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how dysfunctional the people around me are.
Ok - so I'm not really - and never will be considered "normal" - but I'm coming out of the depression. My neighbor even commented that I "looked happier" lately. Other people have been commenting that I "look good today". (Maybe because I'm wearing real clothes instead of jeans and a tshirt/sweater every single day..... hahaha)
Seriously - I'm beginning to realize (?remember?) how serious my husband's problems are - and how much in denial he truly is. Passive agressive out the friggin' ying/yang. (We separated about a month and a half ago. I'm getting 'better' and he's definitely getting 'worse'.)
I think my older son (13) has been depressed (still is to an extent but the change in weather is helping) - he also has anger, organizational, distractibility, some OCD, and major anxiety issues. I "knew" it before, but I was so debilitated by my own issues that it didn't matter so much. My problem is getting hubby to recognize/admit son #1's problems. I mean, I think he DOES recognize there is something wrong - but he's the "if you ignore it, it will go away" type of person. He really believes that the more you "focus on your problems, the worse they get". :sigh:
My younger son (8) - anger management, distractibility, impulsivity (not to the level of ADD or ADHD) but - still - an issue on occasion. (He's adopted and African American in a 'white' family/environment. We try - I've always tried - to keep him connected to his culture, but it's difficult. He has prenatal and heriditary issues to worry about, too.
And again - hubby - won't/can't recognize that they both need counseling at the very least.
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