My sis needs help with toxic coworkers....

[Hell Hath No Fury]

My sister works in a very small (6 people) law firm in Lewsiville, TX. She had worked with the compnay for many years, left for many years to do other work, and came back a little over a year ago when one of their workers was out temporarily finishing her law degree.

She loves the firm, loves her boss, is content with the work, and the job offers a stable/safe environment both financially and emotionally.

Her problem started when the gal finished her law degree and came back. The lawyers decided to create an additional position for my sister to keep her on staff -- they like her workd and how she interacts with the clients -- and that has really ruffled the feathers of the gal. She and my sister do not get on well at all, and this woman has been trying to push my sister out of the firm since she got back. (She is the niece of one of two partners, so she isn't going anywhere for anytime soon.) Now the office manager is on my sister's back as well (the office manager and the gal are friends) and is using her capacity as manager to essentially harrass my sister. The two partners want nothing to do with the squabling, and want the three women to work things out between them.

The two women are starting to make noises that someone is going to have to go (guess who!) and my poor sisters has started to have panic attacks at work, freaking out because she really needs this job. She tries to keep her head down and just do her job, but they go out of their way to agitate and work against her.

She has been doing all sorts of sheilding energy work to keep them away from her, but they are psychically pecking her to death every day.

Any energy work or suggestion for her would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks you!
Hell

[Cleita]

1. There were times in my work life when similar situations have happened to me.

I found it helpful to keep a diary of what is going on, what was said, dates and who was involved and where, privately of course. When the situation came to a head and it always does, like getting called into the boss's office to explain yourself or even get fired, having situations documented that you can draw on when memory fails have been very helpful in combating any slander or other misinformation from the perpetrators. She could take the bull by the horns and tell the two women privately that she knows what they are doing to her and frankly ask why they are doing it and could they please tell her what she can do to make them stop as she needs the job. But that would be up to her and her comfort level of doing things like this.

[elleng]

2. I like the idea of discussing matter with the women;

that's NOT to say I'd have guts to do it; would depend on my mood.

Seems if firm liked her enough to make a position for her, they'd take the time to help work this out.

Never have been able to understand petty b.s.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

6. Yes, the whole "catfight" aspect is just nasty...

My sister is 54 and the two other women involved are in their mid-20s, so there is a whole generational overlay going on in the situation. I am disappointed the partners are not laying down the law for their employees and creating a better work environment.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

5. She has repeatedly talked with them about....

laying off her and they feign innocence/ignorance. They are just bound and determined to push her out. :( I hate that her boss is not backing her up and telling them to lay off her -- I wouldn't stand for it, but my sis is really dependent on that job for at least the immediate future.

Thanks for the input!

[Cleita]

9. Okay, then it's time for her to dig in her heels and start documenting

every thing that's going on including that she tried to speak to the other women. If she gets fired she will have a case that she can bring up to the unemployment office, or even the labor board if need be. The point is that she should stand her ground until there is no choice but to go. I have hung on to a job that to all appearances seemed lost because I was able to defend myself from a set up to make me look incompetent. I was able to prove that I had been set up to higher up bosses. It was by a middle management supervisor too. She was transferred to another job that was a demotion as a result.

[WhiteTara]

11. it would also be helpful in a wrongful

termination suit. I'm sorry your sister is in this mess. I wish her well and see her protected by a blue egg of light. I'm such a wimp, I'd probably look for another job. Get the reference from the boss, ask for a severance package (an inducement not to sue) and find a new job home. But no matter what in a 2 against 1, the one is usually pushed out. I had 4 sisters, I saw it again and again...however in the family dynamics, there was a continual flowing of in and out. With the static situation of 3...oh my.

[Shallah Kali]

3. Onxy, Amber, Hematite might be useful

wear jewelry with them can be helpful. Onxy seems to nullify bad vibes somewhat, amber absorbs them so I don't have to & hematite helps me stay grounded even when getting blasted by other people's vibes.

Does she ground before shielding? I find that step helps a lot. I also channel energy into the shielding. I use Reiki as I am attuned but if I was not I would call in positive energies and ask my guides to send me some then draw it in through my crown and send it out my hands into the shield. Also w/reiki I use symbols. If your sister is not attuned she could try any symbols that represent goodness and protection according to her spiritual beliefs. If nothing specifc comes to mind I would suggest trying figure 8 infinity symbols. I scetch the symbol and visulize it being embossed on the edge of my aura. Don't worry if visulisation skill is not developed. Intention is very powerful and skill increases with practice. OH and beofre I forget ask her to try drawing in her personal energy until it is no more than 2-3 feet from her. Just reach out your hands and pull it in from all directions smothing out any bumpy bits and filling in any thin or holey spots.

Also she can shield her work area at work from home or if she is ever the only one there do it then. I know a person who did this for a friend who was having boss trouble using Reiki sketched the symbols SHK, CKR, & Raku and for the next month the boss would not enter that office instead giving instruction from outside of the room.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

7. She is attuned ...

so I will copy this and email it to her. :)

Thanks! :hi:

[Shallah Kali]

10. I am glad she is attuned!

As I said before the woman I knew just drew the symbols around edge of the office, SHK, CKR & Raku, and the boss went from looming and waggling finger in the friend's face like she was a naughty toddler to giving civilized direction from outside the office. IMO Raku is especially useful in cases like this as it seperates people's personal energy when there are energy entanglements. Some people who stir up trouble are also negativity dumpers and are good at projecting their emotions on others - all their feelings of failure, self-dislike, fear, shame that they SHOULD be feeling they instead project and dump. If this might be part of the problem it might be useful for your sister to wipe down her aura after encounters with these women. I draw CKR on my palms and then run my hands down where I believe the edge of my aura is as far around as I can comfortably reach. If I have been slimed I usually will feel a sesnsation in my hands of think energy breaking up like the old tv ad where a drop of dawn dish washing liquid disolved grease in a sink of water.

Once I treated my Mother's aura shield like I do my own before she went out to bingo as she mentioned there was a woman there who always had an unkind comment for everyone particuarly if it was not she and her friends who won. Well I was in a bad mood and before I was done I felt like I was being shoved away from my Mother! :bounce: Later my Mother mentioned that woman also had a habit of almost walking into people expecting everyone to jump out of her way. That evening for once the woman stopped and let my Mother pass her instead of the other way around. I hope your sister finds using Reiki this way as effective as I have.

[BlueIris]

4. Flourite is an excellent psychic shield. So is getting another job.

If the partner's aren't interested in stopping the abusive behavior of the other women, I'm not sure there's anything your sister can do. The longer she stays, the greater the abuse will become, the more damage will be done to her emotionally and the longer she will remain unemployed after she finally quits. (What the partners are doing is very wrong and unfair, of course, and indicates that this isn't a job worth keeping, anyway.)

I recommend she scoop up some Bach's Walnut essence and Rescue Remedy, though, while she still has the spare cash to do so. They can help with shielding, stress and transition to a new place of work.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

8. I understand about the new job thing.

She is updating her resume as we speak -- she is at a really challenging time in her life when she needed something comfortable, easy, and familiar to do for work, and this fit the bill at the time. It is a real shame this has evolved the way it has, because it really was perfect for her. :(

I will pass along your recommendations! :hi:

[BanzaiBonnie]

13. and you never know what possibilities the Universe has ready for her

it may be she is needing to look at something else and move on. Sometimes we need a break and to just take it easy, but sometimes when we are too comfortable we aren't growing. And sometimes the universe is sending us a message by pushing on us. I'm sorry your sister is having nasty business happening in her life.


This might be helpful: Tell her to notice what she notices. What direction and insight (messages) when she can get calm, grounded and drop down inside. TIme to live in our hearts.

[peacefreak]

12. Knowledge is power.

There are a number on good workplace bullying sites. Tell her to spend some time looking through them. Does she have an advocate whom she trusts? If she still has problems, tell her to get in touch with the Labor Dept. in her state.
This is an issue that most employers take seriously. It is harassment.