Tattoos, piercings and facial hair on guys.

[Mike 03]

What is the verdict among you females? I am trying to find my footing after ten years of not being in a relationship, but I am not a mind reader. She says she likes my facial hair, but not to get a piercing or tattoo... Fine, but I want to know what other females think about their guys.

Tattoos?

Facial hair?

Piercings?

On Edit:

To quote Springsteen, "I want to change my clothes, my hair, my face" right now. But I don't want to overdo it, lol.


Please help.

[Lucinda]

1. I'm fine with all of it. Especially beards & tats.

Too much piercing might be weird though.

[madmom]

2. Facial hair is ok as long as it's neat and trimmed, piercing I don't

mind one small earring, but don't look like you fell face first into a tackle box, tattoos also ok if kept to a minimum and not overly large, and for crying out fruitcake NONE on your face.

[txwhitedove]

3. Exactly what Madmom said, plus soul patches are cool. Go to the

link below, then "About Us". The hairy one is my son.

[madmom]

25. That is so cool......congrats and good luck to your son.

[Chan790]

4. Not a woman, but...

reading a lot of dating profiles (not just women to date, I've started editing them for $25 to make them "pop" in appeal to guys...funny is that most are 100% better with some grammar work and a spellcheck, no content revision needed.) I've come to the conclusion that on the topic of mens' appearance (beyond some basic and self-evident themes) where there are two or more women voicing opinions, no consensus will be reached.

Some love piercings, some hate them. This one gets all hot and bothered by a beard, that one likes a moustache and another won't date any guy not clean-shaven. Big tat, little tat, no tats. You won't even get agreement on how often is too often to bathe and how much primping is unmanly...I've got one I'm talking to now that told me she doesn't care how uncomfortable it is to me, if I ever want to see her naked I'd best stop removing my body-hair...any of it...she likes a "grizzly man" and a "feral-smelling" one. (I'm adverse to hairy and stinky...worse is that if she's that keen on it, she's probably hairy and stinky. I'll find out soon enough, she says that she doesn't go on second dates with guys she doesn't want to go to bed with at the end of the first date. :scared:)

Do what you want to do, the women you want to meet will find you regardless. Don't not do what you actually want to do...because you'll attract women that make you nuts because they don't want a guy whose image of style is your image of style...if that makes sense.

Just don't grow a goatee or a mullet...they're for douchebags and pedos and the sort of muscleheads who still get tribal tattoos. Avoid facial tattooing...it's a certain mark of an idiot. Only wear shirts that have sleeves...the Joey Lawrence look went out with Joey Lawrence. Beyond that...go nuts.

[RadiationTherapy]

5. Springsteen outtakes

Don't look like this, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9iejG-kgSE

[Luciferous]

6. My husband has all 3

I like the tattoos, but wish he would get rid of the facial hair- and he took out most of his piercings and just kept the ones in his ears, which is fine with me.

[InvisibleTouch]

7. Just my own preferences...

...I'm not so big on facial hair, but I do like long hair on a guy, long enough to make a pony tail for instance (but short is also fine; I just don't especially care for the "buzz cut"). If a guy must have a piercing, I like a small earring in one ear, but no tongue/nose/eyebrow/PrinceAlbert piercings. That's just kinda gross to me. I don't have an objection to tattoos as long as they're nicely done and have cool imagery.

[applegrove]

8. I'm allergic to guys with much in the way of male plumage. I just can't stand roosters.

So it would depend on the attitude of the guy and the mix of plumage.

[Dystopian]

9. Plumage!

applegrove
:loveya:

You are too cute and funny!
Thank you for making my night...again.

Now I'll have to go back to the OP...


peace & love~

[applegrove]

10. You are so sweet.

[LeftyMom]

11. I like two out of the three.

Piercings I could take or leave. :shrug:

[Tallulah]

12. I like clean

if you're clean and smell good, I like that. The rest doesn't matter. Except clothes. I like the pressed look.

[Dystopian]

13. Age.

I am of the 60s...so maybe I don't count :o

Love facial hair...all of it...but not long ...trimmed.
Tattoos ... I don't care either way ... we all express ourselves, need/choose different things.
Piercings ... the same. To each his/her own.

I guess I'm easy....
Just please don't go anywhere... do anything ...that's not you.
People who do these things to please others are not living their own lives.

Be yourself.
If what she likes is something you're cool with... dive in and do it.
If you must think about it ... then it's not worth it...
We are not meant to change others...
Only ourselves...

For what it's worth...;-)


peace & love~

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

14. all of the above.

I'm way cool with tattoos and beards. Piercings can be hot depending on where... though I feel like each year I grow older, I like them on guys a bit less.

[fizzgig]

15. all depends on the guy

i have all but forbidden my husband from having facial hair, but he is a furry, pokey bastard when he doesn't shave and it hurts. however, i was fine with my high school boyfriend's goatee.

piercings i could take or leave as long as it's not completely out of control. i've dated men with various piercings and others with none at all.

i don't dig on facial or neck tattoos, but i'm fine with them anywhere else. my husband has a large collection of them, some extremely absurd and they're all part of who he is.

but, honestly, looks are secondary if you have a good personality, a good sense of humor and are fun to be with.

good luck :)

[RobinA]

16. Middle Aged

I'm 53, so I don't know whether I count either, but here's my two cents. Facial hair I can take or leave, but no soul patch and nothing wispy and untrimmed. A couple unshaved days is good.

I cannot stand tatoos or piercings. Piercings on ears are OK. Nothing else. Ever. Nowhere. I used to think a tatoo, that's "a," as in one, tatoo was OK. However I am now so incredibly sick of tatoos that they are starting to make me nauseous. I might still be Ok with one, but nobody has one anymore, they have half or more of their body real estate covered.

On men my age, tatoos and piercings look particularly stupid. And they will on you, Mr. 23-year-old with both arms covered in ink.

All that being said, am I going to ditch my soul mate if he turns up with a body full of sagging tattos? Probably not. A wispy beard, yes.

[mcctatas]

17. never dated anyone with facial hair...

not sure if I'd like it or not, as for the others, yes please ;)

[seaglass]

18. Piercings - ears only, facial hair with/without doesn't matter, tattoos I think are sexy as long as

it isn't like that stupid guy with the naked spread legged woman in his armpit. There are a lot of bad tattoos out there.:scared:

[safeinOhio]

24. I'm so old I have

facial hair on my ears and nose. I think as it thins on top of your head, it sprouts else where.

[Rhythm]

19. The wasband had all three... that wasn't the problem *L*

If the art is done well, tattoos can be a plus... tats done by talentless scratchers, not so much.
Piercings aren't bad IMHO, as long as the person hasn't gone to pin-cushion extreme, or stretched their earlobes so far that Dumbo could fly through the holes.
Facial hair? It just depends... some guys look better with, others without. It's in the eye of the beholder.

However, in your position i'm not sure i'd be crazy about someone else telling me what i was/was not not allowed to do with my own body.
That's really overstepping, unless there is enough of a commitment there that you see your future with her as a long-term 'given'.

[femmocrat]

20. None of the above.

You look fine without those accoutrements! :)

[pitohui]

21. they're all pathetic if you're over 16 and pretty pathetic if you're under 16 too

i don't really like facial hair and it's kind of false advertising if you start with a guy and THEN he decides he's too old/lazy/cool to shave but whatever, i've lived this long enough to know that sooner or later every guy thinks he has to experiment with the shitty looking beards, soul patches, or what have you because i guess it proves he's a man since he has a moustache and i don't

tattoos and piercings are for losers, no hopers, and those who follow the crowd, and i have no time for that kind of male period full stop

there are still men who follow their own heart and have a mind of their own, those men don't have "tats"

as for piercings, if you're not into S/M, then a piercing is just bogus, and if you are into S/M, then she will order you to get the piercing, you don't get to poll the internet to find out if you should have a piercing

for most part, tho, tats and piercings are just sad evidence that most people can't think for themselves

how do you feel about women with piercings and tats, especially on their FACE? you know they're telling you upfront they have serious serious issues and problems...well...if you're smart enough to figure out that people disfigure themselves because they've got baggage, guess what, women can figure it out too

piercings, tats, crazy facial hair...it's how people say "i give up, i'm a loser, i'll never fit in and i won't even try to fit in," is that the message you want to send, is that the quality of mate you want to attract?

also remember, if snuggling and cuddling instead of just quick sex matters to you (apparently it doesn't matter to many people in this thread) but if it matters to YOU, then the unshaven look is painful against a woman's face or thighs, the unshaven look is a way to stop a woman from wanting to spontaneously kiss and hug you because it causes her pain and carpet burn, for lack of a better word...this is a relationship killer if you are looking for physical passion, since you've turned her off by literally being prickly to be with

[noamnety]

22. Ambivalent toward tattoos and piercings

but like others, I don't like tattoos on the face or neck.

I like a bit of beard, like 2 day stubble. It looks manly to me, whereas freshly shaven skin can look prepubescent and feel rubbery to me. I like the stubbly/short beard feel. I understand why some women think it hurts but I think it's more like having your back scratched by someone with fingernails. Some people like the sensation.

[emilyg]

23. Not too crazy about

tattoos or piercings.