gathered over at "Alas ( a blog)"
http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/category/anti-feminist-zaniness/choice-for-men/Including:
La Luba on “Duped into Fatherhood” and “Choice 4 Men”"As a practical matter, most women are not going to choose either abortion or adoption, even if they know or suspect that they will receive no child support....
The conversations most people have before sex are not usually witnessed by anyone, and frankly most of the men who are inclined to abandon a pregnant woman and/or any child are not going to admit that beforehand. They’d never get laid, and they know that. Many women who really thought they would consider abortion or adoption find that they really can’t after pregnancy.... "
When it comes to reproduction, men and women really ARE different"...Both men and women should have every reproductive choice biologically possible. For men and women both, that means they should have the choice not to fuck, if they don’t want to. For men and women both, that means they should have access to every kind of birth control. And for women, that should mean access to abortion.
Cutting either men or women off from their biologically possible options is wrong, in my view. But “abortion" just isn’t one of men’s biologically possible options...."
Yet Again, “Choice For Men”...In Diane's argument, responsibility is like a game of "hot potato"; whoever is the last one to make a decision gets saddled with 100% of the responsibility. But we don't use "hot potato" logic to allocate responsibility in any other area of life, so why should child-rearing be the exception?
For example, imagine that I and my partner purchased a house together. Although we initiated the process together, an inconveniently timed bat-signal called me away and the transaction was all-but-closed in my absence, requiring only my final signature on the papers to be completed. Once the papers are in my hands, a curious situation has been created - the others, having signed the papers, are locked in to their decision. But I could still close the purchase (by signing the papers) or cancel it utterly (by ripping them up). I have 100% of the life and death power over this house purchase. If Diane's logic held true, then once I made the sole decision to sign the papers, my partner would be morally justified in saddling me with 100% of the house payments.
So what makes a house different from a baby? One difference Diane E. might focus on is legalities; the law requires my partner, having signed an agreement to pay half, to actually pay half. But the same thing applies to a baby: the law requires a non-custodial parent to provide support for his (or her) children. It's not as if the possibility of sex leading to childbirth is a secret that men don't know going in.
(There is, of course, one enormous difference - the baby is a person, not a thing, and therefore has some rights.....)
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A couple of the people stirrring the pot:
"Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson argue that life is unfair for fathers."
Dianna Thompson is the executive director of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children and is a nationally recognized expert on families, stepfamilies, divorce, and child custody.
Glenn Sacks is the only regularly published male columnist in the US who writes about gender issues from a perspective unapologetically sympathetic to men and fathers.
These people often show up on
ifeminist.com which sounds like anti-feminism to me. From the site:
"It is sometimes called libertarian feminism."
"We recognize that the conventional wisdom- that men are the perpetrators while women are the victims- is based on politics rather than on fact."
"By the late 20th century, government cemented gender hostility into society by assuming a paternalistic role that advantaged women at the expense of men (e.g., affirmative action). "
"For example, ifeminism calls for the decriminalization of pr ostitution and po rnography."
"Women's studies programs are a good example of why universities should not be publicly funded."