...respectfully of course, (as I always appreciate your input and opinion:hi:) but in my opinion this isn't entirely accurate or true. I agree that he doesn't have a "right" to do this as a gay man, just not for the reasons you've shared (based on appearance, etc.).
Gay white men (and women) are frequently beaten, robbed and targeted for hate crimes
WITHOUT making an announcement that they are gay. We just don't hear as much about such attacks on the glbt community. We really need to think about why that is the case, btw. I believe it is because they are still viewed by the majority as a "less visible" minority groups in our country (kinda like illegal immigrants that are hidden based on fearing deportation, yet targeted by hate groups because they know they won't report them).
Can someone "tell" they are gay by looking at them? Do they just look like other "white men"? :shrug:
Apparently there is something flawed in this theory, because assailants "presume" they are gay and attack them as such. Apparently it's just not as BIG a story as a black man being dragged to his death in Texas. :scared::cry:
Here are a few examples:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepardhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Broussardhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Hate_crimes_against_LGBT_peopleI'm not trying to pick on you by any means, but I find this argument (when made my anyone) divisive. I don't believe it serves our higher goals as progressives.
Coments like these give me the sense that one groups struggle is somehow GREATER than another group's struggle in our country for equality. It also seems to me a bit of a competition about who suffers more. :crazy: As if there's some sort of race for suffering, oppression, and who's treated worse by "the man."
I also believe this isn't necessarily organic, coming from the groups themselves but from the powers that be. It is an old device of the patriarchy of our society to get all the minorities fighting with each other. Sadly, it works and keeps all in a perpetual sense of defending the rights of their individual groups(i.e. blacks vs. gays, women vs. the religious, the religious vs. the the atheists, people of color vs. illegal immigrants, etc., etc. ).
I often wonder how much more could be accomplished if groups stopped pointing out the inherent differences, and worked together to take down the evil people that try so hard to keep everyone divided and fighting with one another. There must be some fear or danger of this, because look how hard they work to make sure we pay attention to such things. ;)
Perhaps my views on this are naive and idealistic. I don't know. I'd just prefer to speak out for
EVERYONE'S rights as "people," instead of encouraging the argument that only those that wear their minority status on their skin are capable of being oppressed in our country. For those that choose to belittle, bully, victimize and oppress others someone's difference is readily apparent to them.
I know that there are people on this forum that disagree with me, and think I'm crazy to defend such a thing. That's ok. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on this issue of course. I just feel the need to toss out another side to this, as it's important to me to do so. I'd like to strive to see us all working together (yes, I know---dream on bliss. lol).