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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 09:04 AM
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A strange man said to me, "Take off your glasses."

This was back in the '70's, when I was much younger. I was in a bar waiting to pay my bill. I hadn't even been talking to the fool.

I looked directly at him, and said, "NO."

Some men have such a disgusting sense of entitlement. :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke:
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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 02:15 PM
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1. Yuk
I usually sum those days up by remembering an old TV cop show, 'Starsky and Hutch" episode, where one of those guys tells the woman cop to get him a cup of coffee and then slaps her on the ass.


On a different note, lately at the gym there is this man around my age--some type of manager, who's taken to calling me "Mrs. ******" (I found out about it from my daughter, who thinks it's hilarious) So I put on my "street face" and say "Sup?" with a chin nod, in response to his Eddie Haskel like greeting. The other employee's call me by my first name.

Very strange, do I have to fight the "Ms." battle? After all these years? Maybe he saw my tee shirt that says "This is what a feminist looks like" Dunno. I take satisfaction in being in far, far better shape that he is, but of course that's petty.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 02:53 PM
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2. I love it when same age men call me "Mrs. **************"
I get to use the old line "You're thinking of my mother. I'm Ms. ******"

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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 03:58 PM
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3. Hey! I like that
Perfect.
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noamnety Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 06:08 PM
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4. I don't think it's "those days"
It's not any different than Chris Matthews telling a female reporter to lean into the camera more, or men telling us to smile.
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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 07:18 PM
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5. True, but no one called anyone on it back then
Which is why I use the Starsky and Hutch example. TV land America thought that was perfectly acceptable to treat a female in a non-professional role as a some sort of secretary and assumed that sexual harassment was seen as a "compliment"

One of the reasons I can't stand the term "politically correct" is that it obtained negative connotations simply by demanding reasonable--not stellar, but simply reasonable behavior and respect from people.

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noamnety Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 08:55 PM
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6. recommended thread on that very subject:
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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 09:16 PM
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7. I will, thank you
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 09:43 PM
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8. Ugh. Sometimes I hate reading your posts.
I had missed that charming thread. Now of course I'm part of it.
:hi:
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spooky3 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-10-08 10:13 PM
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9. I wonder if there will ever be a day when
it would be so socially unacceptable to make sexist statements, and/or be dense about understanding what sexism is, that people will actually censor themselves or feel ashamed when called on it?
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