing stoping me from working except getting rich off the system because I'm to lazy to work. After all they know a blind girl or a guy in a wheelchair that works so all disabled can work.
Retirees face a second problem though, living on a fixed income that allows no unseen changes in prices or bills, when their monthly runs out and bills are mounting often they are swamped at figuring out how to pay things off without any extra income coming in. Before they could work over time and make more then the normal pay check. The stress is unbelieveable, you get X amount of $$$ coming in yet what goes out takes more then what comes in.
So normal human reaction? Alcoholism or drug addiction, At first it starts out as a few beers or hits of whatever, then as the depression sinks in more the more you need to feel good. Caught up in it, the person can't see that whatever they are using is causing more depression. Then you add a nagging partner trying to regulate your intake, who also is living on the same income as you, only she/he has a spending problem, anger starts coming out.
My SO and I go through this every month, it starts the second or third week into the month when your down to your last few dollars, bills start coming in and the bills are higher then the month before, so its the other persons fault, even if she/he had no more control over the matter then you had. 3 things that set me off is hearing SO saying, its on sale, we need it and next month we will have one less bill so we will have that extra money to spend on ourselves.
BS!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whatever extra we do end up having goes right out the window on living or because we needed something to keep the car going or the furnice or whatever. Living on a fixed income sucks and can lead to some escape method, if not held in check, which then adds stress and more anger because you have to stop self from getting something self wants.
So I end up not wanting sex, ( great stress releaser and it doesn't cost a thing so no money out the window for entertainment, yeah I know, 2 naked 80 yo's not a pretty sight ), I snap at every little thing SO does, and I found out that drinking and drugging no longer works.
Sorry a bit long but there is no simple answer for the problem, except getting him to see expert help for whatever he is going through.
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