|
Edited on Sat Aug-23-08 08:56 PM by oceanspirit
I've been taken by so many people in my life, and especially later. I'm what's known as a SUCKER!! I have got to learn to pull up my shield better than I have been. A very very good friend of mine once taught me to do this and bounce all that negativity back. BUT lately, I'm weak. I have no more fight left in me.
About two weeks ago, my car broke down at a very busy intersection by where I work. (It's not a good section of town) NO ONE would help me. I had my four ways one, and still I got beeped at, told how i"m number one in their book, called all kinds of names, until that ONE good samaritan came my way. He and three women pushed my car down the street and out of the intersection into an appliance lot. I had called 911 for help, and they said a cop would be one the seen soon. NOPE, I waited over 20 minutes for one to show up. Once I was in the parking lot, I had to put up my hood so Triple A could fine me.
Okay I did as I was told. It was an extremely hot day, so I stepped out of my car and was leaning against it, when I was approached by a gentlemen of color. He told me he saw what happened to me and he had just broke down himself, and was on his way to a job interview in the city. Could i possibly help him out cause his debit card didn't work here. He was from another city. Even showed me his drivers license. Told me he was an ex Marine, blah blah blah. Well I was okay with all of this. And of course i"m going to help someone in need, since I was in need myself, and no one would help me, not even my husband. I called his cell phone six times before he called me back, only to tell me he couldn't possibly leave work at that time. I was to call him when the tow truck arrived. Yea alot help he was. So I called my office and asked if anyone at all could come sit with me for awhile. They said they would ask around. But no one showed up. So as i was talking to this guy, I noticed a couple of things. One my wallet was opened and sitting on my drivers side seat. Two there were three stockade fences that surrounded the restaurant next to the building I was at. An ally and a dumpster. The more I talked to this guy, I felt sorry for him. So I handed him a 20 dollar bill. He asked if I had another 10, he really needed 30.00 to put gas in this truck to get downtown. I said, Sir this is all I have. He then said to me, No it isn't I noticed you had more money in your wallet. He then began to get into my space. you know what I mean. When someone actually gets into your personal space. For me this is a big no no. I can't handle someone that close to me. I then began to panic. As he approached me even closer, I then made the snap decision to just give him what i had left in my wallet before something bad happened. I felt threatened at this time. I gave him all I had, he came closer to me, I freaked out (not showing it to him though) He told me what a good person I was for helping someone in need. He then proceeded to give me a hug. He then said he had to run and go meet his friend who was going to give him a lift to a gas station. He ran down the road. Whew I was safe. But scared. While all this was going on, I had another kid approach me and ask that guy if I was okay? The guy then stated I got it covered, and the kid ran down the street. Still nothing was really going on in my mind. I was still freaked out from my car dying in the middle of the intersection. You know how it is. You're just so freaked out nothing really makes any sense to you. Before this "gentlemen" I use the word loosely, approached me, The cops did show up. Yea alot good it did me. They never even got out of their car. They just asked me if I was okay. I told the officer yes I was just waiting for a tow truck. They then sped off on their merry way to go get coffee and donuts I imagine. Now my son used to intern for a local police department, and he said, that they always stayed with a woman who was alone and stranded until help came their way. It wasn't law, just curiosity . Make sure the woman remained safe until help arrived for them. Nope I didn't even get that. That is when this guy approached me, AFTER the cops left. So I know he was watching the whole time and just waiting for them to leave.
Well yes, for less then five seconds I felt good about myself. I helped out someone in need. Yea, you dummy. You just got mugged in a way. Oh well I thought to myself, for what ever reason, he needed the money more than I did. I was safe, that is all that mattered to me. Soon after the tow truck arrived only to tell me my fuel pump was shot and the car had to be towed. So I called my husband, who then instructed me in not a so nice way, just to have it towed home. This kid (the tow truck driver) went above and beyond his job. What a real sweet kid he was. We chatted for about 30 miles to my home. My son and him spent the next 40 minutes trying to get my car off the flat bed and into my garage. I gave him a tip that I had in the house. (I mean some extra money I had in the house) he did do me a great favor.
Shortly after the tow truck driver left, my husband showed up. He was furious. This was NOT something he wanted to do that night. Blah blah blah. What an idiot and a moron I was for giving the guy the money. It was the only 40 dollars we had between us until pay day. I asked him if my life wasn't worth more than 40 dollars, he didn't answer. The only thing he cared about was it was going to cost him about two days to fix it and about 350.00. Like this was my fault!!!!!!!!!!! Oh well, I got yelled at my my husband, my son, my father and my daughter for what an idiot I was. They were NOT in that situation, they weren't the one who felt threatened at the time, so they can all take a flying leap.
So yes, now I"m a bit paranoid about people. I dont even go to my 'special' spot to have my ciggy at work. Down by the river, for some alone time to sit and mediate, just relax or just to put myself b back together. I'm scared now. I am not as trusting as I was two weeks ago. All because of not only this gentleman who took me for 40.00, but because of my family making me like sh**. I am the natural caretaker. I like taking care of everyone that I touch in my day. If they need a shoulder I'm there. If they need a ride, I'm there.
It's funny how one incident can change you forever. I need to raise my shield and bounce back the negative energy that always seems to follow me.
Sorry this is so long, just needed to tell the background story on why now I can't be that trusting soul I used to be. Thank you for reading this far.
Oceanspirit
|