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My husband and I had this conversation, and I know I failed to argue well. I guess I've got Junior fatigue. However, would anyone care to help me talk some sense into my husband? Any helpful retorts or Web sites I can point him toward? Thanks.
Me: So, we're going to bomb Iran. That's just great. Moving on from one failed war, and now we're starting another.
Husband: Iran is ruled by a nut job, honey. We can't allow these people to have nuclear weapons.
You might point out here that our own fine nation is likewise ruled by a quasi-theocratic nut job with nukular weapons and backed by a much more powerful military, Additionally, our commander in chief has a clear history of engaging in unprovoked attacks against sovereign nations, whereas Iran's ruler does not.
That is, if your husband's justification is valid re: attacking Iran, then it's at least as valid re: attacking the US of A.
Me: Darling, Iran is, at best, ten years from building a nuclear weapon. We don't need to march in like there's no tomorrow and bomb the hell out of them.
Husband: Sweetheart... What...are we supposed to wait until they actually possess nuclear weapons? Is that what you're saying? We have to end any hint of a nuclear program.
Even if this were the case, but on what authority do we assign ourselves the role of the world's policeman? And why, then, do we not attack North Korea, as you note below? We can't claim moral authority while acting only to protect our economic and imperialistic interests.
Me: Darling....These people have the right to have nuclear power. We don't have the right to bomb them because they plan to use nuclear power. Anyway, Iran says that they aren't interested in building a bomb. So, we're going to bomb them based on something they *might* do *ten years from now* that they say they *aren't* going to do?
Husband: Princess...Please don't stick up for the nut jobs. You're scaring me. Have you heard some of the rhetoric from the Iranian leader? The man doesn't think the Holocaust happened. He said Israel should be wiped off the map. The guy is a radical nut job. Even the former leader of Iran denounces him.
This is an empty argument. The rhetoric falling from Dubya's gob is quite horrifying in its own right, in terms of "evil doers" and "fighting them there so we don't have to fight them here" blah blah blah. Incidentally, Dubya doesn't think that evolution happened, so he's hardly in a position to attack people for holding wacky beliefs. And even if Iran's president is as nutty as they say, does that justify a strike against an entire country? It didn’t justify the mass murder of Iraqi civilians, and it doesn't justify the murder of innocent Iranians, either.
Me: Sweet-honey-pumpkin-muffin...The guy poses no threat to us. His rhetoric was intended to galvanize his base. He is no imminent threat to us, any more than Saddam Hussein was. There are plenty of radical leaders saying outrageous things---what, are we going to bomb them all? I mean really! North Korea all ready HAS a nuclear weapon, and we leave them alone! But we're going to bomb a country that MAYBE might have a bomb SOMEDAY. Great! That's just GREAT!!
Husband: Light of my life...Please don't tell me that you're siding with the madman leader of Iran! Are you brainwashed?! That country can NOT EVER have a nuclear weapon! We'd all be toast! Don't you get it? Jeez, you need to get off of that DU site sometimes!! Get some air!
Since he didn't answer the question you posed, you're not obligated to answer his. You might try asserting that pre-emptive war is anathema to freedom and democracy, and you oppose it outright on principle. If there is any other means of dealing with Iran's nuclear program, we should pursue it in preference to a military strike. We lack the resources, the justification, and the moral authority to undertake yet another ill-conceived war in the middle east.
Me: Angel face...I'd rather be on DU than sitting around in denial while these perverted PNAC warmongers take over the world and decimate our children's futures! How nice for you to be anesthetized inside a big denial cloud! We don't need war with Iran! Quit eating up the propaganda and come to your senses! Our entire world is at stake!
Husband: Pooh Bear...We'll just have to agree to disagree on this one.
In the wake of this all-too-likely act of war against Iran, it will be impossible to claim that this is anything other than a war intended to steal the world's oil supply and exterminate hundreds of thousands of Muslims along the way. It's not up to you to explain why we shouldn't attack a soverign nation that's no threat to us. It is up to your husband (as an advocate of military action) to explain why we must attack that nation. If he can't justify it conclusively, then he has no justification at all. And his claims that you've been brainwashed are simple ad hominem attacks with no bearing on the validity of your argument.
We both agreed to take this up another time, and then I kicked his ass in Scrabble. Any suggestions on what I could say next time? I know I didn't argue very well.
You should have said "Mahmoud and I have been having a passionate affair since before he became the mayor of Tehran. We met through our mutual postings at DU, in fact, and we've never been happier together."
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