Last week one of my neighbors was identified in the Flagler Beach Sexual Predator Sting (Florida).
http://www.news-journalonline.com/NewsJournalOnline/News/Headlines/frtHEAD01121306.htmI have been paralyzed with fear for my grandchildren. He wasn't a "stranger" to them. Two of my grandchildren are babies, but one is eight years old and wanting to explore the world. I don't want them out of my sight. I have joined an online group that helps in capture of these sexual predators and it is truly sickening how these people operate and prey on our children.
This article gives constructive ideas to help parents and grandparents and teachers to instruct children without making them fearful of everyone they come into contact with.
With this information, I now feel I can contribute in a postive way to providing safety to the children in my life and community. I don't think that these tips can be repeated often enough. Please print them out or copy and send to anyone you think that they may be helpful to.
Thank you, Jeanette in FL
Sgt Whitney Allen of the Tulsa Police Department's Child Crisis Unit says many crimes committed against children can be prevented.
- The most important key to child safety is effective communication with your child.
-We maybe sending a confusing message to our children by teaching them “Stranger Danger.” Children may not understand the term
STRANGER. Most children will describe a stranger as someone who is ugly or mean. They don’t perceive nice-looking or friendly people as strangers.
- Experience has shown us that most children are actually taken by someone they are familiar with. If someone talks to a child or is even around them once, that person loses their “stranger” status.
- It is more appropriate to teach children to be on the lookout for certain types of situations or actions rather than certain kinds of individuals.
- Children can be raised to be polite and friendly, but it is okay for them to be suspicious of any adult asking for assistance.
- Children help other children, but there is no need for them to be assisting adults. Adults should not be asking for assistance from children.
- Children should learn to stay away from adults in vehicles, and they should know that it is okay to say NO, even to an adult.
- Parents and guardians should explain to children that the child’s personal safety is more important than being polite.
- Children should be taught to tell things that make them uncomfortable to a trusted adult.
-Kids need to be empowered with positive messages and safety skills that will build their self-esteem and self confidence while helping to keep them safe.
- A clear, calm, and reassuring message about situations and actions to lookout for is easier for a child to understand than a particular profile or image of a stranger.
BASIC SAFETY RULES FOR CHILDREN
- As soon as children can articulate a sentence, they can begin the process of learning how to protect themselves against abduction and exploitation.
- If you are in a public place and you get separated from your parents or guardian, don’t wander around looking for them. Go to a uniformed police officer or a store employee with a name tag.
- You should not get into a vehicle and go anywhere with any person unless your parent or guardians have told you it is okay to do so on that day.
- If someone in a vehicle follows you, stay away from them and turn around and run in the opposite direction.
- If someone is following you on foot, run away as fast as you can and tell a trusted adult what happened.
-Grownups should not be asking children for help. They should be asking other grownups.
No one should be asking you for directions, asking you to help look for something like a “lost puppy” or telling you your mother or father is in trouble and he or she will take you to them.
- If someone tries to take you somewhere, quickly get away from them and yell or scream.
- If someone tries to grab you, make a scene and make every effort to get away by
kicking, screaming, and resisting.
- Try to take a friend with you anywhere you go.
- If someone wants to take your picture, tell them NO and then tell a trusted adult.
- No one should touch you in parts of your body that would be covered by a bathing suit, nor should you touch anyone else in those areas. Your body is special and private.
- You have the right to say NO to someone who tries to take you somewhere, touch you, or makes you feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused in any way.
- If your child does share a problem with you, strive to remain calm, noncritical, and nonjudgemental.