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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:10 PM Original message |
What happens when someone dies and the family has no money to bury them? |
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ellie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:13 PM Response to Original message |
1. This happened |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:14 PM Response to Reply #1 |
4. I did that with my husband 5 years ago and it still cost me 5,000.00 |
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ellie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 06:36 AM Response to Reply #4 |
32. I think it cost them about $800. |
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roguevalley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:17 PM Response to Reply #1 |
8. When my parents died, we had cremations. They didn't want a service and we |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:27 PM Response to Reply #8 |
18. Thank you. I appreciate the advice. |
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WillieW (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:06 PM Response to Reply #8 |
55. I find it touching that you want to be cremated with your dog. I will do the same. |
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roguevalley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 02:06 PM Response to Reply #55 |
59. they love with a purity you get from few others. they were my friends |
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mrih (188 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:14 PM Response to Original message |
2. Your looking at a state or county funded burial then |
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targetpractice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:14 PM Response to Original message |
3. Wow... I need to know the answer to this, too. |
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kath (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:15 PM Response to Original message |
5. I sure wouldn't shell out $6K - a simple cremation is much cheaper. |
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wuushew (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
6. how about a cheap creamation and a private family event? |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:19 PM Response to Reply #6 |
10. He promised her that she'd have a funeral |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:49 PM Response to Reply #10 |
23. If the cost of the service is a concern, there are clergy who will do a service for free. |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 08:39 AM Response to Reply #10 |
42. a dead person won't know that he fibbed, sheesh |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
7. Most states, they have to take them |
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dysfunctional press (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:19 PM Response to Reply #7 |
11. can you put the remains in the ocean without a cremation? |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:27 PM Response to Reply #11 |
17. Interestingly |
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dysfunctional press (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:04 PM Response to Reply #17 |
28. do they do the 'viking' kind of thing...? |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:22 PM Response to Reply #7 |
15. She passed away at home this evening. but as I understand it an MD has to declare her dead |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:26 PM Response to Reply #15 |
16. She has to be embalmed, yes |
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elocs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:01 PM Response to Reply #16 |
27. Embalming is not required by law except in certain cases. |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:19 PM Response to Reply #27 |
29. Well I'll be |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:55 AM Response to Reply #29 |
37. The reason to do an emblaming is so that a viewing can be had without the body going bad. |
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Mariana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:00 PM Response to Reply #37 |
52. Embalming is a very profitable service. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:03 PM Response to Reply #52 |
53. Yep - a couple hours, a few bucks worth of chemicals, and the mortician gets $1500 more. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:52 PM Response to Reply #15 |
24. The only way to forego embalming in most states is to have her cremated very quickly after death. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:17 PM Response to Original message |
9. Everyone, |
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aikoaiko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:20 PM Response to Original message |
12. ask about renting the coffin -- seriously |
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benddem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:20 PM Response to Original message |
13. my mother's cremation |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:21 PM Response to Original message |
14. When my baby brother was killed at age 29 in 1995, my family's church paid $3000 for |
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Marrah_G (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:49 AM Response to Reply #14 |
35. There are good people out there. |
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bkkyosemite (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:28 PM Response to Original message |
19. Ask the family if they would consider a cremation and then bury her with the grandmother if it can |
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evlbstrd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:32 PM Response to Original message |
20. There is a Social Security Death Benefit |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:36 PM Response to Reply #20 |
22. yes, thye pay a wopping 225.00 |
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evlbstrd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:57 PM Response to Reply #22 |
25. I know it's not much. |
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CharmCity (202 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 10:32 PM Response to Original message |
21. Another option is donating her body to a medical school. |
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SheilaT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:00 PM Response to Reply #21 |
26. My mother did that. |
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Ms. Toad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:45 AM Response to Reply #26 |
34. Same with my grandparents |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:50 AM Response to Reply #21 |
36. I'm afraid that if I did that... |
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ThomWV (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:58 AM Response to Reply #21 |
40. I tried that with my father's body - they won't take them if an autopsy has been performed |
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DemoTex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:05 PM Response to Reply #40 |
54. Donor restrictions at Emory + some natural/green burial options .. |
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Tutonic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
30. County must pay for burial if she is indigent. Might not get a marker |
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handmade34 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-28-08 11:30 PM Response to Original message |
31. CHOICES... |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:39 AM Response to Original message |
33. There is a cremation society here in PA that will do the necessary |
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mod mom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:55 AM Response to Original message |
38. 2 weeks ago I had 2 young girls about 10yo knock on my door asking for $ for their Aunt's funeral. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 07:57 AM Response to Original message |
39. Please don't take money from your 401(k) - I know it's a good cause, |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 08:37 AM Response to Original message |
41. never take money from a retirement acct to bury the dead, that's just...wildly unwise |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 11:52 AM Response to Reply #41 |
44. 5200.00 is the minimum. There's nothing fancy. One day for showing |
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dugaresa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 08:40 AM Response to Original message |
43. I am sorry for your family's loss, however I recommend that |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 11:53 AM Response to Original message |
45. Something between the Grapes of Wrath and Nat'l Lampoon's Vacation. |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 11:59 AM Response to Original message |
46. I think it is called Potter's Field |
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RedLetterRev (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
47. My deepest condolences, dear one |
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GreenPartyVoter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 12:27 PM Response to Original message |
48. I am so sorry about your aunt. *hug* We had my mom cremated. It cost far less. $800 or so, I think? |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 12:30 PM Response to Original message |
49. If someone is murdered |
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noonwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 12:41 PM Response to Original message |
50. A state-paid funeral-pressboard casket, no frills. |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
51. Either a cremation (no 'viewing') or an Anatomical Gift to a medical school near you. |
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DemoTex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:07 PM Response to Reply #51 |
56. See my post #54 |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:11 PM Response to Original message |
57. Social Security has a death benefit. |
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justiceischeap (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-29-08 01:14 PM Response to Original message |
58. Michigan DHS offers services for those that can't afford burial -- Link enclosed |
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