When gay, bi or straight just doesn’t fit

[kweerwolf]

“Asexuality: It’s not just for amoebas any more” reads a t-shirt sold at the website for the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). The campaign to raise awareness and public acceptance of asexuality is announcing to the world that it is a more common lifestyle than most think and is not a defect or dysfunction.

According to AVEN, the primarily accepted definition of an asexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction and/or desire.

Liza Jacobson is a student at Portland State who never felt entirely comfortable identifying herself sexually. She found it difficult to find people she could relate to until she stumbled across the website for AVEN. For the past six months, she has been researching asexuality and engaging in discussing with people of all genders and ages, pulled from a growing pool of 6,000 registered members.

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Asexuality as a declared lifestyle has increased over that past decade. A 1994 survey, published by the University of Chicago press, found that out of 3,500 participants, 13 percent had not had sex in the past year. Out of those 13 percent, nearly half said they were still very or extremely happy with their lives. It also revealed that approximately 2 percent of the adult population had never had a sexual experience.

http://www.dailyvanguard.com/vnews/display.v/ART/2006/01/27/43dabd6ec18f6

[uppityperson]

1. If it works for you and you are happy, go for it.

Nice to find out you are not alone or something necessarily wrong. Thanks for the article.

[CoffeeCat]

2. CNN reported today...

...that 20 percent of all married couples sleep in separate beds!!

I didn't get to hear the entire piece, but I found that amazing.

Sometimes it's good to be amoeba-like.

[DarkTirade]

3. Yes, but did they also report...

how many of them had husbands who snored VERY LOUDLY.
I lost count of how many times I'd wake up in the morning to find a parent on the couch because of my dad's horrendous snoring. :)

[applegrove]

4. I don't get it. Just because you are not into sex doesn't mean you don't

find some males attractive? It just means that is not the type of intimacy you want. I don't understand - though a website for sexually in-active people is a great idea.

[w13rd0]

7. Not sexually inactive...

...non-sexual. There's a difference. A sexually inactive person still knows whether they are heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. An asexual person knows they just...aren't. It doesn't mean they can't find someone(s) attractive. You can find someone attractive without being attracted to them.

[readmoreoften]

5. ASEXUAL PEOPLE ARE HOT!!!!

I just had to. It was too easy.

[gator_in_Ontario]

6. If it doesn't involve

small children or animals...what is the harm?

[xchrom]

8. lol

that was good.

[Meldread]

9. Well... at the risk of being too detailed...

...if Asexual people simply aren't attracted to anything or anyone then do they have a sex drive at all? I mean, obviously they could have sex if they wanted to, but the question is - is the drive (the want/need) to have sex there just minus the attraction? Or is it simply akin to having no sexual feelings at all? (Basically, the same way it was like when you were say, 4 or 5 years old.) Does asexuality rule out all forms of sexual acts, even masturbation?

I find this fascinating. It's difficult to imagine, but extremely fascinating.

[dsc]

10. I knew a girl in college who had no interest in sex at all

She was a perfect beard for me. She just didn't really have those kinds of feelings at all. She was bright, funny, a little weird admittedly but frankly in many ways not at all different from anyone else. Just no drive at all.

[sui generis]

11. So if an asexual guy wants to marry an asexual gal

that should be legal even though they wouldn't ever even have a family, or if they adopted, would pass on their evil unnatural immoral asexual ways.

We need legislation to save us from the evil asexual people who will be the downfall of western civilization!

:P

Isn't it funny how something as private as sex or our choices about sex, seems to be the property of public opinion? What is the other extreme? Requiring people to have sex?

Good grief, I could care less what most people do or don't do for a fraction of a percent of their waking time every year. If you want to give a damn about something, give a damn about how much sleep people are getting.

Why, people with early waking insomnia are immoral and should be allowed to get married!
Also people who sleep more than 8 hours a day or catnap on the weekends.