My Dad had a stroke tonight...

[Ripley]

74 years old. But Dammit all, do I really have to hear my sister bitch at me?
I guess she was informed After me.

Someone play some Charlie Parker, that's what Dad likes...

[Maat]

1. Oh, sending healing energy to you and your family!

May he recover fully soon!

[niyad]

2. as above, sending energy and lots of good thoughts. we are here if you

need us for anything. tell your sister to shut up.

[Stephanie]

3. Yes, let her bitch.

And then you do whatever you do. You're family.

Best wishes to you.

[Wilms]

4. If it keeps your sister from roughing-up your dad's caregivers...

...yes, you have to hear it. :(

[Ken Burch]

5. Damn. That's the age my dad was

when he passed. I hadn't seen it coming. But that's one you can never prepare yourself for.

If that is what is to happen, I hope for his sake it's quick and quiet. And for yours.

If not, I hope he recovers fully and has a few more good years. It isn't clear from your post where things stand.

And I know your sister said some hurtful things, but people don't always take such news
in the most rational ways. Just try to understand that she's probably not totally herself at this moment, and neither are you.
There are few things harder than this.

Take care in any case. I'm so sorry.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

6. Healing wishes for your family

You're sister may be reacting in part due to the shock. Try not to let it get to you and do what you have to.

I'm sorry. :hug:

[BeHereNow]

7. Hugs Ripley...my dad is a stroke candidate too.

His doctor told him that basically, that is probably
how he will "go."
My dad has major blockage at the base of his
skull and his doctor has been quite frank with him
about the fact that he is a walking time bomb.
My love to you and your family, especially your Dad.
If he is as wonderful as my Dad, I can imagine
how hard this must be on you.
I dread the day I hear this news about my Pop.
I know it only a matter of time.
HUGS-
BHN

[nonconformist]

8. So sorry to hear that. Positive vibes sent your way. nt

[stevedeshazer]

9. Hello, my friend, I know how you feel.

My mom is in the ICU tonight...she had surgery yesterday to repair her broken neck (she fell).

Sorry about your sister. My brother...same deal.

I'd like some Charlie Parker, too. So would Mom. She's 78. :hug:

[niyad]

good thoughts and energy for you and your family also. please let us

know how your mom is doing, and remember we are here for you.

[northofdenali]

28. Good thoughts to you, too, Steve

and healing vibes to your mom :hug::hug:

As for Yardbird, see my post below. I'll help listen for her, too.

[NaturalHigh]

10. Best wishes for your family.

We've had a couple of family tragedies lately that have weighed on us, so I truly sympathize. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[FreedomAngel82]

11. I hope your dad is okay

:hug:

[kentuck]

12. Sorry to hear that, Ripley

Hope he recovers soon. Best thoughts your way.

[blonndee]

13. I'm sorry, Ripley.

I don't "know" you so I don't know the dynamics between you and your sister. But I'm sorry about your dad, and about the problems with your sister. But as someone posted above, people often react strangely to trauma like this, so whatever it is, please don't take it personally.

I wish your father and yourself all the best. Used to be, a stroke was "the end" of things. Now, that's often (and very often) not the case. Keep your spirits up if you can and know your DU friends are pulling for you.

[Sawkrates]

14. Best wishes to you and your father

And your sister as well

[I give]

15. I'm sorry

About your sis, sometimes it's easier to be angry than to be grieving. Anger feels better because it gives us the illusion of control, it's active, it makes us want to 'do' something. Grief does NOT feel good; the only thing you can do with grief is to just bear it. You have no control, there's nothing you can do.

Griping about what time she was informed tells me she feels guilty she didn't do more for your Dad, and that she wants to be reassured she is still a vital part of the family (having the head of it taken ill in such a serious way can make us feel awfully insecure.)

Speak to that and ignore the surface b.s.--I'm sorry, this is never easy.

[seabeyond]

16. lots of grace for your family at this time. it is a hard time for all

i would play him, if i knew him.

take care ripley

[Cleita]

17. Take care of Dad. The sooner he gets the help he needs, the

better he will recover most of what he lost in the stroke. Quick action is what is needed and he will recover his speech and most of his motor function if he gets immediate attention and help from family members.

Tell your sister if she can't be of any help to get out of the way. I know. When my husband had a stroke, I had to tell family members to get out of the way too. My husband totally recovered with only an unoticable small paralysis in one of his hands.

[Ripley]

22. Thank you Cleita for that advice...

I appreciate it.

[skylarmae]

18. prayers and best wishes to you and your family

My parents are both 80 yrs old now. My Dad had a bad yr last year in the hospital three times and consequently I was forced to deal with the entire RW family. I'll be sending love and energy to your Dad and especially for you.

Mortality is a bitch to deal with at times, IMHO!

sincerely
stepheni

[bbinacan]

19. Thoughts and

prayers headed your way. :hug:

[juajen]

20. There is life after a stroke, even at 74.

The body's resilience is an amazing thing. I certainly hope that's the case with your Dad. My best wishes for a rapid, uneventful recovery.

[Ripley]

24. He is such a HARD ASS

He will probably pull through and complain about the food forever.

[linazelle]

21. I am sorry to hear that. I hope he pulls through. n/t

[calimary]

23. I'm sorry to hear this.

We'll be praying for you - and for him.

[Erika]

25. Our thoughts are with you n/t

[Ripley]

26. I thank yall so much for your kind words...

Now would some fucker play Charlie Parker or what??? The Old Man needs some music for his head...

[northofdenali]

27. MP3 plugged into this computer, "Yardbird" on the speakers

with the "Best Of" album - and all the good vibes from it for you and your dad. Especially for him:


Wishing you both all the best.
:hug:

[PatrioticLeftie]

29. I'm sorry...

I know how you feel, because I'm in a similar (though not the same) situation now, too.

[Greybnk48]

30. Best wishes for your Dad

Hang in there Ripley. It often takes a few days for a full assessment. The results of stroke vary widely (I've been through it with my Dad, and as recently as January with my Mom-in-law. I surely hope your Dad's prognosis is good.

[Sydnie]

31. I hope he is well again very soon Ripley.

:hug:

[Dem2theMax]

32. I don't have any Charlie Parker, but I do have a lot of prayers

coming your way. Hang in there. Your sister is probably freaked out right now and taking her frustration out on you. Not to excuse her behavior. Both of my parents were in the hospital last year and I know how scary it is. So maybe her bitching is her way of hiding her fear. Just a thought. Yet I know it's the last thing you need right now. So take comfort in the thoughts and prayers from your fellow DU'ers and all my best for your Dad to come through this 100%.

[pacalo]

33. I'm so sorry!

Please keep us updated, Ripley.

:hug:

[bloom]

34. hugs

:hug:

[TankLV]

35. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

That's all I can say.

[Avalon Sparks]

36. I'm so sorry about your Dad

I hope he's OK...

I don't have any Charlie Daniels - but I'll hum some bars of Devil went down to Georgia and think of you and your Dad.

Hugs XOXO

[Binka]

37. Shit I'm About To Stroke NOT CHARLIE DANIELS!

The man wants Charlie Parker! Hey Ripley you take good care ok? :hug:

[Syrinx]

38. here's love for my neighbor!

Best wishes to your dad! I'm hoping for a speedy and total recovery!

(He's got great taste, by the way!)

:loveya:

[FrenchieCat]

39. I'll pray for your dad.....

as that is all that I can do.

Sorry to hear this!

[Bunny]

40. Sorry about your Dad, Ripley.

I hope he has a full recovery. :hug:

[dbt]

41. Peace and strength to you, Rip!

This is some Rough Shit and if your Sis can't be any help, don't hesitate to move her out of the way and do what you have to do! I got a ringside seat while strokes took my Mom, so PM me if you need an ear or a shoulder.


:loveya:
dbt
Remember New Orleans

[newyawker99]

42. I am sorry to hear this Ripley. I will keep him

and your family in my thoughts.


:hug:

[goclark]

43. Hope your dad is much better ~ I played some Charlie Parker

and some Miles Davis this morning for him.

[Dinger]

44. Thinking Of You And Sending Healing Thoughts Ripley

Tell you dad DU sends their best.:grouphug:

[Ripley]

45. Update

Dad can speak clearly, has no paralysis and is walking. More tests today, monitoring for possibly more mini-stroke clots.

Thanks for all the support folks.

[NaturalHigh]

46. That's very good news, Ripley.

Best wishes to your entire family.

[Cleita]

47. You got him to the hospital in time. That's good news.

Now you need to find out why he had the stroke. If you're lucky they will find a clot and can take care of it to prevent future strokes. If they can't find anything, don't give up and make them keep looking until they come up with something.

In my husband's case his blood pressure was sky high, which is what triggered the stroke. They had a brain surgeon looking at him who couldn't find anything. I finally took him to a GP and had them run tests. There is a reason for the high BP. They finally found that he was suffering from kidney failure.

It wasn't the best diagnosis you could hope for, but it gave us something to work with to prolong his life and keep him from having another stroke.

[nonconformist]

48. That is great news. nt

[Ken Burch]

49. Glad to hear it, Ripley

Is your sister in a better mood?

[Behind the Aegis]

51. Very good news!

Hoping he continues to recover to full health!

[Greybnk48]

52. My mother-in-law had a stroke the end of January--some info

The neurologist told us there are two types of stroke, generally speaking. The ones that involve the smaller vessels and the kind that affect the large vessels. Fortunately, hers was the type that involved the smaller vessels. Just a heads up. She developed a droop on the left side of her face several days after her stroke. That was the only impairment she had. No other physical or cognitive problems. The reason I'm telling you this is that with new therapy techniques, her recovery has been nothing short of amazing!! She had some sort of damage to one of her cranial nerves, hence the droop. In the past, I'm pretty sure that was usually permanent. But 1 1/2 months later, with therapy, her face is now pulling up and there is marked improvement.

So even if your dad has some facial signs of the stroke in a day or so, that does not mean it's permanent. It sound like his prognosis is very good.

Best wishes.

[wtmusic]

53. Great news

what a relief. Best wishes to your Dad :thumbsup:

[OzarkDem]

50. Good luck and prayers

for your dad!