Yikes!

[OneGrassRoot]

Doing one of my periodic "energy" checks to see if others are experiencing EXTREME drama -- either yourself or with those around you? I'm talking extreme in the form of abuse, arrests, people who never argue BLOWING UP!

*deep breath*

Yesterday involved so much drama for those I know it isn't even funny. :( Just wondering if others are experiencing a similar rather dramatic shift in the energies this weekend?

:grouphug:

[LiberalEsto]

1. Absolutely

Lots of weird stuff going on.

[Missy Vixen]

2. HUGE fight with my husband yesterday morning

I said something to him I have never said before in sixteen years of marriage.

Yeah, it was not pleasant.

[lildreamer316]

3. Sigh.

I didn't want to get into it here,since I've dumped so much on you guys before..but husband has been having a really really hard time lately.
It's caused some fights between us, yes,but it's more because we are both frustrated than that we have a problem with each other. We don't have many other people to vent to, so it ends up being us venting to and on each other occasionally.
I'd appreciate any light anyone could send to him and us, just for getting through stuff..we love each other without reservation,but we are both having a sorta mid-life or mid-energetic-shift crisis right now.
We've been volitile all week,really. But doing our best to communicate clearly.

Abuse/arrests? Thank god no, but I can certainly feel what you are saying.

:hug:

[I Have A Dream]

11. I'm sending light your way, lildreamer.

It's wonderful that you're both trying to work through this and communicate during it.

:hug:

[FirstLight]

4. Been pretty mellow over this way...

I will send you all some good vibes from the hot tub this morning... ;) (a girlfriend is having a Bday party at the spa today, ahhhh...)

Are you all mostly east coast/midwest? maybe it is a pressure/weather/earthquake thing?

We just got some snowfall out here in the sierras and it seems to blanket the world and soften things... Though the range and areas of snowfall were really wierd and loopy. My sister just called me, she lives in washo valley and she got the brunt of the snow where I am on top of the mtn and have hardly anything!

*sending*
The mellow from my space will flow easily to you all who are experiencing struggle and crazy energy, to the best for all involved. a-ho!
:Grouphug:

[Kind of Blue]

5. Funny, had a major blow up with a sister

that I very, very, very rarely argue with. But she started it :rofl:, as we used to say as kids. She's 10years younger and is very kind and respectful, and being older, treating her as my doll baby for many years, I've made sure to talk to her respectfully as an adult. This was a major shift and we were both shocked but took it as an opportunity to explain to my niece - who's an only child - that siblings do argue even though we dearly love each other. She understood and related it directly to her best-friend-sister-cousin when they're together.

Then a weird blow-out with my step-daughter. I've felt her seething for a while and have asked about it in the past few months, and got responses of "Oh, nothing is wrong." Then out of the blue - I mean nothing is going on - got a weird email - she's spending the weekend at a slumber party. So we've entered the first negative shift here in our relationship and away we go. Got a feeling that she and the girls are commiserating. Oy, vai! :)

[OneGrassRoot]

6. I send hugs to everyone....

that's all I got right now. Feeling rather pooped after all. :eyes:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

:grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

7. I've not noticed anything, OGR.

I'm sorry that it's happening for anyone else in this thread. :(

[rosesaylavee]

8. Had a blow up with a friend of 30 years

earlier this week - ironically as I was preparing a nonviolent communication presentation for yesterday. Not a good outcome unfortunately. And surprising too as we had been friends for so long. Hat tip to Fox News and Rush Limbaugh on this one and what she was suggesting as tolerable - just was unacceptable and unethical to me. No reconciliation possible... or so it looks like now. :(

[I Have A Dream]

10. I'm so sorry, rosie.

So many friends lost this way. Sometimes there's no choice. :(

:hug:

:loveya:

[rosesaylavee]

12. Thanks IHAD...

I am still shocked about it... but everytime I go over it... I come to the same place and that the friendship would have ended sooner or later if this hadn't precipitated it. She kept saying that I didn't have any political leanings or opinions when we first met so why do I have these ideas now? Why am I so active and concerned about stuff I have no sway over... like congress and health care etc. And all the while this amazing back and forth is happening with her, I am writing out how I am going to lead a discussion on how to talk to people about difficult topics like climate change. It was beyond ironic. Problem was - the dialogue with my friend started before I had any inkling it was going to disturb her as she had never had problems before. She began quoting her husband who is a big limbaugh/fox news fan... very surprising that a self made woman who I thought was strongly feminist would quote her husband to me rather than make the points herself. I was and still am blown away by the whole thing.

So. Thanks for letting me vent. :hug:

[OneGrassRoot]

13. It is all so startling....

These encounters seem to be happening more and more often. I suppose it's better to have whatever doesn't resonate with our chosen path and way of Being come to the surface to be healed and/or released. Yet it is quite challenging. :hug: to you, roseaylavee.

[I Have A Dream]

20. Yes, this is not a fair deal in reference to friendship.

She expected you to stay exactly the way you were when you first met. (At least how you were in her mind when you first met.) However, she has given herself permission to change and her views to evolve. I'm going through some of this also, so I really can empathize with what you went through.

It took real courage on your part to be true to yourself and to your beliefs. (I've seen you do that before, so I'm not surprised.) It's unfortunate that the friendship appears to have ended over it (maybe it hasn't?), but sometimes one has to take a stand regardless of the outcome. If we don't act when we feel compelled to act, we will have the karma to deal with sometime in the future. I'm sure that your soul is proud of you. :)

[rosesaylavee]

23. I think she brought the 'you have changed' meme

along with some other straw dogs to get around the fact that she was 'ok' with the unethical behavior she was at best neutral about. And I can't see how I could find a compromise position. There is no half way that I can see at the moment. But, we both are not dead yet. I heard this topic on the radio again this afternoon so maybe if it gets increased exposure, she will realize what I was trying to tell her and that tolerating it will just allow it to become worse.

[Cleita]

9. Yes, but I try to keep to myself as much as possible.

However, interacting with people while at work or shopping certainly shows a pattern. During the last full moon, I could do no right at work. Doctor was on my butt about everything. Yet, last Friday the doctor boss was hugging me and telling me how much he loved me. :shrug: Go figure.

[MorningGlow]

14. Wow. Nothing out this way, thank goodness

A very quiet weekend, energy-wise. Like FL, I'll send some calming energy from here for anyone who needs it. :grouphug:

[Sienna86]

16. Yep. At the grocery store!

Had an encounter with a stranger. People are on-edge. Hugs to you Lildreamer. Sending love and light your way.

[Fire Walk With Me]

15. I have a decade-long feud with a fellow professional (sic) that won't let go

who started up again to see if he could AGAIN get my goat.

History:

http://www.synthtopia.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=108

Wed May 26, 2004 5:44 am Post subject: "gee, i should get Mike Peake over here.... He might enjoy an MOTM forum with no Paul to slap him around....."

"He may enjoy the rough treatment...."

=======

Well, I'm Mike Peake and I don't enjoy the rough treatment, slapping around, whatever. That was 2004, after four+ years of "slapping around". This week, the same time-tested, point-by-point entreaties/challenges/button pushing as has happened throughout the last ten years:

http://www.muffwiggler.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=12473

This time, thanks finally to the bipolarity medication, I didn't have to get angry and allow them to get my goat one last time.

Think he'd stop after one locked thread?

http://www.muffwiggler.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=13115

No, there it goes again. This time he's on ignore.

Please pray for all professionals (sic) to become professional. I'd greatly appreciate it. :hi:

[I Have A Dream]

18. Yes, ignore is the smart response here, FWWM.

:hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

34. If it stopped there, that would be fine.

You know it doesn't.

[I Have A Dream]

35. ...

Sorry... :(

:hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

36. Thank you for the hugs and good wishes, regardless. It's appreciated.

Sorry :hug:

[davsand]

17. Personal life is mellow, but the general public has been pretty testy for a while now.

Home life has been on a fairly even keel lately, but I have to say that I have noticed some outright assholery in the general public for a while now. I've become semi-accustomed to the general abuse that the public heaps on my office, but for about the last six months it has been an un-ending flow of people who are either (literally) screaming or swearing. Seems like one or two a week now rather than the "few" I used to get every year or so.

I had a woman in my office last week that was screaming at the secretaries until they came and got me. She screamed at me for a while--including a threat to contact "Washington DC" (which made me laugh privately because I doubt seriously that anybody gives a crap at a federal level about one woman's property tax bill...) I finally got to a point that I was over listening to her scream and I shut her down. It was a near thing, but I did not end up having to ask her to leave.

I know people are seriously stressed right now--in a lot of ways--but there has got to be something going on to account for this general level of anger and aggression. I have to admit, I have been in my office for several years and in recent months I have seriously started to think I need to get the heck out. I am so VERY tired of the abuse.



Laura

[kentauros]

19. The only "blowing up" happened last night.

I have one of those microwavable heating pads for sore muscles (and sciatica) only this one is filled with mud instead of gel. I'm always misplacing it, too, for whatever reason when I'm done with it (laziness :P) so this time when I found it, I didn't reread the directions. I misremembered the heating times and over-heated it. BOOM! I thought something big had fallen over. No, I just made the thing explode and now it's in the garbage :rofl:

The only kind of drama to which you are really referring is going on in my gf-relationship, just not so dramatic. We're working on things (I hope it's "we") so "we'll" see...

[Flying Dream Blues]

21. Yes...

A couple of weeks ago I had a blowup with a friend of about 20 years...at one time she and I were best friends, and went through a lot together. Sadly, I was hanging on to what was and ignoring was IS for far too long and finally had enough of it. Even though I am at peace with what happened, I'm grieving our friendship.

Next, one of our neighbors who is basically trouble came barreling down the street, down our steep hill at about 11:00 pm; we heard a horrible shriek of tires then several loud crashes...he had run up an imbankment, across two yards and into a tree. It scared me to death...it was so loud I thought a car was coming into the house. He was okay but was taken away by the police; you can guess why.

The next day, I took my daughter to the airport for a 10:30 flight, and when I got back home and then got on the computer at around 10:30, I saw "Plane Crash at XXXX". Scared me to death, but thank God it was not hers.

Tonight my DH and I had one of our rare arguments.

Things just feel like they are on shaky ground lately.

[I Have A Dream]

22. I'm sorry about your friendship, FDB.

:(

I hope that the ground begins to feel more stable for you very soon. :hug:

[Flying Dream Blues]

38. I think it already is, IHAD.

Things are feeling much better this week. I'm not sure exactly why, but I feel much less out of sync. Thanks for your kind words, as always!
:hug:

[rosesaylavee]

24. Sorry you experienced the loss of a friend too FDB...

Isn't it good that we can come in here for comfort?

:hug:

[Kookaburra]

25. Resounding YES on that one

I had a total melt down Friday night with my mom and brother (she has alzhiemer's, he's disabled). I had hit my saturation point with them, and I totally lost control. Extreme drama. Extreme everything.

[OneGrassRoot]

26. ...

"Extreme drama. Extreme everything."

I hear you. :hug:

:grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

27. Sorry to hear it, Kookaburra.

Sometimes we just get tired. I hope that you are able to do things to take care of yourself too.

:hug:

[Flying Dream Blues]

37. I'm sorry to hear that, kookaburra...

I know how exhausting all that drama can be, and I hope you are also taking care of yourself. Thanks, too for your kind words for me. I'm feeling lots better and I hope soon you will, too.
:hug:

[tango-tee]

40. I know the feeling.

I lived in America for 20 years, but returned to Germany once my son joined the Marine Corps and was stationed in Japan. The reason I returned "home" was because my mom was paralyzed from a stroke, my dad was getting on in years and my sister was unemployed.

Fast forward: My mom is still living but is by now completely bed-ridden, my sister is still unemployed and her partner has passed away; and my dad died of colon cancer a few years ago. Additionally, my husband's right leg was amputated last year. A little while ago I was diagnosed with RA.

Life sucks sometimes. And I mean, it can really suck big-time.

But then again, two days ago: The first hint of spring. Sky of a deep, dark blue without a cloud. Standing outside during lunch break, turning my face to the sun. What a wonderful feeling it was, the promise of a new season. I so much try to appreciate these small blessings. And there are so many people in the world whose life is so much worse than mine, who would be happy to trade places with me. There is so much hunger, thirst, misery. I try to remind myself that never mind what happens, as long as I can keep on going, there is hope and there is love, life and laughter.

[teenagebambam]

28. Not just this weekend

But for about two months now. Actually, this past week/weekend was the calmest it's been for a while. Hoping you find a bubble of peace!

[GardeningGal]

29. Glad to see I'm not the only one.

Didn't have any altercations of any kind but Saturday was an especially difficult day for me. I'm still not sure why but the energy definitely felt different.

Hope the week gets better for all us that felt different energies this weekend.

[OneGrassRoot]

31. I sure hope it eases up, too...

for everyone.

:hug:

:grouphug:

[northernlights]

30. only with the neighbor who tried to mow down my dogs Friday am

Friday night and Saturday I had sinus headache/upset stomach all day. Sunday I finally sat down to study and promptly fell asleep.

The energy whirling around is just awful.

I had another experience,though, on Sunday. My outrage/anger/desire to kill said neighbor evaporated. I also felt and "saw" roots I had sunk into this ground shriveling up and pull up out of the ground. I've been floating around, unattached to the earth, ever since. Tired with an eerie calm.

[OneGrassRoot]

32. Oh, NL.....

I so wish this struggle would ease up for you NOW. You've had a rough time of it for so long...and nastiness from neighbors just undercuts what peace you are able to achieve when in your sanctuary.

I will keep praying...and sending hugs to you and the babies.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[northernlights]

33. I'm good, OGR

really feeling peaceful and have refocussed my attention where it needs to be (except when I'm avoiding studying...like now, lol)

And I'm also feeling somewhat protected. Luna was right in front of her car when she took off, yet somehow he was unharmed. A little universe magick there, maybe?

:hug: :hug: :hug:

I've been looking around the "neighborhood" as I walk my dogs. *All* the dogs have disappeared. People across the street used to leave their yappy dogs on tie-outs in their front yard. (The ones that I rounded up for them for 18 months when they'd dig under their fence,which was why they switched to tie-outs). Then in the fall, they moved them to the back yard (which I was relieved as to the safety issue -- they had them very close to the road before). I could still hear them, but couldn't see them any more. I thought when the weather got warmer I'd hear more of them, but instead it's been the opposite -- they've gone dead silent, although I did hear them briefly the other day so I know they still have them. They also, suddenly, after 5 years with no curtains on the front of their house, put up blinds which they keep pulled down. The people next to them also had a dog on tie-out behind their house. I used to hear him barking in the evening. Suddenly....silence. And next to them they had a little fenced in area in front they put their dog in...again, silence.

Same with my next door neighbors that went nuts on me. I haven't seen or heard their dogs while I've been walking mine -- not even barking as we pass their house. I also ran into someone the other day walking his dogs, who normally just let them run in his yard
.
I *think* what's happened is there is a new animal control officer and also a crackdown on unlicensed dogs. I suspect none of these dogs is licensed. That's probably what got next-door-neighbor so whacked out. Too cheap to pay $6/year for a license...or maybe too cheap to get their dogs rabies vax, in which case they are totally nuts. They aren't used to rabies up here, but the incidence is increasing and that's probably behind the crackdown. The locals have no idea how awful that disease is, or how easily it is transmitted...it's not a good way to die at all.

[BlueIris]

39. Sounds like the Sun's ingress into Pisces helped calm things down a bit.

That's the energetic changeover I'm feeling the most right now. Bye bye, Aquarius. :-(