After two years, two lovers break up. They have things to return to each other.

[Ilsa]

My friend wants to know why her boyfriend gave her back all the love letters she wrote him. She's pissed about it. Why did he do that? (it's been too long since I've dealt with this sort of thing. I have no idea why he did that.)

[mysuzuki2]

1. My ex-girlfriend kept my power sander.

Damn her!

[ClosureHasCome]

2. My ex kept my virginity.

[Ilsa]

4. Ages ago, a friend told me, "I wish he had kept his clap." nt

[Bucky]

10. Not according to your user name

[Gold Metal Flake]

17. Huh. Closure *has* come.

[Chan790]

3. He returned them because he thinks they probably have more sentimental value to her than to him.

that likely is also why she's pissed-off, because they have so little value to him that he'd rather not keep them. He thinks he's being nice, she thinks he's being an ass...and to their own way of thinking they're both right.

Everybody wins!!!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

13. He thinks he's being nice

weird. Guys surely think differently from women.

[undeterred]

5. The woman has the right to keep the mans sweaters if she chooses.

He will not even remember where they are, and if he does, too bad.

[mysuzuki2]

6. After we broke up, my ex still had keys to my house.

She cme in when I was gone and swiped a bunch of stuff. She left a note saying she didn't think I'd mind. Nothing really valuable. I thought that took a lot of nerve.

[TBA]

7. IMO -This is a passive-agressive way to say FU. n/t

[tainted_chimp]

8. yup.

Ouch.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. yep. she needs to burn them.

[Bucky]

9. I think he's in mourning for the relationship. The loss is too big to process.

It means he needs it to be over with. He's tired of hurting.

[seabeyond]

16. my feel, too. sensitive just in the fact he kept them. that alone tells a story.

and handing back, is breaking it.

sweet and sad.

if not, why not just the trash.

[Ilsa]

19. I'll tell her this and what Bucky said. Thanks. nt

[Chan790]

23. Why not the trash...I can answer that one.

When I got dumped by the fiance (years ago, I'm very very over it.) I threw away her letters and poems to me...when we got back together briefly it came out that I had trashed the letters which started a fight which led to our second breakup.

This is why you hold on to them until you're sure it's permanently broken-off...or you return them, that way if you do get back together you have an excuse for why you don't have them.

[seabeyond]

24. ha haha. all the ends and outs of a relationship i am totally oblivious to.

meh, too much work. i couldnt figure out why my husband was keeping all the cards over the year. made no sense to me. so years ago, i just started throwing them away for him

[Ilsa]

18. This is what I'll tell her. This and the other reply. Thanks. nt

[bluedigger]

11. Maybe he thought they contained "sensitive" information.

And by returning them she can be sure of their disposition. He could just be a nice guy. They break up, too.:shrug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

15. ?

maybe.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. .

[suninvited]

20. I had an ex send back every letter, every gift, even things

that he bought for himself while we were together.

Years later I asked him why he did that when we were speaking as friends (we never got back together). His answer : to hurt you.

He was right, I was terribly wounded when that box arrived by mail. I had given him some very special presents, but him sending back all the cards and letters I had given him hurt the most.

[Duer 157099]

21. Maybe he made a copy that he kept?

I mean, it could happen.

Personally, I would want to keep those (either as the author or recipient) so that 50 years later I could read them and remember that era in my life. Or so my children could. Or whatever. It's personal history, valuable, imho.

[Joe Fields]

22. Heh, my "supposed" girlfriend STOLE everything I had, except my clothes.

from family heirlooms to a five-hundred cd music collection, and a whole lot of other items very dear to me.

[Bryn]

25. As I see it he wants her to remember that she loved him

or he would not have kept those love letters. My ex boyfriend did that to me long time ago when I broke up with him. He wanted to remind me that I was supposed to love him.

You didn't say if he broke up with her or if she broke up with him.