There Is Nothing Wrong Having An Affair

[Parche]

Its not a big deal
Everyone should do it
Have fun in life
Life is too short
:popcorn: :popcorn: :hi:

[slackmaster]

1. What does that have to do with the bombings of Hiroshima and Nagasaki?

:nuke:

[Parche]

18. Well...

They are both explosive events...........:woohoo: :hi:

[panader0]

2. Unless you're running for president.

He has hurt our party for a momentary,selfish pleasure.

[davsand]

4. Edwards is married to the DNC? I thought he was married to Elizabeth.

ELIZABETH, as his actual wife, and participant in that marriage has every claim to his fidelity.

The DNC--well--not so much.


:shrug:



Laura

[dbonds]

3. How many of these popcorn fest posts are you going to make?

You seem to be looking for an blow up.

[Parche]

23. Life Is Not a blow up

Live a little...:hi:

[book_worm]

5. I don't know. Cheating while your wife is sick seems so republican

think McCain and Gingrich.

[riverdeep]

6. If the other party agrees to it,

then fine. Although then it's not really an affair, more of an open relationship. How would you like to find that the kid you've been raising for the last ten years isn't your biological child? Or that your husband has been supporting another woman's living expenses?

These aren't the only outcomes of an affair, but come on, you're being intellectually dishonest because it was one of our own that got caught in saying it's no big deal.

[Zynx]

7. That's beyond disgusting.

[Parche]

38. Marriage Is Nothing More Then A Piece Of Paper

Live while you can
have fun
have an affair

[Codeine]

57. Your marriage, perhaps.

Some of us are built a little differently. We respect the people we marry.

[IndianaJones]

8. perhaps his wife wasn't giving him any. nt.

[Zynx]

9. He can beat off then.

[IndianaJones]

12. maybe that is a deeper sin in his religious code than adultery. nt

[Zynx]

13. Doubt it.

[Pale Blue Dot]

26. If, as you put it "his (cancer-ridden) wife wasn't giving him any", there is an answer for that.

It's called honesty. He could have been honest with his wife about his needs. Perhaps he would have even gotten permission. In any case it would have shown him to be more of a man than sticking his dick into another woman did.

[kristyt]

41. Why do people excuse this???

I don't care that he may have been your favorite candidate. Wrong is wrong.

[RadiationTherapy]

31. HAHAHA!! Maybe she has cancer and doesn't feel UP to it!

BAAAHAHHAA!

prig.

[RB TexLa]

10. And the French Parliament weighs in.

[Dreamer Tatum]

11. Does Elizabeth Edwards still post here?

I'm sure your words will be quite a balm for her right about now. Not.

[IndianaJones]

14. yeah, this place is usually so sensitive to the feelings of its members. nt.

[Zynx]

16. Posters like the OP give the GOP charge that Democrats are moral deviants some weight.

Granted the GOP is full of hypocrites, but still.

[Sheets of Easter]

15. Just as there's nothing wrong with putting your stupid fucking idiot ass on ignore.

[Parche]

34. Getting A Little Teste?

:shrug: :hi:

[Pale Blue Dot]

17. I disagree.

And, TRUST ME, I've thought about this topic A LOT.

[Sugar Smack]

19. WTF is wrong with you?

:wtf:

[Parche]

25. What??

I didnt have sugar smacks for breakfast this morning.........:hi:

[Sugar Smack]

29. Oh *gawd*, you're in one of *those* posting moods again.

Best to ya, Sparky. Step away from the liquor, eh? *nods*

[Parche]

33. I Havnt gone to the bar yet

Tonight, tonight, tonight

:hi:

[eShirl]

20. wait until the roles are reversed

you might change your opinion

[TornadoTN]

21. "Everyone should do it"?

Wow, project much?

People have their own preferences in their marriage, some people welcome other "activity" in the bedroom. That's fine with me and who am I to judge?

But most of the time, the cheating occurs without the consent of the other partner (hence:cheating) or their knowledge. That's where I have a major problem with cheating because it hurts other people. Be man enough to tell your wife and either split or work things out. No political career is worth a marriage.

[DailyGrind51]

22. Why bother getting married in the first place? If you want sexual autonomy,

stay single and fuck your brains out!

[Xithras]

28. Because marriages aren't just about sex? n/t

[DailyGrind51]

43. They ARE about trust, unity, and friendship, however!

I take it you have never been married?

[kristyt]

24. There is when your wife or husband is battling cancer

That shows no fucking character.

[malaise]

36. If I was battling cancer

I'd assume that hubby has basic sexual needs. Character doesn't come into this.

[kristyt]

40. Are you kidding me? Read the post I'm having to reply to everyone

What is this? Like the 1800s???

No if you're battling cancer--MAN OR WOMAN--your spouse should be faithful. Especially then..."...in sickness or in health."

This is why marriage is such utter bullshit. People just get married and don't give a damn about what they're agreeing to.

I'm not any special marriage advocate FYI, this is a great reason to have an open relationship if Johnny boy felt this way. But no, he went and made the voluntary choice to get married. He didn't have to agree.

But nope, he did and still cheated at the worst time.

No, he gets ZERO respect from me.

[malaise]

51. Why?

'in sickness or in health' are nice words. I've been married for decades and those words are great for a short illness. I would not expect my husband to give up a basic need like sex for six months or more. That is not love - it's ownership beyond reason and I also promised to love him.

[kristyt]

52. You Should Expect Sacrifice

Well, ok, I'm going too far to say what you specifically should expect, that's your own private deal.

But in general, you should expect to possibly have to go without sex in case of illnesses.

I mean the idea is that marriage is bigger than the sex. Edwards should have never gotten married if he wasn't willing to give up getting some.


Again, if you want to do it differently...I'm actually in favor of it. Marriage doesn't appear to fit our values today and your response is not atypical of many on here. It's like well, yeah we're married but how does that affect anything?

Well the idea is that it does affect your future sex options. It's a strange idea, marriage. But the main idea behind it is that you only have sex with the one person the rest of your whole life. That's the essential part of it (than and property rights).

People shouldn't be getting married if they don't agree with these old and dated ideals.

So I apologize for coming off short with you. But I just can't disagree more about your view of marriage. It either measn something or doesn't and this is where we're running into trouble. I think it does and should mean something...ideas many people don't much agree with anymore. So don't get married is my solution.

[malaise]

53. Hahahahaha

Maybe we have different views re marriage. Our ideals work fine.

[Dorian Gray]

27. Everyone should do it?

No thanks.

But it is between him and his wife. I hope she kicks him in his nuts for her sake, though.

[azmouse]

30. Shame needs to make a comeback.

:(

[kristyt]

44. Well said.

[renate]

32. there is nothing wrong with kicking a puppy

Except if it hurts the puppy.

There's a difference between rejecting sexual puritanism and purposely doing something that will hurt a fellow being.

[Parche]

35. Thats different

That is physical

[Midlodemocrat]

37. Parche, you douchebag. Of course there is.

It's a fantastic betrayal of trust.

But, it's also no one's business except for the parties involved.

[Parche]

45. PFFFTT

I love you too.....:woohoo: :woohoo: :rofl: :hi: :hug: :popcorn:

:P:P:P:P:P:P

[Midlodemocrat]

46. Oh, I love you. But, you're still a douchebag.

:rofl:

[stray cat]

39. If you and your significant other makes no claim to fidelity up front - fine

most people take marriage vows. A vow is a promise.

[LWolf]

42. Unless you've vowed monogamy to and with someone.

Then you are an untrustworthy cheat, and there is something wrong with that.

In my opinion.

[Fleshdancer]

47. Beating your spouse is fun too!

Why stop at emotional pain when you can inflict physical pain too?

:sarcasm:

[leftofthedial]

48. bang away everybody!

[WillowTree]

49. Nothing wrong with it?

Tell that to my friend whose former husband brought the lovely HPV virus home with him from one of his affairs. She and her oncologist might disagree with you just a tiny bit about that.

[Parche]

50. Thats Different

Have safe sex
when you have an affair

[Deja Q]

54. And then we whine and complain why people don't give a shit about each other

It really is a big deal.

Too many kids with one parent, foster, orphaned situations, or both parents busy at work all the time so they can't take care of the kids (not everybody can be a CEO and we've read a lot of incidents about people "working harder and harder" and getting less, which isn't fair to them... amongst other tangential issues, of course)...

If for nothing else, parental and sexual responsibility is the one thing that MUST be immutable. Swingers and flingers often make unintentional babies -- to abort them is wrong, so what might be deemed worse happens: Abandoned people.

Ditto for otherwise responsible parents having to work x number of jobs and therefore not having proper time TO parent.

[Parche]

58. Yeah

So there

:hi:

[windoe]

55. Trust and honesty make a good relationship

whether it be between life partners, family members or leaders and constituency. Open relationships are an agreement, and if someone admitted to having an affair or having a mistress in a mature way I would admire that person for handling a volatile situation with as much grace as possible.

The problem with me is the hypocrisy of wearing the mantel of 'family values' while not doing that in private. I think in the 21st century, heterosexual and/or monogamous fairy tale relationships that last a lifetime are not the rule in the Western world, so 'family values' can widen it's definition for this age we live in, if we allow it. Family values has to do with defining your own lifestyle while remaining truthful, or at the very least be able to tell the truth after making a mistake.

Trust is earned, and it must be renegotiated after it has been betrayed. Unfortunately in public office trust is difficult to gain in the first place.

[spanone]

56. i could care less who pokes who or gets poked