It's an idea I come across so often on the internet, that I just had to comment on it. Here is a link to my blog and a quick excerpt outlining what I think would help make a guy more attractive. What do you think? Feel free to flame..lol
http://thedanarchist.blogspot.com/2011/05/nice-guys-vs-jerks-why-you-are-wrong.html"The very first thing I learned....it's going to blow your fucking mind. You ready for it? You ready to learn the secret that will change your life? Here you go....
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WOMEN ARE PEOPLE.
Fucking nuts, I know. They eat, piss, and shit like the rest of us. They pick their noses. Some of them probably even eat the stuff they pick. There are smart women, dumb women, women that probably are too good for you, women that look like they are too good for you but aren't, and women that don't deserve you. Women, like you Mr. Nice Guy, are attracted to different things, and most of them make complete sense. They tend to be attracted to people who are confident, fun, a little edgy, funny, daring, interesting, opinionated, and who have nice physiques. Look at yourself and see if you have these qualities. Women, like men, also tend to ignore bad qualities if the person has the good qualities they are looking for.
That is, they are willing to put up with Jerky behaviour, if that behaviour comes along with some other attractive qualities. If you are nice, but exhibit none of the other attractive qualities, what is the point of dating you?
Some other things I've learned....I put them in list form because people love lists. I bet you some of you actually didn't read the whole article and just skipped to this. Well, go back up and get some context....then finish reading this. Here we go:
1) Nice guys are boring as shit. Be more fun.
2)It's not about being an asshole, it's about being interesting. At least assholes are entertaining, not like boring old nice guys.
3) The key to being able to attract a women, and not be a complete douche, is to treat her well (which is NOT the same thing as being a rug she walks all over or a kiss ass), but keep an edge. Some mystery. Some independence. Some interest.
4) If you are telling her how much you like her on the first date, you are doing it wrong.
5) If you are not making your intentions clear, and instead just try to "friend her until she likes you", you are doing it wrong. She knows you are after sex and/or a relationship. Might as well be clear.
6) If you do everything she asks, not matter what it is (including compromising your principles or integrity), you are doing it wrong.
7) Being a jerk is not necessary. I'll never understand why most guys take one extreme or the other. A woman should never be treated as a goddess or as a meaningless ho. She should be treated as a person. Crazy, ain't it.
8) Don't bring flowers on a first date. Also, don't bring flavored condoms. Like I said...careful with the extremes.
9)Women don't usually bite or laugh at you when you ask them out. The worst thing most of them do if you ask for numbers is say no or give you a wrong number. Don't be so afraid of rejection.
10)Go to the gym. Excercise. Eat some vegetables. You'll feel better AND be more attractive.
11)Wash your hair. Brush your teeth. I wish I didn't have to write this stuff down but some morons just don't get it. Women aren't usually attracted to greasy haired nerds with bad breath.
12)Attracting women or men isn't about not being yourself. It's about being the best you that you can be.
13) Don't fixate on one woman. Seriously, if she is your friend, but never wants to date you, then give it the fuck up. She is probably never going to date you.
14) Don't be afraid of being a bit offensive. Women like dirty jokes just as much as we do. They also like to be teased every now and then. Women can be horrible people too, and that's why they are so much fun.
15) Okay, bring the flavored condoms just in case...just keep them out of sight."