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Old-school feminism--the kind that actually cares about women's collective rights--is today considered dull, shrill, strident and humorless. The vast majority of young women look at that kind of feminism and say "No, thanks."
Instead, they say they're not feminists--oh no, not them! Or they become "choice feminists" or "do-me feminists": women for whom the primary definition of feminism seems to be that they can individually CHOOSE to wear stiletto heels if they want, they can individually CHOOSE to wear short skirts, they can individually CHOOSE to pose nude for Playboy, they can individually CHOOSE to sleep with any man they want, they can individually CHOOSE a vibrator when they prefer, they can individually CHOOSE to get married and take their husband's name, they can individually CHOOSE to stay home with their children instead of having a job--and it's all cool and OK and empowering because they "chose" it. Or, they can individually "choose" to work outside the home--just as long as they continue to maintain the household and know all their kids' names, ages, birthdays, teachers' names, food likes and dislikes, and when it's their turn to bring the snack at school, because Lord knows their husband just hasn't got a head for that stuff, the big galoot! (Oh, sure, there are exceptions to the rule, but such men are regarded as supermen--heroes--for doing what is merely expected of the mothers of their children.)
Frankly, I think women like that are no more liberated than the housewives of the '50s. Don't get me wrong, I believe in choice, but I think in many cases, the "choices" being made are empty ones, without a lot of thought going into them. They're just the same old choices so many women have made, with a big dollop of so-called sexual liberation dolloped on top. They do nothing to make life easier or better for women as a group, and they continue to help men avoid having to make the kinds of decisions so many women have to make about stuff like "parenthood vs. career" (how many men do you know who have had to seriously consider how parenthood will affect their careers?) or anything else.
If women acted collectively like real feminists, we might achieve some things that made life better and easier and created more options for all the women who come after us, as well as enabled ourselves to share life's burdens more equally with men (and relieved them somewhat, too). But we don't do that, because there's just not that much interest in it anymore. Besides, everyone is afraid it'll make them look too dull and humorless and, well, un-sexy.
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