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Let me start by saying right off the bat that I am not religious to any major extent. I started out Catholic, endured the years of catechism and sunday school, got communion, got confirmed and then promptly said hasta la vista to the church when I was old enough to get out of it.
Through the years since then, I've spent most of my time questioning the church and its place in people's lives, and have come to the conclusion that organized religion is something which is just not my thing. I have since maintained only tenuous ties to any kind of religion, preferring to think in more secular terms, and I refuse to believe in a god in any way that connects to a particular religion. I find way too much hypocrisy in many groups of faith, especially now with the radical religious right.
Dispensing of all that, now, let me finish my story. My best friend in all the world has, in the past ten years, become evangelical, bordering on complete fanaticism. This woman, who I love dearly, went from some mild interest in the fundie and evangelical religious world to a full blown fanatic. She is a teacher with an MA in education, who works with disturbed and problem children in the school system, and who has her hands full with these kids. It doesn't help that her mom, who recently passed away at 85, was on a serious decline for the past couple of years, and that now my friend is alone in the big house, and is already in the midst of a great depression mentally. But now, add to that a woman who now believes not only to the rapture, but to creationism, the prophecies that we're closing in on the apocalypse, that secret societies really run the world, and any other horseshit which the fundies and evagelicals toss around. Add to that a woman who used to have common sense, but who now boasts three religious tattoos on her body--one on her wrist, one on her ankle, and a brand-new one on her neck. I was quite shocked when I saw that today after not seeing her for two weeks.
I know her mom's death has been very difficult to deal with, and that her faith has helped her deal with the loss. I understand that. I also understand her need to put her focus on something that lifts her spirit. But I fail to comprehend how anyone gets to the fanaticism stage where she is willing to put that kind of a statement on her body in such a manner. I also get annoyed when she tries to indoctrinate me into the fantasy world in which she lives. I don't mind people believing in whatever they want to believe as long as they let me do the same. But it is hardly easy to maintain my distance when all I listen to is her near idol worship of the Xtian faith in such a way that it's obviously she's gone overboard.
I get very exasperated at her. I don't love her any less, but I have a lot of frustration in being unable to tell her how much all her religiosity is driving me crazy!!
Anyone have any ideas on what I can do or say? I would never want to hurt her feelings, regardless of any other factor. We've already gone through the "topics we won't discuss" part, but it still pops up regardless. I think if there is no other solution, I guess I will simply just avoid talking about it completely in view of other topics of discussion. I guess I'd rather do that than lose my best friend.
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