I have not been around much lately. My mother is dying .. slowly.

[DemoTex]

Sorry to the PM'ers. Sorry to the post responders that I cannot get back to. She is slipping. I drove down to Griffin, Ga, today .. and back. That was 400 miles. It was worth it. It was a good day for her. She remembered our house (here in Greenville) from her Thanksgiving visit.

She said today how much she loved the art work in our house .. especially the Kipniss. She is blind as a bat, but sharp as a tack. She went around the house with a magnifying glass .. literally .. Thanksgiving. And Dr. D. played the piano for her. She loved it!

Mother realized it was her first and last visit here. She is no dummy!



The light is on for Mother .. any time.
(Dr. D's piano visible through the French window to the left of front door)

[ursi]

1. I don't know you but take care and blessings to your mother ...

[Catch22Dem]

7. DemoTex is one of the greatest DUers of all time

Guaranteed.

[Jackpine Radical]

10. Indeed.

[DemoTex]

27. Too kind ..

But I love that DU Luv!

Thanks!

[proud2BlibKansan]

32. Yes you are

My heart goes out to you. My mom died 15 months ago. I know what you are dealing with.

[Berry Cool]

2. I don't know you, but I feel for you.

This must be such a tough time for you. I'm glad you had a good day today.

[Catch22Dem]

12. DemoTex is one of the original DUers

Vietnam Vet. Pilot. Was at one time thinking about putting some of his INCREDIBLE stories together in a book. I'm curious if he was ever able to do any of that. Maybe he'll reply.

A good soul. His mother raised him right.

[DemoTex]

21. Working on that book.

She will love it! Except for the cuss words. Mom loves those stories, too. Well, most of them.

[Catch22Dem]

28. We all do, man. (n/t)

[truedelphi]

30. Hope you can be there when you can be and

That she is blessed in the way that she goes. It sounds like the two of you have both been a gift for each other.

My dad died five years ago - age of ninety. Woke up and wanted ice cream for breakfast and for whatever reason, my mom dished it up.

He ate it, said what a fabulous meal it was, took a nap and died in his sleep within the hour.

Family told me how awful they felt that he ws alone in the room when he went. But really, it is not possible to die alone. Someone on the other side comes and gets you.

If you are slowly Dying, you can be dying alone over the weeks and months.

But when you slip away, you are always met by someone or many others. It is one of thel essons I have learned from working hospice.

[Catch22Dem]

3. So sorry to hear it DT

Be with her as much as you can.

[journalist3072]

4. God Bless you and your mom...

[supernova]

5. Prayers for you and your Mom, DemoTex

:hug:

I know your path and I empathize.

You gave her a great home to visit.

[Breeze54]

6. I'm sorry to hear this, DemoTex

:( :hug:

Thanks for updating us. Hang in there.

[Jackpine Radical]

I'm so sad for you. My deepest sympathy.

It's hard to watch your parent fade. I've been there too, I know.

[Sarah Ibarruri]

8. I'm so sorry. I wish you strength and good things, for your whole family.

Your mom sounds like a great person. Blessings to you.

[maddezmom]

9. My thoughts are with you

My granny is going 97 we had a scare this past week. Everyday is precious. :hug:

[Stinky The Clown]

11. The distance makes it hard, but a mother's love is forever.

I still feel mine many years hence.

[peace13]

66. I love your response.

Very true.

[peace13]

13. Hugs to you.

Your mom sounds like a real character! Peace and love to you, Kim

[aquart]

14. I'm so sorry.

My mom's 86 and not slipping, exactly. But losing her whole generation and expecting that she'll be next or maybe the one after.

And people keep telling her she's not allowed to go. Which makes her all huffy. She's the...tent pole, the lynch pin, the touchstone for so very many.

It's unimaginable.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

15. Do what you can to spend as much time with her as possible

And may the time you do get to spend with her all be good days.

You and yours are in my thoughts, DemoTex.

[Maat]

20. What you said, LSD.

May the time spent with her be delightful.

May the rest of her life be filled with joy and peace.

You are in our thoughts and prayers, DT.

[SeattleGirl]

16. Bless your dear mother, DemoTex

I'm going through something similar with my mom.

:hug:

[Warpy]

17. I lost mine---slowly---in August, 2003

She had also lost her sight and her hearing. I could pull her into the present if I had to, but letting her wander in the past was far kinder.

It's awful when it happens, but you get used to it. Slowly.

[shadowknows69]

18. Sorry to hear DemoTex

I hope your mother's passing will be as peaceful as possible. You have my prayers.

[havocmom]

19. Strength to you at this time

Prayers for a peaceful, gentle passing for you mother when her time comes.

Strength coming from all points to that lovely home. Lean on us, we're here for you.

[lonestarnot]

22. Prayers and hugs.

Do the best you can.

[Coexist]

23. so sorry.

[MissDeeds]

24. Dear DemoTex

I hope the road that you and your mom are traveling is made easier by the love you share and blessed memories. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[spanone]

25. i lived that 8 yrs ago.....

:grouphug:

[dweller]

26. Enjoy the time you have with her

you sound like a lucky man, she obviously had a part in raising you right.

and that's a beautiful house btw, what 'style' is it known as?
dp

[TNDemo]

29. What a beautiful house.

I'd take a magnifying glass to it too. Enjoy these last days, as painful as they are. Keeping your mind to the end is a beautiful thing and I so envy you this special window of time as my mother's mind slipped away for years before her body did. But I don't care how old you get, it's always hard to lose Mama. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

Is that Greenville NC or SC? I used to live in NC.

[TwilightZone]

31. The best to you, your mother, and your family, DemoTex.

Good thoughts to you all.

[mmonk]

33. Best wishes to you DemoTex, and your family and your mother.

My mom died slowly (around a two year period). It all began with a cough she had and ended up with weekly blood transfusions, some nursing and rehab care, and home healthcare. All I can say is enjoy your life with her because she is enjoying her life with you. She will be immortal because she will always be in your memory and your wonderful times together with stay with you fresh, each day.

[shireen]

34. my thoughts are with you, mom, and the rest of your family

:hug:

[DemoTex]

35. Thanks, dear DUers!

I am lifted .. yet again .. by this special place.

Mac

[bonito]

36. It's folks like you that make it so

:hug:

[scarletwoman]

37. Wishing you & your Mother joy and peace. I'm losing my mother too, probably in a few weeks or less.

I have no idea how to deal with it (fast-growing inoperable cancer). Thank you so much for sharing your own experience of this, it helps.

You have always been one of my fave DUers, have loved you for many years now. I don't know what else to say except I wish you both a good transition.

Thank you again, and all my best wishes for both of you.

sw

[renate]

49. I'm so sorry... for both you and DemoTex

My sincere sympathy. Losing a beloved parent is so painful... whether expected as in DemoTex's case or, as in your case (it sounds like the diagnosis came out of the blue), suddenly. I'll be thinking about you both.

Have you contacted hospice, scarletwoman? They would be extremely helpful, not just to your mother but to you as well, and emotionally as much as physically.

What truedelphi said in #30 is true... there's someone waiting on the other side. (At the very least, it's true that the dying often feel the presence of loved ones who've died before them--they may see them, even hear them sometimes. As far as I know it's universally experienced as a comfort, even though to those not in the process of dying it sounds like it could be a little eerie.)

:hug:

[scarletwoman]

52. Thank you. This is DemoTex's thread, I don't want to want to go into my own situation.

I'll just say, being one of the "woo woo" types so generally denigrated here, that I *know* my mother will be joining many loved ones on the other side. I'm totally down with that.

Thank you sincerely for your kind words,
sw

[Individualist]

50. My heart goes out to you and to DemoTex as well

It's so very difficult and painful to lose one's mother.
:hug:

[scarletwoman]

53. Well, barring dying first, I guess it's inevitable that we all lose our mothers.

And our fathers. Life is fatal.

I appreciate your kind thoughts.

sw

[Skittles]

38. thinking of you Mac my sweet and Mama Demo

:)

[Spiffarino]

39. This is a test of your strength and hers

And you are doing everything right. The love you demonstrate for your mother nourishes many souls, not just yours. In fact, mine just got a big shot. :D

Peace to you and may your dear mother have sweet passage on to the next phase.

[TahitiNut]

40. ....

:hug: :pals: :hug:

[tavalon]

41. I hope you are able to be there at the end

It strikes me that you might find that somewhat healing. It's so hard grieving anyway, but to have so much time to anticipatorily grieve, is, I think, both tougher and easier.

[kelligesq]

42. So sorry - it's a painful time - been there.

:cry:

[senseandsensibility]

43. Peace and prayers to you

and your mother.

[proud patriot]

44. Sending my love

:loveya: Take care my friend

[bdamomma]

45. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[UpInArms]

46. sending you and yours

all the warm and caring thoughts that I can.

:grouphug:

[RamboLiberal]

47. Blessings to your mother and to you DemoTex

Sounds like she was a heckuva mom who raised a son who mirrors her in spirit. I was very close to my mom so I know how tough this is. Sounds like she had some very good last days. That is one thing I will always treasure is that my mom who had gotten sick with cancer (fortunately she didn't suffer long) had a very good Saturday with me before she slipped in to a coma the next day and died near midnight.

Again my best to you and your mom and I know you will have a lot of great memories to treasure of her.

[PsN2Wind]

48. So sorry to hear the news of your Mom

I've been wondering where you've been as you've not posted much of late.
Strength to you and Peace to your Mom.
Tom

[roguevalley]

51. God bless you and your mother, DemoTex. My mom left us on

Memorial Day and I feel her around me, along with my little Papa every minute of the day. I will pray for all of you.

[JVS]

54. Bummer man. Ride it out.

[spooky3]

55. I'm very sorry to hear about your mother.

I hope that her remaining days will be peaceful and happy.

Your house is beautiful and unique.

[mogster]

56. Best wishes to your mom, DemoTex

That is a nice house, I liked it too :-)

[SalmonChantedEvening]

57. May you know peace in your heart DemoTex

You and your Mother are in my thoughts.

:hug:

[Solly Mack]

58. You're in my thoughts.

(((DemoTex)))

[malaise]

59. Watching mums fade away is way too painful

All you can do is exactly what you're doing. Fill her hours with love and comfort. :grouphug:

[BigBearJohn]

60. A poem I gave to my mother -- God bless her soul.

To one who bears the sweetest name,
and adds a luster to the same
All glory to her
for there's no other
who can take the place
of my dear Mother.

God bless your mother, my friend.

With love,
John

[salin]

61. (((DemoTex)))

Prayers for you, your mother, Dr. D and all of those close to your mother. :hug:

[Karenina]

62. Much love to you and your family, Demo Tex.

May your mom's passing be peaceful. I'm so sorry. :hug:

[displacedtexan]

63. The love never passes away, Demo Tex.

It just gets stronger.

We love you!

Delilah

[mikeytherat]

64. Peace to you from all of us, including my Vietnam pilot dad.

You'd love pops (aka The Lazybear). He was an F4-E weapons officer and pilot, and flew over 250 sortees in S.E. Asia during "the 'Nam." Career officer, Most Reliable Person on the Planet, a true military man, and leans so far to the left, he's horizontal.

mikey_the_rat

[flashl]

65. Best to you, your mom, and your family. n/t

[eleny]

67. My thoughts are with you, your dear Mother and the whole family

And what a lovely, inviting home. It's no wonder that she remembers and loves it.

[sicksicksick_N_tired]

68. Wishing you and your Mom, peace. My Dad has terminal cancer. It's difficult,...

,...losing those we love so much.

:hug: