The Greatest Place for Gays to live

[Strathos]

In the world or in the United States. Does anyone have any suggestions.

I think I'm tired of the backward, homophobic assholes running this land. Is there any place any better?

[Chico Man]

1. Provincetown, MA?

Seems pretty liberal out there =)

[MADem]

5. Anywhere in MA, Provincetown is popular in the summer

and expensive, like most of CC...but anywhere past the elbow of the Cape is damn boring in the winter. It's a haul to get to the 'big city' of Hyannis, and when you've got a good storm going, you just want to stay home.

[Strathos]

32. You know, I've never been

But I'm going to think about coming there this summer. I have some friends that I think goes there every year for something, some kind of event. But I'm definitely thinking about a visit just to see the area. Thanks!

[Zapatero]

83. Wow am I dumb

I though Provincetown was in Rhode Island

[Chico Man]

91. Hehe thats Providence.

Although Providence is pretty liberal as well =)

[SPKrazy]

2. Isn't San Francisco The Place?

Maybe not any more?

[porphyrian]

7. I don't know about being gay there...

...but it's expensive as hell.

[SPKrazy]

13. Well I'll I Can Tell You Is

that Arkansas doesn't seem to be too gay friendly (I'm not gay, but I don't think gay people are treated well here. We now have outlawed gay marriage in 2004)

There are probably places in the state that gayness is more acceptable.

Actually, Arkansas is a pretty intolerant state all the way around as far as that goes.

[porphyrian]

14. I'm in Tallahassee, Florida.

There's a pretty large gay community here, which is ironic considering the fundamentalist Christian stranglehold on the region. I wonder how aware of it JEB! is.

[SPKrazy]

21. I'm Sure JEB Doesn't Really Give A Shit

except where it affects his political future

remember he comes from the BFEE, his family members masturbated in coffins at Yale while telling their sexual history to the Skull and Bones Society.

It would be hard to truly be judgmental about sex on a personal level when you've got real freaks in your immediate family.

Any rants JEB has about homosexuality are fabricated and calculated for greatest political benefit.

[porphyrian]

22. He is the slickest one, from what I can tell.

Slick as shit.

[SPKrazy]

28. Yeah, He Overshot His Slickness Over Terri Shiavo

must never let the public forget that!

[timtom]

80. I'm going to make an "educated" guess here....

But I would suppose that ANY major university town would be very tolerant of gays amongst them.

[porphyrian]

93. Good point. - n/t

[kevinbgoode]

57. Eureka Springs seems pretty tolerant. . .

the town hosts two gay festival weekends every year. One gay travel guide mentioned that there were no gay bars there - then said there were no straight bars there either. . .everyone goes anywhere they like and no one seems to mind.

[gatorboy]

96. I was going to say that I did hear Eureka being a very nice place to live

if you're gay.

I live in Hot Springs and at one point we had one gay bar (Which is now a mexican bar, I think..) and two drag clubs. One of which, ironically enough, was originally a Baptist church...

[Finder]

84. Fayetteville it is pretty tolerant...

and has a good size gay community.

[CountAllVotes]

15. I can verify that!

I have a good friend that lives there. She was telling me she paid $12.00 for a sandwich! Expensive as hell is right! Only for the rich I'd say.

As for being gay and living there, maybe that is an ok place to live but you'd better be rich.

[Strathos]

33. I lived near San Francisco

a few years ago and was too far north to really get there often, but when I did, I loved it. THE MOST amazing thing I've ever seen is that fog rolling in over the Golden Gate Bridge. BEAUTIFUL!

[IsIt1984Yet]

3. Wouldn't "anywhere they damn well please" be nice?

:shrug:

[Strathos]

34. Amen to that one!

Yes, it would be ideal and just, I don't know, just amazing to be able to be accepted anywhere you went.

[ccpup]

4. NYC!

Greenwich Village, Chelsea, the West Village, the East Village, the Upper West Side, TriBeca, SoHo ... gee-willigers, take your pick!

[Strathos]

35. Not been there yet, but I'm planning on a visit

I've got to see a Broadway play and eat some of that New York pizza.

[Flirtus]

6. Chattanooga

my company has offices in nashville, chatta, and knox, and I can tell you I can't stand to go to Nashville, the co-workers there are such rednecks.
I'm a straight female, but have tons of gay male friends here, mostly through church and music and theatre circles.

[GreenPartyVoter]

8. Portland Maine is pretty nice

[ruggerson]

24. Anywhere in Maine is pretty nice

:)

[GreenPartyVoter]

26. Well, even we have our slums and shantytowns.

[Chico Man]

92. Just bring the bug repellent

=)

[Strathos]

36. The lobster alone could convince me n/t

[GreenPartyVoter]

53. Here's a cool site or 2

http://www.gayportlandme.com/

http://www.gayfuninportlandmaine.com/Organizations.htm

[BlackVelvet04]

9. Key West, FL....n/t

[Strathos]

37. Baby, I've got plans in the works to be in Key West this fall.

I hope it's as amazing as I hear it is.

[BlackVelvet04]

55. I lived in Key West for 2 years....

as long as you don't have a bridge phobia it's great! Great little shops, restaurants and bars, not to mention Sunset Pier where people gather to watch the sunset. It's like a mini-carnival.

Being gay is an asset in Key West. :-) When I lived there the mayor was gay. I wonder if they still have the Fantasy Festival?

[kevinbgoode]

58. I love it there!

It's very expensive, unfortunately, but what a lovely tropical paradise! Rent a scooter or bring a bike - you can pedal the whole island easily. . .walk Duval Street for people watching, hit an open-air bar, watch the performers in Mallory Square.

I love Key West!

[RagingInMiami]

75. Yes, move to Key West

We can use more democrats in Florida.

[bostonbabs]

10. Palm Springs California!!

..We have a black gay mayor and two gay city council members and 2 city council members who are active members of our local church....everyone gets along...we are a community that has a huge Native American presence as well.Respect and tolerance are the order of the day...every day.The sun shines 360 days a year...

Peace

[Strathos]

38. Love California! n/t

[Nailzberg]

11. West Hollywood, CA

Very gay. And Irv's Burgers is there.

[ccpup]

82. But,

unless you're 20 years old AND/OR outstandingly gorgeous AND/OR have a knock out body you don't mind showing off, you're not going to even be acknowledged, let alone welcomed! I still say NYC is the place to be! :beer:

[Clark2008]

12. Knoxville, TN

Believe it or not (of course, it helps that Victor Ashe was mayor here forever. LOL!)

Seriously, you'd have to live in Fountain City or old North Knoxville, but those two communities (I live in Fountain City) are very welcoming to gays and lesbians. I lived in a house about eight years ago where my neighbors on either side were lesbian couples. One couple even adopted the cutest little baby boy.

The only problem with Knoxville is, once you leave the city limits and head out into Knox County, you're likely to be lynched. It really is its own world. For example, there's a hill, called Black Oak Ridge, that separates Fountain City, within the city limits of Knoxville, from Halls, a community in the county.

You could literally watch the Kerry signs being replaced by Shrub signs as you traveled over the ridge and there were actually little "sign wars," wherein some Fountain Citian would post a huge Kerry sign - that would get knocked down or stolen and replaced with a huge Shrub sign which would then be (and I actually saw this) run THROUGH by a car and replaced with Kerry signs. It was very entertaining, actually.

[Strathos]

39. Really? Nashville ain't that bad, but it seems Knoxville

would be about the same. I'll have to check it out.

[Gregorian]

16. London.

They are a society who place much less significance on specific, rigid roles. It's just my observation over the years of listening to what Brits have to say about being gay.

I keep wanting to paint a picture of the ultimate final state of America, as according to the desires of the conservative phonies. I guess one word would sum it up- BORING.

edit- In case it's of any value, I would like to say that being hetero I am as incensed as you might be. It does affect me.

[Strathos]

50. I want to be in London so bad!!!

I went to Australia a couple of years ago and loved it. My next overseas adventure will hopefully be London. Thanks!

[Donald Ian Rankin]

81. I hope so

I'm not gay, but I am likely to be living in London for the next three years, and I'm not overoptimistic about the prospect - I've never lived in a large city before.

The nicest place to live that I've come across is Cambridge (the original one here in the UK, although I imagine the American one is nice too). It's incredibly expensive, though. It's not the kind of place where whether you're straight or gay would make much difference, so I'd probably nominate it as my response to the OP.

[wizdum]

17. Ann Arbor, MI

[cali]

18. I think it depends on what you're looking

for. Beyond acceptance and no hassling that you're gay of course. Urban? Rural? Warm climate? There are lots of places in the US where being gay is not a big deal. My state, Vermont, is definitely gay friendly, but it's still not the place for a lot of people.

[ruggerson]

19. New England or NYC

the rest of the country still has major issues

[Strathos]

40. "Time in New England, took me away"

Just to feel those lyrics, I'll have to make a trip! ;-)

[porphyrian]

20. Chicago is pretty gay-friendly.

There's a whole neighborhood on the north side with rainbow signage along the main strip. How many cities celebrate their gay neighborhood? Depending on where you live, it can be expensive, though.

[Strathos]

41. My partner is working in Chicago for the next few months

He's trying to get me up there and see the sites. You know I've never been any further north than southern Illinois?

[porphyrian]

54. Chicago is a great city all-around.

Definitely go see it if you can, especially if you're into architecture.

[Digit]

23. One of my best buds would say Dupont Circle in DC

He told me they call it the Fruit Loop.

He took me out to dinner at a restaurant there and gays were openly kissing. He looked to see if I was shocked, but I guess he does not know me well enough to know it did not matter to me.

It is pricey there, but very vibrant and exciting.

Oh, perhaps I should mention my best bud is gay...he is like my best friend in the world.

Geez, I miss him!

[Strathos]

42. Been there! Loved it! It is fabulous.

First time I ever saw naked male dancers at a club. They were HOT!

[Sugar Smack]

69. I LOVE Dupont Circle!! Have you ever been to Kramerbooks &

Afterwords? *sigh* I could have spent weeks in there.

[Laughing Mirror]

73. The Fruit Loop? You mean "Bouffant Circle"

That's what we called Dupont Circle when I lived at 17th & P about 25 years ago. My how names have changed.

[formernaderite]

76. Lot's of great gay friendly neighborhoods in the DC area

most of DC....Arlington VA, AlexandriaVA, Takoma Park MD, Garret Park MD, Bethesda MD, Rockville MD, downtown Silver Spring MD, downtown Baltimore City(harbor areas)...plus great gay friendly beaches not too far...Rehobeth. Although my brother prefers NYC over anywhere else.

[thrift_store_angel]

87. Poll from DC area TV station...

http://www.newschannel8.net/pulsepoll.hrb?i=767

Check out the numbers, DC is really not all THAT gay-friendly, and VA is horrible when it comes to gay rights. I do believe they still have same-sex sodomy laws on the books, even if they are unenforceable.

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[Strathos]

43. Two of my favorite women are from there

Ann and Nancy Wilson, or HEART!!! I've got to visit Seattle.

[FreeState]

27. San Diego CA

There is a very large gay population. I have seen men hold hands at Macy's out side of the 'gay area' and no one cared. The gay area is huge covering most of the city proper (Hillcrest, North Park, Mission Valley etc).

Its a little pricey, however for as conservative people think San Diego is it is VERY gay friendly. (The mayor lives in a gay area, the is a lesbian council member etc)

[Strathos]

44. I've been to San Diego and love, love, love it

I think it probably has the best climate EVER. I've always said I'd like to live there.

[kskiska]

29. Asheville, NC

is a very gay town and also open to just about anyone - new agers, neo-hippies, whatever. The weather is pretty good - cool in summer, some snow in winter.

[Strathos]

45. I hear it's beautiful

It's definitely one of my "places to visit" in the next few years.

[kskiska]

60. It's like being up in the clouds

I go there often. I'm not gay, but it looks awfully friendly to me. There are numerous festivals, too. It's nice to see people in a southern city sitting outside at cafes with their dogs, reading the New York Times.

[Sugar Smack]

71. I love Asheville. Once, my boyfriend & I were camping

and we bought a BUNCH of food from a vegan diner at the end of the day. It cost us 20 bucks and it lasted us FOUR DAYS!



:D

[Stuckinthebush]

95. Oh, Asheville!!!

My wife and I just left Asheville last weekend after dropping our daughter off at camp in Black Mountain. I swear, every time we go, we look at each other and say, "Now, why is it that we aren't living here?"

There is an AMAZING vegan/vegetarian restaurant there called the Laughing Seed. Excellent. Not to mention other veg/vegan restaurants such as Max and Rosie's. The atmosphere is wonderful...great people who seem to be very progressive. It is like a little oasis in the South.

Can't wait to pick up my daughter from camp next weekend...

:D

[Lex]

30. This site seems to try to answer that very question

here: http://cafeutne.org/towns/states.html

My town made the list, which is cool.

[Strathos]

46. I've got it bookmarked. Thanks! n/t

[xchrom]

31. san francisco!

everyone else are PIKERS compared to us!

sure it's expensive -- but everyone wants live here too.

trade off is that you make more money -- and live in the gayest city in the world!

[Strathos]

47. In the above post

I raved about San Francisco. I used to live in the Forestville area just north of there. I loved visiting and like I said above, the most amazing thing I think I ever saw was that fog coming in over the Golden Gate Bridge. It was beautiful.

And those cool nights. I love that.

[xchrom]

52. the whole bay area is just wonderful.

you can LIVE here.

it's as liberal/progressive as can be.

and there's no threat that it's gonna change.

people give propers to the contributions gay folk have made to the area.

it's a slice of heaven.

[AtomicKitten]

74. yes, it is

If you can stand the crazy driving habits of people.

[AnnieBW]

89. And, if you can afford it

I'm straight (but not narrow), and I love the Bay Area. My husband and I would move to Silicon Valley in a heartbeat, but the cost of housing is double that of the Washington DC area.

[xchrom]

90. it wasn't so long ago that cali was one of the politest

states in the union to drive.

then all the new yorkers moved here.

[Strathos]

48. Thank you all

Honestly, I'm just getting disheartened with the state of the United States. Why is it so hard for people to live and let live. I honestly don't understand it. I guess I'm not wired that way so I can't understand it.

Thanks again, at least you've all given me enough locals for lots of vacation plans for the next 10 years. LOL

Peace and love to all you awesome DUers!

[Pavulon]

49. Gaysville, VT

Gay, GA
Gay, OK
Gay, WV
Gay, MI
Gays, IL
Gays Creek, KY
Gays Mills, WI

Joking aside Really should be where ever they want. I live un a small town that has a good size gay community. My neighbors on both sides are gay. Not all small country towns are hostile to gays.

[Deja Q]

51. My apartment

:rofl:

[Strathos]

66. Please send pics and any other stats to

Me!

Good one!!

[undeterred]

56. Madison Wisconsin

We have the first openly gay congresswoman, Tammy Baldwin. This is a very accepting community where gay people fit in everywhere. We don't need to have a special neighborhoods or businesses where gays are segregated- people don't need to hide. I'm not gay, but I am proud to live in a place where homophobia is negligible.

[htuttle]

88. That's true

I've heard that if San Francisco can claim to be the 'Gay Male Capital of the World', Madison is probably the 'Lesbian Capital of the World'. If somebody looks twice at two women holding hands while walking down the street here, they're probably from out of town.

All those wingnut legislators from upstate must hate being here. Or they like it, but they hate that they like it. Or some such wingnut thing...

[Zhade]

59. Canada?

Better than here, anyway.

Or it better be, since I'm moving there!

[ObaMania]

61. Asheville, NC is apparently a good place..

.. I've hard. Not much for work though.

And anywhere in NH and VT are great places.

[Toucano]

62. Toronto and Madrid. n/t

[stevietheman]

63. Louisville, KY, believe it or not.

We have had a fairness ordinance in place for years, and it's probably one of the most progressive mid-sized cities in the middle section of the country.

[newsguyatl]

64. i've been to

san fran, new york, chicago, dc... etc

and STILL have YET to find a gayer city than atlanta (specifically midtown) great area to live in.

[newburgh]

65. If you want to settle down, Newburgh, NY...

Still relatively affordable, historically diverse to the extreme, small town but urban, never boring. Convenient to scads of open space and the mountains. Right on the Hudson River and commutable to NYC-close enough to dip into what's happening down there for a day trip. Victoriana abounds- we have the largest historic district in NY. I've never experienced a hint of homophobia here- have been here since '89- I was coming from Chelsea, NYC where even there it was common. And as you would expect, a Democratic Party stronghold... ;-)

[faithnotgreed]

77. kick for newburgh

i was raised in dutchess co and though i havent lived there in some time it will always be home
now i live in washington dc and i will agree that its a pretty cool place (aside from the squatter in the white house)

welcome to du

[Strathos]

67. AGAIN--THANK YOU ALL

I'm sorry I can't respond to everyone idividually, but I do appreciate the responses.

As I said before, I've got a lot of places now on my list of "to see in the near future".

Do you think there might be a place where all the men are naked and look like the Brawn man? LOL

Just kidding. They wouldn't have to be naked....all the time. ;-)

[Touchdown]

68. My place.

:loveya:

[tenshi816]

70. Atlanta's a very gay-friendly city.

Also Athens (Michael Stipe's hometown). Stipe and the Indigo Girls own (or owned, don't know if they still have it) a club in the Little Five Points section of Atlanta.

The heat and humidity are killer though.

Internationally I can only speak about London - again, very gay-friendly. Actually, Britain is relaxed generally, far more so than the States.

[High Plains]

72. Huron, South Dakota?

They haven't beaten up a gay guy there for several weeks now.

[Scout1071]

78. Atlanta has a large gay population.

It seems very accepting.

[LostinVA]

79. Charlottesville, VA

LIberal bastion of VA, very Progressive, large and active GLBT community, very politically activist, can hold hands walking down the pedestrian mall, and the only ones that will really look are the tourists. EVen the local Repubs will ignore you. The only Repub on the city council just lost being reelected. Everyone was shocked he even made it on the council to begin with.

[bridgit]

85. 'the city'...by the bay...

:thumbsup:

[Swamp Rat]

86. The French Quarter

:D ... at least in the United States. San Francisco, Chicago, and NYC are great too. Those are the cities I prefer for many reasons, though I can't stand the Winter up North. Barcelona and Rio de Janeiro are awesome places to live too.

[Orsino]

94. In a state-sanctioned marriage recognized by a federal government.

Marriage may not be for everyone, but a place that sanctions it for gays is probably a good one.