When was your first attraction to someone of the same-sex?

[terrya]

My first attraction was in grade school. I was 10. I was attracted to my grade school friend, Mike Cook. I had what I thought were these weird feelings towards him.

What about you?

This isn't a serious question. More of a just among friends sort of thing. :-)

[MrUnderhill]

1. At this rate.... about ten years after I'm dead.

Just not wired that way.

But girls? Since before I can remember. I can't remember them EVER being "icky".

[Kire]

68. So, is that 2014 or 2015?

when were you tombstoned?

RIP

[molly]

2. I am not gay, but my younger brother is

he said he was around 5 and wanted to grow up and marry the boy next door.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

3. i was watching a movie (when i was 6-7)

and i was equally attracted to the hero and heroine...and maybe more the heroine...

it was a defining moment that has always been stuck in my head

[Not Me]

4. Tenth grade homeroom

His name was Billy, and he was so damn cute. At the time, I just kind of wrote it off as envy of his incredibe good looks. Later I realized it was nature telling me something.

[southernlad]

5. 6th Grade

I was so attracted to this new guy who had just moved into town. We use to play footsies under the table in science.

[w13rd0]

6. About 6th grade...

...didn't really understand attraction, to either gender, what an inconvienience and distraction to academic pursuits. But there I was, lusting for both my best friend, and his cousins sister. Even more confusing was the fact that I was more at ease with the cousins sister.

[jackelope72]

7. 12 years old...

Watching a rerun of "The Dukes of Hazzard"...Bo and Luke Duke took off their shirts... :wow: :nuke: :bounce:

[new2004voterWV]

8. Unrealized until I was nearly 30, but

I can think back to when I was about 8 years old, and lusting after "Princess Leia". I would tell my friends that it's ok to like someone that's a girl, it's not a big deal! As I grew up, and had attractions to both sexes, I would say that I "admired" the girls for thier accomplishments, looks, etc.. and of course, the guys I would openly say if they were good looking, etc. When I got to be about 29, I took a good look at myself, and realized, yea, I'm attracted to both, and ya know what, it's still not a big deal! ;)

[intheflow]

9. I must've been... five or six.

When I first found my father's Playboy mags.

[sundog]

10. about 15...

when I started becoming preoccupied with thoughts of my history teacher & band teacher

[LDS Jock]

11. my seventh grade history teacher

He was so cute. Also the wrestling coach for the school. He wore kinda tight dress pants, boyish John Edwards kinda face, but in his late 20s at the time. EVERYONE had a thing for him. Even now my heart races thinking of him.

[One_Life_To_Give]

12. Does attraction to

wearing dresses at age 5 count?

[OneBlueSky]

13. "Spin and Marty" . . .

the original Disney series that was shown on the Mickey Mouse Club . . . I had a thing for Marty . . . :)

[archineas]

14. 7th grade

i remember being captivated by watching the other boys when they walked.

i was probably doing this before then, but this was the first time i recall anything hormonal associated with 'checking out the guys'.

j

[Quetzal]

15. Oh God

I must've been 12. I was at boarding school at the time and lived in an all boys dorm! Boy, there were some hotties there :-)

[Chovexani]

16. Hmm.

Well the first time I had the kind of, um, hit you right in the glands reaction (dunno what else to call it, lol), was a friend of mine in the 7th grade. I didn't really understand it at the time because, well, up to that point I'd only ever had hetero crushes. Being completely sheltered and brought up in a religious home I didn't even know gay people existed let alone bi people. Looking back on it now I realize I did have a crush on her, but I just didn't know what to call it.

The first time I ever actually fell in love with a woman was when I was 15 and I fell for my best friend. Hard, like getting hit in the face with a brick. What made it so bad was she was also bi so there was potential there (and we even made out a few times in an awkward teenager kind of way), but at the time she was going out with a real dick of a guy. I mean this guy was a total asshole, his family was rich (his father is a pretty well-known local news personality here in NYC), and they always treated her like she wasn't good enough for them. She was head over heels for this guy though and being her best friend I always had to hear about how great he was.

We've both moved on in the years since but I would be lying if I said that deep down I still didn't have feelings for her. Sometimes I think about what could have been...but no real point dwelling on that, eh?

[arwalden]

17. Fourth Grade. Mike Clark.

He was just adorable... and his parents let him grow his hair "long" so that he had a Beatles/Monkees mop-top... while the rest of us had crewcuts and home-made bowl-cuts.

I didn't know it was gay then... but I knew it was "wrong" so I hid it and felt ashamed about it. Only in retrospect did I know that I've ALWAYS (ALWAYS!) been attracted to guys.

[arcos]

18. I was 7, I think.... n/t

[hollywood926]

19. I can sum this up in three words.

Olivia

Newton

John


Don't laugh! She was the Britney Spears of her day!

I loved her, but I knew enough to keep it on the down low.

[Riverman]

20. Tarzan

Playing Tarzan in the woods and skinny dipping in the local creek with the neighborhood boys summer between 3rd and 4th grades. Though bi, certain images never fade. If I have had actually explored and acted on my fantasies back then would I say I were bi today?

[indigo32]

21. Dani at about 13

I never let on though.

[ropi]

22. seven

[LiberalPersona]

23. About 3-4 years ago

I was about 20

[davidinalameda]

24. I was like 6 and fell for my best friend at the time

I knew it was more than just friendship too

[Touchdown]

25. About 7 or 8.

A friend's dad was friendly, good to everybody, and gentle...I had the hots for him (but didn't know why, or what it was at the time). Maybe just hero worship.

[Cuban_Liberal]

26. 15

I may have been attracted prior to that time, but I didn't realize that that's what it was until I hit high school.

[PunkyPower]

27. prob 9-10

First attraction physically? Prob around 9-10 for this guy Kyle in my 5th Grade Class, but the first time I really fell head over heals in love was to this guy named Tom I had classes with my freshman year of High School.

[Technowitch]

28. 8 years old, I think.

[Q3JR4]

29. I remember

looking at boys in my class when I was 5 years old. I also know that for most of the time until I came out, I felt different than most of them. Still do, but the difference is a minor one (even if it does color the way interact with the world).

[benevolent dictator]

30. 9th grade

may have been earlier but that was the first time i realized it. november 29th at about 12:30am while i was brushing my teeth.

it kinda stuck in my mind.

[Solar]

31. hard to be exact

I started to have fantasies for other boys around 4th or 5th grade. I didn't really realize it until the start of high school though.

[rawtribe]

32. 8th grade

A boy named David. Couldn't keep my eyes off him.

:crazy:

[foreigncorrespondent]

33. Great question, terrya!

I would have to say my first attraction to another female would have had to have been when I was 5 and just started school. There was this girl in my class who really knocked my socks off. Only at that age, I didn't realize what it was that I was experiencing. Now when I look back on it, I realize exactly what it was.

[shawmut]

34. 5 years old

As soon as I got into Kindergarten I noticed it ... Though I didn't know I was gay until I was 13.

[ronnykmarshall]

35. 2nd or 3rd grade

There was this 6th grader Rod Duncan who my two cousins had a crush on. He was a stud!!

I remember hanging out with my cousins and Rod onetime and he picked me up (he was a quite a strong kid) and put me one his shoulders goofing off. I though I was gonna DIE!

[almostallhere]

36. fifth grade

there was this girl who i was barely friends with but who was really cute... she announced that she was moving and my world was SHATTERED. i couldn't figure out why i was so upset, since i hardly knew her.

i didn't even remember this story or understand what it meant until ten years later, a year after i had come out and someone mentioned her name. instantly, i remembered this incident and immediately understood what was going on...

[JeffInRick]

37. 7th grade

But I didn't understand what I'd felt until HS.

[Sapphocrat]

38. Does in utero count?

Like, since I was conceived. I think I came on to the delivery-room nurse.

Earliest girl-on-girl-lust/desire memory was circa 1964 -- I was three years old, and I decided I MUST grow up to be one of the Beatles, because I saw the way my older sister's friends reacted to them. I didn't understand it all, but I did understand that anyone blessed with the pure adoration of GIRLS was something I wanted to be.

So, early. Way early. Way, WAY early!

[BTTB]

39. I don't want to ruin the happiness of this thread and the general mood but

I don't think I came to know myself in the way I should have...

I was a victim of incest. Everything's been fucked up since.

[BTTB]

40. I was t3h right

Fuck. I was right. Now noone wants to post here =*(

[bigwillq]

41. That's a terrible thing to have happen to you

Have you talked to a doctor or someone in that field? It could help.

I hope this person that did that to you has paid for what they've done. Like a nice, long jail sentence.

[BTTB]

42. =(

Nah, I've just kept it mostly pent up. It's no longer an issue with me, and no, the person who did it to me isn't in jail. The individual was stupid, granted, but didn't understand what he/her was doing.

[readmoreoften]

43. Always into girls as far back as I can remember

crushes on all my teachers. I had a horrible crush on a high school senior named Elizabeth when I was in kindergarten. But these crushes weren't sexualized. I was in love with every best friend I ever had basically.

[FaerieWizard]

44. 3 or 4, it was Captain America

I saw that old 70s made for TV movie about Captain America and The Red Skull. I used to dream he was my dad and I'd ride around on his bike with him. Not unusual for a kid to dream, but in my dream he was always shirtless.

~The FaerieWizard

[Duncan Grant]

45. Welcome to DU, FaerieWizard!

Nice blog - hope you enjoy DU! :hi:

[Padraig18]

46. I was 12.

We were in sixth grade together, and he was (and still is) gorgeous!

:)

[Vanje]

47. I was maybe 6 or 7

....when I had a crush on my cousin (Nora)a few years older than me.I thought about her night and day.
There was also a classmate (Laurie)in first or 2nd grade that I had a shy crush on.
At about that time, I was firm on a career choice as a nun, which is unusual because we werent Catholic. But ah the life of a nun! Playing guitars and living with other women. Nuns seemed very very nice and got lots of respect.

[Terran]

48. 5th grade, I think

I was attracted to two older men--one was a teacher at my elementary school (not mine, fortunately), an African-American gent who wore his suit pants fashionably tight, a la 1969; and the other was a 6th grader, a kid who was very precocious, physically. I think he must have been fully developed and was already built like a linebacker.

[Dark]

49. Locker room on the last day of 5th grade.

He was a fellow fifth grader and we had actually become friends over the past few months. I couldn't understand why, but I enjoyed hanging around him alot more than any of the guys or girls. I also found him to be seemingly great in every way, funny, cute, and athletic.

Didn't understand it then, but I do now.

[dsc]

50. His name was Steve

and I was in second grade. At the time I just figured it was a envy thing but looking back I was in serious crush land. I still love rewatching Flash from time to time as Sam Jones was the epitome of hot.

[ZCFlint05]

51. It's tough to say...

Earliest I can remeber is 7th grade, around 12-13, but i'm sure there was some subconsicious stuff going on earlier in my life. In fact, my parents recently found a book I wrote in my elementary years, titled "Boys, Boys Boys!"...needless to say, we all got a chuckle.

[kweerwolf]

52. Sheesh! I must've been an early bloomer.

I can remember "comparing plumbing" with neighbor boy when he and I were about 4. My future must have pretty well been set by the time I went to kindergarten. One of my old kindergarten progress reports tucked away in my baby book noted I had problems learning to keep my hands to myself ... especially around boys.

[Slyder]

53. At six or seven

Watching the "Spin and Marty" segments of the Mickey Mouse Club in the mid-late 1950s. Especially Tim Considine. Guy Madison and Jim Garner, who were on TV westerns, also could get me worked up during this period. I knew something was going on, but I didn't know what!

[bigwillq]

54. 12. My friend, Steve

He was the tallest, biggest kid in the school. He always treated me like his little brother. We remained good friends through high school and even when I see him now, he kind of makes me weak!

[AlienGirl]

55. Kindergarten

In kindergarten I had a huge crush on this girl with auburn hair in a bowl-cut. I sat next to her all the time and tried to get her to be my friend. Then she moved away...

Then in first grade there was a boy with hair the same style and color, and I developed a crush on him.

It was all about hair, which was about the only thing I could tell was different from one person to another.

Tucker

[davidinalameda]

56. kindergarten or first grade

I was in "love" with one of my friends

I was devestated when they made us switch classes

[Jamastiene]

57. I was 6 years old.

I felt like I could identify with Charlie Brown in one way. I adored the red haired girl. She was older than me, but she was amazing to me. Things were easier when I was a little kid with a crush. They didn't get mad if they didn't like me back. They hugged me. I miss that.

[elshiva]

58. My first attraction to same-sex person

was when I was 8 or 9. I used to take showers with a former girlfriend and she was hot. Unfortunately, she turned into a racist and I'm no longer friends.
This election cycle was too intense for me by the way. I'm bisexual and I fell for Howard Dean, Judy Dean, Real Deal, Momma T, the Kerry daughters, and Kucinich. I still think they are all sexy.

[swimmernsecretsea]

70. I used to draw a lot when I was a kid...

My father was a newspaper reporter, and would bring home coarse pulp copy paper and would give me extra to draw on. I started copying photos from magazines, and would tear out pages from old magazines and catalogs to use as drawing models. I collected a stack of pictures of attractive men and would look at them for hours. Even more unusual, I recall saving a particularly beautiful rendering from a comic book of a muscular, heroic looking man. I got up out of bed to look at it in the hallway light that spilled from my bedroom door, left ajar.

[MyMouth]

59. never really been “attracted”…

But came to realize around age 29 that there were certain acts I definitely enjoyed with other guys. :9

[tjwmason]

60. That's interesting

I always found myself attracted to guys (earliest recollection is very vague but around age 7 and not really sexual), but only realised recently what it all was.

Welcome to D.U.

[MyMouth]

61. Thanks!

Pleased ta meetcha.

[Stepup2]

62. I was in 6th grade

I think my mother clued in early that I was not garden variety hetero child...

[NoQuarter]

63. It was kindergarden.

Mr. Caine, the 6th grade teacher, had my undivided attention.

[gottalickbush]

64. After I had separated from my ex

I was crying about everything, and it sort of happened. We both liked it and we're still together. Drives my ex batty, because I told him it was his fault I like women now. I know its mean, but, he deserved it with all the crap and abuse he put me through.

[KurtNYC]

65. About 5

I thought I would marry the boy across the street. Also liked Clint Howard (of Gentle Ben), and Billy Mumy (Lost in Space)

[sniffa]

66. around 5

i have some serious bLack outs of my chiLdhood, but this thread puLLed a memory out so i'LL do the best i can.

i had a friend who Lived up the street. we were the same age, and eventuaLLy went to the same schooL. prior to going to eLemtary schooL we used to hang out, hoLd hands and kiss. i can't expLain if it was attraction per se' since i'm not too sure if i couLd have (or at Least understand) those feeLings at that age.

anyhow, i remember my first day going to eLementary schooL (at cathoLic schooL). when i got on the bus i sat with my friend. at some point we kissed and the kids on the bus went beserk! my sisters (6 & 8 years oLder than me) were mortified. i (we, but it seemed to me that i was the focus) was ripped on to the point i was terrirfied. my sisters shamed me into never doing that again.

and i never did again... untiL coLLege. :P

[StrongbadTehAwesome]

67. also 10

When people at school first starting "dating" (a.k.a. sitting next to each other at lunch). The cutest guy in the class went out with the cutest girl in the class...and I couldn't figure out which one I was more jealous of. :)

[Langley85]

69. Few Years Ago

I always used to think I was straight, and I can remember thinking, back when I was like ten or twelve years old, that I was relieved to see a woman on TV and find her to be sexy. It's like I was reassured that my sexual drive had perhaps been a little late in coming, but had finally kicked into gear, and I was attracted to girls. I saw myself in the future, as an adult, married to a woman, with children running around, etc. At the same time, from the age of seven and perhaps younger, I was drawing pictures of men in an ever thickening pile of notebooks, always young and muscular, handsome, and always wearing sleeveless shirts and briefs...every so often I would draw women, I think just so I wouldn't only have pictures of men, I could point and say "see, look I draw women too!", but while the men always had specifically drawn muscles and even a fairly detailed bulge in their underwear, the girls were flat, basically stick figures with no muscular details whatsoever, half-hearted illustrations next to the ones of the men I had put time into, drawn and erased and redrawn several times, sometimes many times, to get them looking the way I wanted them. At this age I had no clear sexual thoughts about men, only subconsciously, but when I laid in bed with my pillow, I would pretend it was a male friend from school, and come up with detailed fantasy scenarios where we were soldiers in a cold land and had to huddle together for warmth, etc. etc., and my stories- I wrote hundreds- would usually include some convenient plotline that would allow for two men to have to cuddle together for some reason, though there was never anything overtly sexual in these situations. When I got older I would continue to incorporate these situations into my stories, even sometimes when they didn't flow with the rest of the plot, and sometimes the men would have to remove freezing wet clothes and cuddle together in their underwear....During this entire time I dated several girls, felt happy with them, and sincerely believed that I was straight. There was no particular time that I remember when I looked at another guy and thought for the first time "wow, he's hot!". Me and Derek- my boyfriend of the past one year, four months, and five days- were for the three years beforehand extremely close friends, who always spoke freely of our thoughts and feelings and were not afraid of close physical contact- nothing sexual during this time- and unabashedly deeply loved each other in a way that I had never felt for another friend and have never felt for any other human being in my life. My girlfriends would sometimes complain that I spent more time with Derek than I did with them. Derek ran cross country for our school and I would sometimes sit on the bleachers outside next to the school's track and watch him run. Occasionally I would get a hard-on, but I dismissed it, I must have been thinking of something else, and I seriously did not believe it had anything to do with Derek. Over the last six months before we became sexually and romantically involved, he had come to care for me as more than a friend and to want to be with me. I was in a long-term heterosexual relationship which was important to me, or so I thought, but Derek and I would sometimes lay together and talk with an arm each other in an easy intimacy which I would never have thought of with any of my other male friends. Once he fell asleep with his head on my shoulder, and I lay there and stroked his hair with my fingers and looked at him as he slept, and the rush of love....of adoration, shook me and upset me. I also had a hard-on, and I had to get up and get away from him right then. For the next few days I was confused and miserable, I didn't know what was happening to me, I thought I was sick or something, I was bewildered, "this cannot be me, I'm only confused, it is inconceivable, unworthy of mental consideration, that I have feelings for another guy". I'd like to make this more dramatic with some epic romantic climax, me realizing my true feelings and us running desperately towards each other through a field of roses. But it was a slow, gradual, reluctant, halting, self-denied process of realization, and of acceptance of this realization. The first time we kissed I felt a flash of revulsion, of discomfort, and my first instinct was to pull back, jerk my head back, away from his lips, but then his arms were twining around me and holding me close to him, and his arms made me feel safe, made me feel that I was ok, that it was alright for me to feel this way, that we were going to be alright, that no matter what happened, he was going to be here as he had always been before.

[adryael]

71. 7th grade, Rebecca

We're still friends but she's straight- though she still has the amazing rack

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[dsc]

73. Jon was dreamy

then they got an even hotter younger blond and Oh baby.

[madinmaryland]

74. both ways here.

like being naked and free

[khashka]

75. Oh that's an easy one

I had just started kindergarten and it was my best friend's Dad. I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do, but I sure wanted to do something :)

Khash.

[Andy_Stephenson]

76. 4th Grade...Kelly Boren

first time I met him I was in love...Knew him all through High School.

He was on the football team in HS and tormented me endlessly. Funny thing though...the last couple of months f HS he started talking to me...was nice...OMG was I attracted to him. Alas...I never told him.

Unrequited love...


Here's to Kelly :loveya:

[latteromden]

77. Preschool! The girl's name was Ashley. She was in my Spanish class.

I remember cutting out her name out of a piece of paper and I meant to give it to her as a Christmas present, but I was always too scared.

8th grade was the first time I really actually fell in love with, well, anybody. My best friend. Claimed to be bi, led me on for quite a while, and I finally told her - yeah, that was ugly.

And now, somehow, I guess I just got lucky, because I couldn't ask for a better girlfriend. :loveya: